Should I send a shirtless pic to flirt back (within context)? Is this douchey, or fair?

[Anonymous]

I am not that experienced with sexting and text flirting, always been an in person kind of guy. But corona is forcing me to... Been talking to this drop dead gorgeous girl for the last few weeks who seems to be into me. I like her and want to generate sexual attraction. She occasionally sends me pictures of herself, nothing that crazy. Yesterday she sent me a sexy picture of herself in a bikini. I responded "Damn you are fine!" which she liked. I am a decent looking guy who takes care of his body. Is it fair to send her a shirtless selfie or is that still a bit douchey?

[Knuxx]

If she didn't ask for something like that person specifically wouldn't do it.
1) Outside of using sign language, I don't know how your going to flirt with your body bro.
2) More serious: if she didn't ask for a picture of you without your shirt You are better off asking her if she wants one and even still I think it's a bad idea.

[Twinrova]

[Nicolette777]

I don’t understand these comments saying it’s risky and not to. I honestly don’t think it is. If you pretty fit shirtless (and not pudgy) and you’ve been talking for a while and she sent you a pic in a bikini, of course it’s fine. She’ll probably like it. It’s only shirtless. Just don’t send her a dick pic.

[mrfoox]

If she sent you an bikini picture already, I think it's a fine idea, not too risky. As long as you don't write something too macho like 'check out these guns babe!' or whatever 😂
You've both been doing some flirting back and forth already it should not be a problem

[Anonymous]

Send her a picture of you in swim trunks; and say "Wishing I was at the beach with you."

[Asker]

Haha love it

[Mickey9999]

My opinion is in the middle. Do it in a casual way. Don’t muscle pose like the pic accompanying your question. Posing like that is fishing for compliments. Shirtless pic beats an unsolicited dick pic any day lol

[Miss_G]

Yer but if she is sending him pictures then surely she must be open to him sending one too? Although I think all this sexting is too much too soon anyway

[Secret6620]

Don't do it... Just don't do it man... Trust me on this one 🎀

[Asker]

Could you explain why you think its a bad idea? Just that it comes across as douchey?

[Secret6620]

If she hasn't asked for a picture then she probably doesn't want one... Most girls who are interested will say"I wish I could see you" "I want to hear your voice"

[angiebangie]

It will make you look like you're chasing too hard and she'll feel like she has you wrapped around her finger.

[emmily2396]

You can. Tell her something like the pandemic messed with your exercise routine and use the pic as "proof". I think it is safer this way.

[emmily2396]

Or pretend you are sending that to a friend and you sent it to her instead by accident (her name and your friend's name start similarly or something like that)

[Nicolette777]

That’s a good idea. Make it seem like there is a reason you’re doing it.

[fadingmind]

If she sent a bikini pic first I think she could like it. I might be wrong though.

[Thatsamazing]

It's fine. As long as you're not the only one doing it.

[honestGUY45]

For now, her opinion is the only one that should matter to you.

[Iron_Man]

Bad idea you look like a player and they think you probably do that with all girls

[devil_8888]

Don’t think that’s a good idea...

[Alivegirlll]

Send it her

[Avicenna]

I wouldn't do it

[Pejtu]

Send back