How oblivious are you when it comes to flirting?

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CaptainOverthink · Accepted Answer

I don't rightly know.
I know a lot of guys that openly admit that they can't tell if people are flirting with them, that they always assume it's not flirting.
And I sort of admire that, because I am the opposite. I always assume it's flirting which puts me in weird situations. Usually with almost everything else I stay open-minded, but not with this. It always makes me nervous and I feel like I can't be myself. I can't think. With this I always get it into my head that somehow I know it to be true but I don't. My intuition tells me it is so, but that's just a feeling, how much do I trust it? Not completely, I must find balance between intuition and the more grounded ways of thinking. Not sure how though.

Slim57 · Accepted Answer

So oblivious I come off as an asshole. Girl cashier at the movies as all my friends walk off: "Hey I really hope you enjoy the movie" *starts asking me more questions about it wanting to talk* Me: "Yeah. Thanks. You too."

The_FallenOne · Accepted Answer

Well since I'm not most attractive girl in the world I take all "flirting" as being nice.
Like usually the guy is extreamly attractive so I rationalize to myself "he's just being nice, no one that attractive would ever go for someone average like me." And I'm okay with that.
You think I'm insecure? Well, I'm not. I just accept the truth. We live in the real world and wether you think my statement is like self hate or not it's the truth. That's just how the world works.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

They basically have to tell me, "Yeah, I'm flirting with you..." or it goes over my dense head, LOL.
Yet I can tell when people are flirting with my friends or other people... don't ask me how that works.

I just assume guys are being nice to me or have no interest in me.

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I’m not obvious. I flirt naturally to the point where I don’t know if I’m flirting for not.

Anonymous · Answer

Too oblivious.

I have 0 experience when it comes to dating and in looks I'd say I look below average if I have to rate myself. 😅 A few years ago I used to go to a tuition where there was a really beautiful girl. So beautiful, I couldn't even imagine being in a relationship with her. One time this girl was trying really hard to make small talk with me. I used to be very shy around girls back then so I tried to keep the conversation as straight forward as possible. After a few days of simple friendship she asked me out for a movie. 😶 And stupid me, I rejected the invitation thinking she was just messing with me because, who the hell would ask ME out? 😆 Well, the friendship stayed friendship after that. Months after that through a mutual friend of ours, I found out she really was into me. Or used to be, because by this time she'd started dating another guy. 😐😬

So that's how oblivious I am when it comes to flirting. 😂

404notfound · Answer

i have a low self esteem so i'm supper oblivious
but at the same time it makes me less nervous to make myself believe he's just being friendly
so i just act friendly but not flirty towards the guy and if the guys asks me out/ asks for my phone number at the end then I have time to brace myself and my anxiety for the date if we ever go on one

DJB72 · Answer

Looking back, I think there were one or two girls in my past who I should have tried more with because they were flirting with me. But I had no clue at the time.

I look now and wonder if I'm being flirted with or if the girl is just being friendly.

Basically I'm totally oblivious.

Myk13 · Answer

I’ve always tried to be nice to everybody. I guess there is a fine line between being nice and flirting. I know when I flirt and it’s not the same to me. I would think, if you are not flirted with often or regularly, you might confuse the two. Either way I guess I don’t get it. But I sure as hell know when somebody is flirting with me! 😏

bulletbob555 · Answer

Some times yes sometimes no. I hate it when I get home and it hits me. Women know but sometimes men don't always know. That's why men Wil start pleading with their girlfriend... No she wasn't flirting with me we were just talking. Sometimes we know, some times I can get some of the subtle hints, other times I'm blind to it all,

AlienParasite · Answer

I'm very slow. I tend to recognize subtle flirting hours or days after it happened. In the moment is happening I tend to think is just a friendly conversation.

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

Sometimes I'm aware a guy is flirting , but I never assume he's interested in me based on him flirting. I just assume he flirts with all girls.

BellumEtPacem · Answer

I love this meme so much. Thank you. :), as far as flirting goes , I don't intentionally flirt. Being nice is just a first instinct of mine.

JSmuve · Answer

I'm not necessarily oblivious. I'm just never sure if they're intending on being friendly or flirty. I just assume friendly so I don't embarrass myself.

bubbatxman · Answer

I was completely clueless as a HS and College student. But, I’m much more astute as an adult!

jellyroo · Answer

I always tend to assume it's just being nice, unless they say some extremely obvious.

