Does anyone else hate it when their customers flirt with them?

[Jamie05rhs]

I mean I don't HATE it, but... I mean, wtf am I supposed to do with that? I can't flirt back.

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Thank you everyone for commenting. You guys are really awesome.

[Minnie97]

It's quite irritating. I used to have a guy come into my job everyday like clock work and ask dozens of questions about cakes and my abilities with them and such and every conversation he would sneak in something about getting my number or taking me on a date which I just brushed off, as I'm not allowed to be rude to customers or refuse service unless said customer is threatening and/or harassing me. He was excorted from the premises probably 6 or 7 weeks after this whole thing started because he thought it was okay to basically say he wanted to kidnap me and have his way with me, not realizing my boss was standing right next to me 😬🤷🏼‍♀️

[Jamie05rhs]

Wow!

[COMMODOREII]

Dang!😮

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Aww was someone flirting with you? See, could a slipped em your number 🤣

[Jamie05rhs]

@Brainsbeforebeauty She has my number already. I called her (on business.)

[Jamie05rhs]

And yes, she was flirting with me. It was obvious.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Oh okay

[Jamie05rhs]

@Brainsbeforebeauty She gave me blue balls. Lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣 uhh I mean sorry

[Jamie05rhs]

@Brainsbeforebeauty. It's okay. I just wish I could see her somewhere outside of work. (But then again, if I DID run into her outside of work, I probably wouldn't talk to her. I only talk to girls when I have a legitimate excuse to do so.)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why is that?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Brainsbeforebeauty because otherwise it would be unsolicited. And the last thing I want to do is bother anyone.

[COMMODOREII]

Or you are shy as heck lol

[Jamie05rhs]

@COMMODOREII I think that's been well established by now lol.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks for mh

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome!

[JackSmy]

In ANY service type, it is expected, by some 'customers' that you will flirt, and make them enjoy their 'experience' as a waiter/waitress at a fine restaurant, or hotel, or Yachts, and many others, I am sure!
Flirting, in some way, is expected, by many, patronizing these restaurants, and hotels, yachts and such.
They should maintain a respectable way, and not touch, or try to do anything inappropriate.
Having worked in "service" jobs, there is a fine line, between casual, "playful flirting", to get good tips, and the "Dark Side", doing inappropriate things!
Working for a company, or a specific employer, their Rules apply, always!

[Jamie05rhs]

I am aware that there is a dark side. But is there a light side? That is the question.

[JackSmy]

@Jamie05rhs "Light Side?" Didn't see that in your post. just adding it now?
The "Light Side" is NOT AT ALL the question you asked!
"Does anyone else hate it when their customers flirt with them?" Where is this "light side" you now suggest?

[Jamie05rhs]

@JackSmy You crack me up, dude.

"To be, or not to be. That is the question."

^I was using that phrase in the Shakespearean context.

[JPrez]

I have this problem sometimes but I try to turn it into a positive. I send them nice messages from time to time thanking them for their business and wishing them a great day. It helps strengthen the relationship without crossing any lines.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thank you, @JPrez! That was actually really helpful!

[JPrez]

Glad I could help. 👍

[modelUN242]

Umm depends on their intention. If they’re flirting because of how I look and don’t care about who I am as a person than I wouldn’t be flattered. Depends on what you’re looking for. Are you secretly hoping to go on a date and get to know this person more? If she seems like the right one, you can flirt back (complimenting, inviting body language, lots of eye contact, smiling). If you’re not interested, ignore her flirting.

[red324]

Well of course looks will attract a guy initially. After that only time will tell to see what he wants.

[Jamie05rhs]

@modelUN242 How the heck would I know if she's the "right one" or not? She's just a customer. I don't know her.

And yes, I am interested, but that's irrelevant. Because she's a customer. We have a business relationship. Therefore, a conflict of interest.

[modelUN242]

Okay... I mean if you have limited options for dating, she could be the one.

[Jamie05rhs]

@modelun242 Due to the fact that I have limited options, she's probably NOT the one.

[anon1903]

Yeah, if a client flirts with me, I'd be annoying as hell. Like boy, I'm here to comfort you no need to ask me out, bro.

