Am I wrong to ask my boyfriend to see his phone?

[Anonymous]

like I told him he could look through mines at any time but just once and I would do the same...so I let him see my phone and I have guy friends and in the messages didn't have anything bad..but he was like you have a lot of guy friends and I said " yea, they are just my friends and you have me and I would never hurt you like that" and then I hugged him up and then I asked him " so babe I wanna see your phone too since you saw mines" and he didn't wanna show me it...like he made excuses and said that I could have deleted messages etc.which is not true I didn't even get anytime to do that cause my phone was on the table and I just picked it up and gave him it an watched my phone with him him not letting me view his phone no

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I told him to choose anyday but only once to ask and check my phone sooooooooo I didn't get to delete anything...i then proceeded to ask him to let me check his phone now and he wouldn't let me...he kept trying to say I deleted something

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and kept trying to put it off by asking why I have so myuch guy friends

[LiveforPeace]

I understand where your boyfriend is coming from. I do the exact same thing with my girlfriend. I trust her and never go through her phone, messages, pictures, etc. She's often complained about me not letting her see my phone. I don't have anything BAD on my phone, it's just that I feel she doesn't trust me/she's trying to be the FCC of my phone. I like to keep conversations between me and my friends personal, we don't talk about anything bad...its just I lose a sense of PRIVACY when she asks to see my phone. I don't know, I just think that one's personal item (such as a phone) doesn't need to be checked or whatever by a significant other unless a good reason surfaces such as she needs to call someone or just wants to look at my pictures because we take a lot together. Just asking "can I see your phone?" implies an untrustworthy personality.

[Asker]

yea thts true ..i love your answer :)

[Anonymous]

I think his worry stems from the fact that YOU brought up this idea so at any point before you mentioned the idea to him you could've deleted any bad/inappropriate messages. He, on the other hand, is left with no possible time to delete anything.

[Asker]

no read my question...i gave him it on a day he asked to..cause I told him to choose anyday but only once to ask and check my phone sooooooooo I didn't get to delete anything...and when I asked him to let me see his ...he got me suspicious by being ludacris and saying I deleted stuff and I didn't get a chance to do tht AT ALL

[hunnie-bunches]

If you don't pay his bill then hell no he shouldn't let you see it.You shouldn't let him see yours if he doesn't pay your bill.If cheating is what your'e worried about then believe me a gut feeling goes along way you will get more signs of cheating by instinct then by looking at some text messages.Looking in anything of his without permission or with is a viloation of privacy and if I have to let someone look at my phone and purse or wallet to verify if I'm not cheating then I will find someone who isn't as insecure.Next you'll want to sniff his crotch when he comes home.

[Anonymous]

yeah one guy who dated my best friend kept looking through her phone and she got mad, it was like he didn't trust her and wanted to control her. After a year of dating she dumped him. so yeah, you should just trust your guy and you should just tell him to trust you like you did. good luck

[BoopBoopBeep]

You're not wrong to ask. He's not wrong for laughing at you afterwards. You're not looking in my phone. I have conversations in there from the past 10 years, many of which occurred in confidence and are none of your business

[Cypher17]

You have the right to ask but if he doesn't show you its his choice. You have the same option , but as long as you trust him than you shouldn't worry .