Someguynamedbob · Answer

Women don’t know how to flirt, they are too subtle, most dudes are too stupid to pick up on these subtle hints me included

SelfishGuy · Answer

I always assume they are being nice. Keeps me off being side tracked.

Angie_sa · Answer

People think I am flirting with them but I am really not I am just friendly

Anonymous · Answer

I think I’m more oblivious to when I’m flirting with others than when they are flirting with me lol 😅 Downside of having a flirty personality I guess.

Chuck9z · Answer

I would know if somebody was flirting with me a When my wife was alive she tell me somebody was flirting with me and let's say no Just talking. Goes to show what I know.

GreasedUpGuitarist · Answer

She almost has to kiss me for to get the message. I just assume she's nice until proven otherwise. It's bad😂

hellacray · Answer

Very oblivious? Tbh I just don't think girls have really flirted with me... I think...

ultimega · Answer

So oblivious that its funny.  One time this guy winked at me and asked him if he's okay and if he had something in his eye.

beebella · Answer

It depends. Sometimes it's really easy to tell, but other times I can't tell if someone is being nice to me bc they find me attractive.

DakotaNorth · Answer

Not obvious enough. But I'm trying. Oh hey! Money just came in. I have to spell it out for Michael that I'm taking him on a date.

markjohn9696 · Answer

i thought this meme is used on arab world only lol apart from meme i have had girl on English course was jokimg with me and start conversation with me so i didn't know whether this flirting or normal

Kenni · Answer

Lol I'm really not oblivious. It's too obvious for me

computergeek357 · Answer

I was told I could be sitting next to a woman naked and miss the signs, so I suppose that must mean pretty darn dense

Gottabsavagee · Answer

Lol nah you feel it when they are just nice or when they actually like you.

Aenetoo · Answer

I'm oblivious. A girl needs to get on her knees and unzip my pants before I get it.

thatgui57000000 · Answer

I am 100% this picture actually

tartaarsaus · Answer

I'm oblivious to nearly everything happening around me. I tend to be in my own world

JohnBoinka · Answer

Not Really... I always AWARE of the SURROUNDING FIRST before approaching any Females...

Lucky7Sins · Answer

Very Oblivious 😂 looking back at messages that are over a year old and only just realising they was flirting 😅

lernulo · Answer

As blatant as necessary, I dont feel any kind of guilt for flirting with a woman.

EarthFairy7 · Answer

I'm quite oblivious, unless they make it really obvious.

handyman129 · Answer

Fairly. I can never tell if it is more that just playful fun or... lets make out

TheAceholeSupreme666 · Answer

Unless your are blatant and direct, I'm clueless. Subtlety has never been my strong suit.

chrisbigman · Answer

Quite. Unless she's quite obvious to the point that she's touching me.

Hydoa · Answer

Very Its really hard for me to tell when someone is flirting with me.

Satine20 · Answer

Very oblivious... by default I tend to just assume that they are just being nice to me...

bigfishtank · Answer

I just put up a question related to flirting. Does that answer your question?

Dark93 · Answer

Im horrible at recognizing obvious signs of flirting in person, online I can be a decent flirter

Love_feet6969 · Answer

I can't hide it when I'm flirting. Standing there smiling like a idiot

SwagsMcBags · Answer

I always assume she's just being nice. No reason to think otherwise.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm legitimately the most oblivious person I know. It took a guy I'm friends with physically asking me out to realize that he liked me.

StingRayxoxo · Answer

100%

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I'm a oblivious potato so pretty extreme.

11dog22 · Answer

I seen this show to this pic! I can’t recall name.

tourettesfree1 · Answer

So oblivious it’s not funny

Piteka5 · Answer

That images describes my life

grega239 · Answer

could tell if it hit me in the fce

ThatCatPuma · Answer

I'm bad. I think. Not sure since I can never tell.

totallygeneric · Answer

wHaT's fLiRtiNg?

Bl4ckSpyrit · Answer

I'm that obvios i forget i'm doin it

athena223 · Answer

I catch on very quick

Chaz269 · Answer

How would I know?

GingerGuy · Answer

totally

Salmon4056 · Answer

I can tell usually

ImagineSketchy · Answer

Like abnormally

Jesslin412 · Answer

So bad!!!

Just_A_Guy2018 · Answer

I don't.

ROCKS128 · Answer

Very much!😂😂😂😂

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