It actually happens pretty often. I'm asking males "what's wrong bro" and they take it as "hi I'm a hoe"

[Jamie05rhs]

@anon1903 I don't know why you got downvotes. I thought what you said was a good response.

[anon1903]

Thanks, Jamie. :D

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome!

[cth96190]

That happens most days that I work.
I have perfected the skill of pretending to not notice.
The most extreme environment is when I provide security at weddings.
The divorced/widowed/never married career women acquire me on their targeting radar fairly quickly.
Even if I was able to respond, I have yet to encounter one with whom I would like to do the mating dance.

[Jamie05rhs]

@cth96190 "I have perfected the skill of pretending to not notice.". SAME HERE. omg

[Andres77]

Enjoy the attention.
All you can do is be polite and professional, which I'm sure you're doing.
If they wanted more they could always leave you their number on the receipt or with it.
If they give you their number and you make contact outside of work then work has nothing to say about it.
*I'd keep the note in her handwriting as proof that she initiated contact*

[Jamie05rhs]

Unfortunately I already have her number, so she doesn't really have that option. I accidentally took that "card" away from her. (Oops.).

But even if she did give me her number for contact outside of work, it would still be a bad business practice to do so. Because the company could lose a customer if things didn't work out. My loyalty is -- and should be -- to the company, not my dick.

[Andres77]

self control and thinking of other before yourself. i'm seriously impressed. may you do well in all your endeavors. truly, little brother.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Andres77 Thank you, sir! I truly appreciate that!

[Andres77]

hey, give credit where credit is due. i've been watching your posts. of course i don't know you in real life but you seem to have a good heart and you're consistent. keep at it... it will pay off. stay strong, keep your eye on the prize and be patient. i'm a fan

[Jamie05rhs]

Thank you Andres. I have a lot of respect for you as well.

[CrazyAwesome]

I'm usually oblivious, but when I do notice it, it depends on the situation. If it's not busy and it's all in good fun, cool. If not then omg yes I'm thinking "nuggets or strips dammit. that's all i asked"

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol.

[lilyanony1]

It is awkward, but for me it's the only time in flirted with.
Weirdly mire people flirt with me now I wear a mask than when they see all of me.
Guys often look then hesitate...
I'm always the friend never the girlfriend.

[Jamie05rhs]

Same here, girrlll.

[lilyanony1]

Lool

[Kas19]

I haven't been flirted with thankfully. I have been complimented by many women though, and it's very flattering. I usually just compliment them back.

But with flirting, I really don't even know how to handle it.

[Jamie05rhs]

How has no one flirted with you? You're really pretty.

[JDavid25]

Not at all.. I actually didn't mind it at all.. A lot of times it actually made my day..

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, it makes my day, too. But it's an empty victory. Which kinda makes it worse, in a way. It's like being the team that loses the Super Bowl.

[JDavid25]

Yeah, true.. I guess that's one thing I don't like about random flirting in a job settin.. Especially if you are a single male..

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah. Thanks.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would say, you have a nice day too that's about all you can do

[Jamie05rhs]

Pretty much!! 🔨

[anylolone]

Used to work serving tables, so the flirty chicks put me in top of tips every time.
So, I honestly don't care as long as there's a payoff.

[Jamie05rhs]

Wow! Flirty AND good tippers? That's a rare combination.

[anylolone]

It doesn't matter how rare, as long as there's some "whales". lol!

[Jamie05rhs]

@anylolone Ok, now. That's not nice.

[anylolone]

Hey, we all have our "whales" IE, clients that love wasting money, big spenders.

[Snakeyes7]

That actually happened to me too and it was a much older woman and I was still in high school. I just pretended she didn’t say anything.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah; I know how that's awkward when you're young. I remember when I was 18 there was this lady across the street who used to always hit on me. I just tried to be polite and keep my distance.

[sheikalana]

I feel a bit uncomfortable. I'm not there to flirt I'm there to perform my job and make money.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Understandable... of all times it just has to be then.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thank you for understanding, bro.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

You’re welcome. Ever heard of Plu-Reh?

