I've known this guy for the past six years. We've always kinda joked around with each other but lately his words have been hurtful. Last year there was a large fall out in our friend group and false accusations against me were made, which split our friend group into two. He was on the other side of it and still very accusatory toward me.
Regardless, we've still been pretty civil with each other until recently. He's always made fun of me, and usually I don't think much of it since it's typically about stuff that has no actual meaning. But a few weeks ago, he started a large argument in between us in public about the falling out and essentially uprooted everything from last year. Unfortunately, anyone mentioning the drama from last year cuts deep since one of my family members attacked me for something I didn't do. He doesn't know my side, but he essentially yelled at me to tell him when we were surrounded by a lot of people who I don't need in my personal life or hearing my trauma.
That day was already shitty for me, so I left for a few minutes to quite literally have a mental breakdown in my car before I came back, and then he acted like it never happened.
Since then, he's gone back to making fun of me for nonsense things. But recently, he had the genius idea to start telling me to "use my words," since usually whenever anyone makes fun of me I don't always respond, especially if I'm not in the best mood.
He does this to me all the time, but it hurts. There's a reason that I don't react when people make fun of me and that connects to past trauma. I feel like he can tell that it bothers me when he does it. My whole demeanor changes and he just finds it hilarious.
I just want it to stop. I don't want to be reminded of past trauma, and he just thinks of all of this shit as a joke. I know he doesn't know that the "use my words" comment is connected to something, but regardless, given my reactions I feel as if he should have the common sense to drop it.
