hmmmm my friend does this a lot. she's wants love and affection but won't open up and do those things that involve emotion. She would like somebody and when she found out that they liked her she would shut down and stop talking to them. She told me it was because she wanted love but she was too scared to get hurt.
if thats the case then i would tell you, people are always going to hurt, but that doesn't mean that pain is necessarily bad, it happens for a reason and i promise you there will always be love and affection for you in life, opening up and letting yourself feel love and affection also means you have to feel pain. but i promise you, it will hurt less than never opening yourself up. At the end of the day, people regret the things they didn't do more then the things they did. :), because you learn from the things you do
But I don't know if you are the same situation, why do you think you do this?
Yes and the reason is exact opposite, that's because I don't want relationships on name of love & affection & whatever you call that fake shit, I love being alone and I like to have friends but when they start "liking", it makes me cringe coz I hate that complexity made out of simple things & I hate to feel guilty for them
That is strange - The first thought is something may have happened to you but since you don't specifically mention we will discount it, next I think it could be a trust issue - Do you trust that the intentions of the other person are real, could they be playing you or are they coming on strong just to hook up or if it happens they might not invest as much as you. What happens if I give a lot and get hurt.
The greatest protection is to isolate yourself but is it worth it - Like they say if you are not in, you can't win - Love can hurt like hell but also can be hugely rewarding as well.
Actually I kind of do. I desperately want a relationship, but whenever I find out someone likes me, I often can't help but think, "Why me? You can do so much better than me." I also often think "How will I f*ck it up this time?" I guess I just have that little self-respect.
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Next time someone tells you they have feelings for you, make it clear about what you like and hate in a relationship. Since you wish to be in a relationship yet you don't like affection and sexual stuff, it probably means you need someone who understands you and supports you rather than someone who is interested in you sexually. Get a cat or dog, helps with the loneliness.
i cringe when its from the guys im not into and still want a relationship with the one i like
Kind of. I’ll be thinking what’s wrong with them lol or hoping that it’s not just a joke like what happend to me one time
I sometimes do because I never had anyone genuinely confess to me and I guess I thought of myself as unlikable.
Well I am single too. Sometimes I Feel lonely too. I want a girlfriend whom I can text all the day, Care and protect her, love her whole of my life
Never try understanding a woman, there's no point.
girls dont even understand themselves
Yeah sometimes lol
No I get worried and nervous.
Are you asexual? Or just not in a great place?
l have never felt like that
No I love intimacy in all forms.
Nope
You’re cute 😉
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