How do you keep him from getting bored?

[Jamerz]

How do you keep your boyfriend from getting bored in a relationship? Is spending time away good? Not answer all phone calls? I just wonder what is it that guys want from a girlfriend to stay interested in her

[Marisha_Anne]

I don't have an opinion, but more of a question really. Me and my fiancé just went through a big fight (he is a recovering addict and had a major slip) two days in one week he just left, never came home from work, wouldn't answer my calls or texts.. So me and our daughter left for a week. When we came back we talked about things, he said I pushed him to what he did. Because I'm so needy I guess. He works and I am a stay at home mom. When he comes home from work I want a 'hi babe how was your day?' Along with a hug and kiss. I want affection and attention. He gets that from me but he acts like it will kill him to give it back. I always get this look and an eye roll when I ask for a kiss. It really hurts. When he comes home he literally does not have to lift a finger (other than shower himself) I know he works hard so I can stay home with our baby. But I work hard too. I don't want a thank you every day, but some sort of appreciation would be awesome!! Anyways, we were drinking beer having a talk tonight and he asks about a three some, with another girl. I told him no, I'm not comfortable with sharing him. He said what about a foursome.. Again I said no. I feel like he should not want to share me with a male or female. Then he tells me he is bored. That crushed me. This might be tmi, but this last week we have had the kinkiest, crazy sex ever. I have never been able to squirt for him an I finally did, four times in one session!! I was also able to make him get off five times in one night. He was surprised by that. So how in the hell can he be bored? What in the hell am I supposed to do? He got mad at me for telling him no to having others in our sex life. I'm the one sleeping on the couch because of this. I'm at a loss. This is the man I want to grow old with. I love him with every ounce in me!! I don't know what else to do to keep him happy. I try my hardest to keep him happy but apparently I'm not doing a good enough job. Any advice on what else I can or should do?

[MisterMan]

This sounds like a loaded question. Spending time away is good if you're getting sick of each other. But if you're getting sick of each other your relationship may not last anyway. To me spending time away means doing things for yourself like visiting family or friends, sports or because work requires it. But if you're strictly doing it to be away from him then there is a problem with your relationship.

You should absolutely answer his calls.

You have to know there may be nothing you can do to keep him interested if his eyes are lurking. But for someone who wants to maintain a relationship you have to try and keep things spiced up like Borat mentioned earlier. Whatever you did at the beginning if possible. Guys are simple, at least once we gain some sort of maturity. If you have a physical relationship then keep it frequent, and keep it exciting. Continue to date as if you just met(much easier said than done). Go to the movies, dinner, amusement parks, or whatever it is you all like to do to get out. Make him feel special. Compliment him, pamper him, and most importantly let him be a Man by doing the same for you. Also let him have his time with the fellas and don't nag him.

[Jamerz]

Thank you so much, I like that advice! we don't like to spend time away from each other, honestly we have a lot of fun together. He is like my best friend who I really like. We do a lot for each other, I just want to keep it going good, don't want it to end up like all the past relationship I have had where out of no where he stops calling or stops caring. We go out as much as we can, but money is tight. thanks again

[SupraTT]

1st of all, spending time away when you HAVE time to spend with him is NOT good

And purposely not answering calls is so slack especially when you can answer them lol

For a guy to be interested all a girlfriend needs to do is love, respect and treat him good (ie give him the attention he deserves, same thing as when girls say "he treats me good")

The rest is upto him, If he is a decent guy and finds that the girlfriend is everything he wants then that's all he needs to be interested forever. If she isn't then unfortunatly she can't keep him forcefully interested.

[SupraTT]

Oh I'm sorry I was refering to a long term relationship. Is that what you asked ???

[Jamerz]

Ya that's what I asked, thanks that's all I needed to know, some people make relationship sound like a game, do I call do I not call and it shouldnt be that hard to keep him around if he really likes me right?

[SupraTT]

Yeah ofcourse : )

[pwl0lwp]

if you've been together for a while & feeling like you're in some sort of a rut, then taking up a new activity together (that you *both* enjoy) can be a good way to spend time together with something new & exciting. so long as you're both equally interested then it can add a new dimension to the relationship & keep things fresh.

good luck

[lovesj]

it doesn't matter if he interested he would stay with you through thick and thin if he loved you

[ilike2beat]

how did you get him in the first place .once you answer that . ask youur self are you willing to go there again