How Can I Get Guys To Stop Staring At My Chest?

Question

I am a pretty small person, about 5'5" and weigh about 125 pounds, so my boobs look very big compared to the rest of me. I wear, I would say pretty modest shirts to hide my 32 DDs, but sometimes yes I do have cleavage. Having cleavage is just unavoidable. But having guys stare at my chest and ask about my boobs is pretty much the most annoying thing. I know they are going to ask about my boobs at some point, but I do not want that to be the sole purpose of a guy talking to me.

(One guy started a conversation with me: "So you have pretty big boobs." Uh? Total turnoff, thanks for pointing out the obvious).

So my question is how do I get guys to stop staring and stop asking to see my boobs? And how do I know if I guy really likes me and not just my boobs? I want a guy who likes me for me and my boobs!

gonyr · Accepted Answer

I had a question "why do girls hate when we stare at cleavage?" lol

i guess I can understand why that would be annoying after a while, its not like its something you can control

they sound like very impressive ones indeed!

ok ill stop and be serious

I feel like its something you'll have to live with. A lot of guys may look when they aren't actually gonna approach you, and some nicer guys may notice but when they approach you actually keep their eyes up. But its always gonna be something we all notice. We are naturally geared to notice it and we always will be. a guy is gonna approach you, not because of your boobs, but because he finds you attractive. the boobs will definitely play into that though, and may be a major reason why they do. So I say (and take it with a grain of salt because I'm a guy) embrace it. its a power you'll always have over us all.

sovetskii13 · Accepted Answer

Boys will be boys. All men are programmed to be attracted, and notice big breasts. One thing I want to suggest is this: Try to get their focus/attention onto another part of your body by making it stand out more. For example: Have long hair, and wear your hair down... maybe add some curls. Play with you hair when just sitting, not doing much. Flip your hair from one side to another. Next, makeup. Don't wear bold/thick eyeshadow. Guys don't like that. Some black eyeliner will drag attention to your eyes. Extend your eyelashes with a special brush. Wear high heels and/or stockings/tights.

kasiecakes · Accepted Answer

Your life must be so hard. Hahaha, I know a million girls (namely me) who would love some giant knockers! My suggestion to you would be to wear full coverage bras that hold down your breasts, making them appear a little smaller. Invest in some cowl neck sweaters and tops that flow over the breast area. Long term, you could always get a reduction to keep guys less distracted, but I think having big boobs are a plus. Try and make sure guys are looking into your eyes when talking to you and not down at your chest.  The quickest way to be sure that a guy is sincere is if he doesn't make any sort of move to touch you intimately.  For now, enjoy the attention!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have the same boobs, but I'm shorter.

All guys will like your boobs, let's face it. I mean, if they are interested in you that is. As you get older, they will care about more than boobs, trust me, but they will always love them.

Just see if he treats you like a person or only for your boobs. At your age the guys will probably mostly focus on just the boobs sorry to say, I went through that at your age

smokahontas · Accepted Answer

wear something like this

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Buy this shirt on Amazon and then wear it!

zeitgeist057 · Answer

I'm sorry to say, but it's highly likely that any guy who really likes you is probably heavily influenced by your boobs, just given your description of your issue, it sounds like they have a gravitational pull.

How Can I Get Guys To Stop Staring At My Chest?

I'm sorry for your issue, but I see two solutions. One is to start dressing very concealing, with sweatshirts, &c. The other is to just own it and go ahead and show them off, but blatantly ignore anyone giving them attention or go the other way and call them out/embarrass them publicly about it. Which honestly sounds stressful. Both sound stressful. If someone asks to see your boobs, just say no. I would do the same thing if people constantly asked to see my dick.

As for a guy who will like you for you (and your boobs, as part of you, of course), I think you just have to wait and see. There should be plenty of guys who will appreciate you for your other qualities, you just have to filter out the boob magnetized ones for now.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You can't get guys to stop staring at them or asking about them, but you can know whether or not a guy genuinely loves you and not just part of you.

When it happens it will be obvious, he will still fixate on your boobs because all straight men love boobs (and if he likes you as a person, he will love yours even more), but you will have his attention, he will laugh at your jokes, agree with you on important stuff, share your dreams/goals/aspirations, and share your hobbies and interests.

He'll do thoughtful things for you, he'll care for you when you're sick or tired, entertain you when you're bored, comfort you when you're lonely, help you solve problems that you're stuck on. And in general just show concern and attentiveness to your well being.

Its actually really obvious when someone loves you, but you have to give all of that back in return to keep them feeling that way (including obsessing over their body). And you have to let your guard down long enough for that kind of trust and companionship to form. It is not an overnight thing to love someone, its something that grows after years of time together as friends.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

My ex-fiance is 5' 3', about 135 lbs. and at least a C cup, probably 34 or 36 but, most of the time, you couldn't even tell she HAD tits! She always wore loose-fitting tops that were a tad on the thick side and the only time she wore a bra was when she had to work (she was a waitress at a fairly high-class restaurant) and, even then, in her work clothes, you still could hardly tell she had any tits.
As for the guy that starts out saying, 'So, you've got big tits." You need to retort, "So, you've got a tiny brain." Guys like that aren't worth it! Can he GET more shallow and immature?
As for guys staring at your tits, that's just what we're wired for. Tits are there to attract mates. Back when we were walking on all fours, it was your ass we were attracted to. When we started walking erect, your ass was no longer in our immediate eye-line so, you started growing tits to replace the ass as an attractor. Except for the the nipples and their location, they look just like ass. So, it's just perfectly natural for guys to stare at tits and we don't even know why! If a stick with tits walked into a room, we'd still stare!! We JUST like the way they look! They're quite pretty to us! Nothing we can do about that.
However, a quick look at them is usual but, a guy that just stares at them constantly is NOT a good thing and makes HIM a lower-class twit!!
Other than finding some way to hide them, I don't know what else you can do. Maybe get fake silicone tits bigger than what you have and wear those all the time and let everyone know they're fakes and the guys, knowing they're not YOUR tits, won't bother to look at them, anymore. Eventually, they'll stop looking and you can just go back to your own girls.

