Is it a bad sign if he avoids eye contact?

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Sorry for the long story but I hope you can help me a bit 😂: So I like this guy and and we've been friends for about a year but I dont see him often. I know he's a really shy and calm person so I usually try to initiate a conversation first and yesterday I even tried to flirt a bit at a party (im really shy too but I tried my best lol) . The problem is we can have nice conversations and he laughs at my jokes etc. but HE WON'T LOOK AT ME when we talk 😭 he almost looks in the opposite direction while talking. So now i wonder if he doesn't like me/thinks im ugly or if it's just him being shy. I'm really confused and its the first time that i really like a guy like this.

Guys, How should I interpret this behavior?

Guys, How should I interpret this behavior?

melaninmuffin · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't try so hard to intercept his behavior. If you want to the only way is be confident and ask him. I have a similar problem with a new guy I been talking to. He doesn't look me in the eyes too often but he doesn't I'll just flirt and say "why are you not looking at me? I wanna see your eyes when your talking to me. I like looking someone in eyes when I'm interested and talking to them." I say something like that and it makes him wanna look at me since I'm being straightforward. But he's mostly like shy or that's his way of talking to you. I'm sure he doesn't think your ugly girl.

Fitness-Fanatic · Accepted Answer

I'd assume he's avoiding eye contact because he's shy , and self-conscious about himself. The more time he spends around you, the less self-conscious he'll feel. So gradually he'll become more comfortable looking at you during a convo.

wadeabeee · Accepted Answer

Don't interpret it, ask why he's looking away!!! I look away from a girl I like if she makes unreasonably faces that make me nervous or if she looks at me in a way that confuses me. If I don't understand what a woman is saying by their facial expressions I automatically resort to the conclusion that they dislike me or think somethong bad about me and don't want me to be talking to them. I have a constant fear of people not wanting me to be around, and honestly it's the worst when combined with a girl that won't say what she's thinking.

SamThyMan · Accepted Answer

definitely shy, here's a way to know for sure (also maybe tease him a bit). Challenge him to a staring contest and bet maybe a drink or lunch or anything small but would allow the 2 of you to hang out. If he starts getting fidgety or his pupils start shaking/looking around during the staring contest that means he's shy/attracted to you

nonladiesman · Answer

Some people are just not good at making eye contact, possibly because they are afraid of allowing themselves to be rejected. When they look for eye contact, or allow themselves to make eye contact there is a certain intimacy that goes with it. He probably does like you but is afraid to allow himself to seek eye contact as a way of protecting himself from the rejection he fears. I know this from experience because I am TERRIBLE at making eye contact and I am in exactly the same situation with a woman I am interested in, but I am the one that has trouble with making eye contact but she seems to offer it when we talk. I am also quite reserved/shy, as is she. He probably analyzes every interaction you and him have, 10 times a day, that's what I do. He is not sure if you are interested in him so he lacks the confidence to allow himself to allow that intimacy that comes with eye contact. The only reason I have been able to make any progress on my side of it is by being intentional about eye contact. I know that it is a short coming of mine, so can recognize when I am doing it. I wish I could give you advise about what to do, but I don't even know how I can make my own situation play out the way I want. Just keep doing what you are doing, maybe do it a little more, unless you see stuff, other than the eye contact thing alone, that tells you to go somewhere else. Give him attention, help him understand that you are talking to him because you want to talk to him specifically and not because he just happens to be the nearest living person to interact with. Help him understand that your kindness towards him is because of your interest in him, rather than you just being nice in general.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Nice conversations doesn't build attraction, flirting does! This is why you are still friends after a year. You both probably friendzoned each other lol but you can still try for more if you're willing to step it up!

Next time he isn't looking at your eyes and he's staring down shyly as shy guys do, fuck with him by saying "Hey! Were you just staring at my boobs! Then when he freaks out getting apologetic say "Ah just messing with you! I'd be doing the same!" and playfully hit him so he knows you're flirting.

Or when he's looking down shyly again, lift his chin up with a finger or two and smile directly into his eyes. If you wanna be really brave you follow that up with a kiss!

rdubwilkins · Answer

You're young so I assume he is too. It's definitely a sign of SOMETHING, but I can't say for sure what. I can tell you it's extremely unlikely it's due to your looks. In all honesty, it's likely he is young and inexperienced like you are and is nervous. He likely knows, or at least has an idea that you're interested in him. Perhaps he is as well and engaging into intamacey is new, and anxiety filled. Maybe he really values you, but just as a friend and is scared to hurt your feelings. It could be so many things, but honestly I know you are shy, but the best way to deal with this is to just tell him that you are attracted to him. Be honest and open and be willing to accept his answer, whatever it may be.