Anonymous · Answer

That’s so uncomfortable I can’t believe there’s people that actually do that.

You’d have to dress in such a way that you don’t look attractive at all. Or relocate if you can, sometimes it/ just the type of people you’re around with.

I don’t normally get people in general to say some disrespectful or awkward things like that but there’s this one guy who was staring at my ass few days ago and then told me I should go hide or else someone was going to rob me.
I laughed it off like hehe but felt really uncomfortable and icky

I know people always look at me and that alone sometimes can feel uncomfortable but they don’t always comment so it’s like whatever mostly so I do tent do dress very covered up because it’s feels ewky for people to keep staring.

It sucks we have to dress unappealing to avoid stares.

Why can’t people just look and that’s all not state or say anything

If they comment you look nice 👍 alone would be super! We all like to be admired but not listed over.

We only want to be listed over by our boyfriend or husband that’s the truth for most of us really so if any guys out there reading this, admire someone’s beauty or sexiness but don’t stare or say rude comments. Look and compliment is the nicest thing you can do and make someone feel awesome for the rest of the day!

WhatIsWrongWithYall · Answer

1) these replies are horse shit. I hope you are not actually listening to some of the things these dudes say.
2) ‘boys will be boys’ should not excuse making girls feel uncomfortable about their body. It should not excuse misogynistic behavior.
3) no, men are not ‘programmed’ to look at a girl’s chest if she happens to be bigger in the chest area. A lot of guys say that to excuse shitty behavior. It’s a lie. I’m a guy who likes girls and I couldn’t give less of a shit about a girls chest size. Not all men are the same
4) be assertive. Let him know what he’s doing isn’t right. If his eyes drift lower than your face at any point, call him out and maybe spill his drink if he gets pissy. It’s your body being leered out like a piece of meat, not his. You’re not being irrational. You don’t need to change, and some guys just need their behavior checked + need to relearn how to behave around women.
5) I can’t imagine it’s very flattering for guys to stare at you or talk to you for this reason. I’m sorry on the behalf on men lol
6) you’ll find a guy who will both romantically and physically attracted to you (the respectful way). You just have to sort through the trash to find him if you haven’t already.

Good luck.

Daniela1982 · Answer

The only lasting way to keep a guy from looking at your boobs is a breast reduction. But something insides me wants to say : When girls get dressed up with lots of cleavage showing on purpose, would they be offended if guys DIDN'T look?  LOOK! NOT LOOK 🤔

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Biologically, those boobs are there to get guys to ask about your boobs. They are meant to draw attention. But I guess you could wear really baggy clothes, with a big poofy jacket.

You could wear a hotdog suit and then ask guys why they are staring at your Weiner.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

(Yes, I know, an older question, but the user is still active)

The girls at my former employer and current customers that are more on the „equipped“ 🤭 side use strategically placed shawls and scarves. Mostly made from silk or something that is not too warm. It took me a while to make the connection! 😂

red324 · Answer

Try to wear something that's not revealing. Obviously don't wear a pushup bra. I am sure that make bras that make them look smaller. In my opinion though I think it's a good way to weed out the perverts from the good guys who might actually want to know you for who you are.

HiveBee · Answer

There is nothing you can do.

I don't know why dudes just walk up to you and ask you about your tits. To me that's insane. To me that makes zero sense.

That is not a normal person. That is a creepy weirdo.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Meet better men. That's really it, it's more a men problem, and you're always gunna get stares. (Hell, I'd probably stare too. Everyone stares at things they find attractive, it's just natural)

Anonymous · Answer

So you have pretty big boobs eh?  Don't you find them a hassle when you go jogging or swimming? Well most guys would like you for your boobs and then you.. p:

DannyUk2017 · Answer

How Can I Get Guys To Stop Staring At My Chest? Smack the life out of them and tell them... : My eyes are Up Here NOT down there...😂😂😂

manora007 · Answer

You can't get guys to stop admiring your beautiful rack.  If you can't stop it, enjoy it.

Chewy______ · Answer

If you're asking men to stop looking at women's chests, you might as well try and chip away the Great Wall of China with a nail file. Some things aren't going to change.

tfan1 · Answer

Wear a custom shirt that says “Don’t ask me about these if you want a relationship with me” 🙂

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Wear loose top or jacket if ur serious and again i think ur just bragging about how amazing ur breast are 😶😑😐

scooogy · Answer

Make a shirt with a print of your ex's genitals on the chest part and reveal it whenever some guy is staring.

Iron_Man · Answer

unless you wear a large jacket You can’t they have free will

clampfan101 · Answer

Unfortunately I think that’s up to the guys. But there are still good men in the world.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmmmm.😆😆😆

butterly248 · Answer

Lol this question is over a year old

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Wear shit that shows less cleavage

jjj101010 · Answer

Hard to stop it completely

Moloch · Answer

Wear turtlenecks.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm interested. Are you single?

In_Trance · Answer

You can't

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