AzuraHD · Answer

2 interpretations, one. he feels that he hasn't earned your respect and feels responsible. and feels he has earned to give you eye contact. two. he likes you a lot because of the description you gave use, him being a "shy"type of guy, think your really pretty and doesn't know how to he bold and just look at you.

"how can I approach him and how do I know ow what he's feeling and thinking?"
you gotta be straight forward the only way to figure it out. you gotta tell him, you love him or like-like him. and ask him, "why do you not look at me, I feel that you dislike me, do you feel uncomfortable, do you want me to leave?"this step is the revealing step. just ask him with honestly, cuz you do really want to know. hope this will help, just message me what happens after you've talked to him. I love, live stories, I do get people together all the time, just trust me one this.

NearlyNapping · Answer

Some people just don't make eye contact. You can't assume he doesn't like you because of that reason. Nor can you assume anything else because of it. For someone shy, not making eye contact might mean the opposite, that he DOES like you. But you can't assume that either.

Leafpool2 · Answer

He may just not like eye contact. I never have, it makes me feel uncomfortable, but I've gotten into the habit of looking at people's foreheads and stuff so most people are none the wiser. That's taken me a while to get in the habit of though. Likely he doesn't notice he's doing it.

infp_libra_78 · Answer

It has nothing to do with your looks. It's just bad/ awkward behaviour. If you like him, call him out on it. Just bluntly. I was and am still somewhat shy. Having a girl put it out there what she needs is hot! Just say "《insert name》, look at me. Pause. Could always say you like to see his eyes.

msaric22 · Answer

He's clearly very shy, and it'd be easy to assume he's inexperienced with girls since he's even scared to look at you. But if you have the guts, grab him by the face and make him look you dead in the eye, and ask him 😀

Delarobia · Answer

I mean if it's just avoiding eye contact like looking around but still facing you or will looking away when you look then he's probably just shy. If he's doing a 180 looking at other girls he's probably not interested.

shephardjhon · Answer

I have the same problem. I can't make eye contact. Didn't know it was this big a problem with women.
If he still stays with you for that long, it is a good sign. Best idea is to tell him how you feel, including about the eye contact. If he runs away, you already said you don't usually like men like that. If he doesn't, you now KNOW he likes you.

TallJamaican1991 · Answer

His eye contact problem is related to his shy behavior. He is most likely socially awkward as well, but you can only assume that unless you've noticed he doesn't give other people consistent eye contact either. Right now, what you do know is that he is willing to talk to you. He's allowing you to play a part in his life. Let your feelings be known to him and see how he responds. Perhaps that will be the start to a beautiful relationship.

naabj3 · Answer

I think he is just really shy. If he wouldn't like you he wouldn't contact you or what so ever. I sometimes have this aswell, that i just can't look in the eyes. I don't know why haha.

jus_chill · Answer

If he's shy and you are not around each other often, then it's normal. He may not even be continuous of it! If he avoids eye contact with everyone then it becomes even more obvious that's it's just the shyness!

Charmes · Answer

Intrepit it as a sign of closure that he does like you and you're better off living on your own quit bothering guys for attention it ugly and just plain creepy in particular if you do it in front of others they will judge you and him both so please stop with the none sense and leave it up to me thanks girls I can't deal with guys because we don't speak the same language I tend to be more serious than the average person. m ☺️☺️☺️.

MrEmpowerment · Answer

Sometimes guys are shy and can't maintain eye contact. Especially with a beautiful girl they are interested in. Personally... these guys are either diamonds in the rough or people who are not relationship material. If he's over the age of 23... It's probably a red card.

v851234 · Answer

Judging by your profile picture, you are gorgeous, I think he is just shy.

d_e141 · Answer

Well. If he tries to avoid you in conversations and runs away every time you see each other or when he spots you from far. Don't bother yourself. In the other case if he's shy then you need to go easy with him step by step until he gets comfortable with you around him and things will go on from then

Payds · Answer

I would think it could just be a psychological thing. I know a few of MY OWN friends that behave like this. On the off chance that he doesn't find you attractive, I'm sure you would know. Us dudes don't normally want to talk to a girl that we have a distaste for. And it could also depend on what kind of a guy he is. Maybe the best way to figure out what the answer is would be to just pose the question and ask if he's still a bit shy of you.

LoudShorty · Answer

Very simple, either he is so shy he finds d it scary to look at you straight on (that's my case, so I'd know) Or, he's just not interested, but doesn't know how to tell you

Pacha091101 · Answer

He is probably just shy and you may be using too much eye contact

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