[Jamie05rhs]

No, I have not. What (or who) is that?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I don’t know, didn’t make a definition for it yet.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay haha; no problem.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I’m not gay, are you?

[Jamie05rhs]

I am not, my friend. I like women very much, including the one who was flirting with me. I was just frustrated by the overall situation. I hope that makes sense.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Yeah, it makes sense.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks, man.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

No problem bruddah

[paradiseonearth93]

I love flirting personally. It’s short, no attachment or consequences really, it’s easy, and it’s fun.

[Jamie05rhs]

Haha. I think you and I are opposites. I am someone who actually likes attachment and welcomes "consequences.". (I just don't take risks at work.)

[COMMODOREII]

I love this girl. Lol😄

[paradiseonearth93]

@COMMODOREII haha💗💕

[Yuuibtony]

Never happened to me according to society am ugly but you must be a pretty boy, to even ask this question

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, thanks for the compliment, man. I do appreciate that!

[Jamie05rhs]

And nah, don't say you're ugly.

[Yuuibtony]

Those people call me ugly

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm sorry, bro. That's not nice. You shouldn't listen to them.

[Yuuibtony]

Disadvantages of being black

[EaterPeter]

You must be in customer service job. That is sucks.

[EaterPeter]

One should say. I hope I am reading this situation wrong. That is flattering but I am on job. Or you are cute pretty and I am taken?

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks, man. I actually love my job, though.

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, I'm not taken. Lol.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks Jamie!

[EaterPeter]

Most women should back off by taken statement. If someone ask further question those ones are more dangerous to deal with at work. I get it you don't want to say that.

[Jamie05rhs]

@EaterPeter What do you mean? I said I'm NOT taken. I'm single.

[EaterPeter]

I know sir. If you want them to go away. You may use it if you like. I think you don't feel comfortable saying that. Just like some time women says I am taken even when they are single. Hope you get the point.

[Jamie05rhs]

@EaterPeter I would never lie like that. I despise lying. And I despise liars.

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, I don't feel that it's necessary to push anyone away. I am perfectly capable of slowing down the speed of things. No need to shut them down completely.

[EaterPeter]

Cool. I am not in favor of saying such things either. I rather hold the info. than giving false info.

[EaterPeter]

And why should I share that with you? 🙂

[EaterPeter]

Example

[Jamie05rhs]

@EaterPeter Cool. But I actually don't see a need to withhold any information, either. (I think it's okay to do so. I just don't see the need.)

[EaterPeter]

All the best

[EaterPeter]

Is there a quicker better way to type @Jamie05rhs link to send reply?

[Jamie05rhs]

Sorry, @EaterPeter. I didn't see your comment earlier. What did you mean, exactly?

[Ms_Vanderquack]

What do you mean you can't flirt back? How else do you get better tips?

[Cedric456]

I know how he feels, for me its just different. The cashiers would sometimes flirt with me only the older ladies and i get shy and dont know what to say back. Its really annoying. Last time it was 2 ladies doing it

[Ms_Vanderquack]

@Cedric456 so then the problem is just being socially inept. Got it.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Ms_Vanderquack I get good tips by being polite, courteous, friendly, respectful, and providing excellent service.

[Ms_Vanderquack]

Which of you were a woman would be mistaken as flirting.

[Jamie05rhs]

@ms_vanderquack Touche.

[Anonymous]

For me its different, sometimes the lady at the till would flirt. Even though its just a joke because its always the older ladies that does it, i get really shy when they do it

[Opinion Owner]

Till (cashier)

[Jamie05rhs]

Haha. Older ladies always flirt with me. I've become used to it.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

I don't hate it, but it can be annoying. I flirt back because when I do my tips increase!

[Jamie05rhs]

So it's annoying because you truly Don't Want the attention. That's the opposite of my problem.

[COMMODOREII]

Yeah i flirt back too like at the fast food restaurants. There will be these girls there and they hook me up with extra wings or fries. Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

@COMMODOREII Oh, do they now?

[COMMODOREII]

Yep yep 😎

[Jamie05rhs]

@COMMODOREII Lol. Nice.

[jack187625]

Flirting is better than being sexually harassed. That is not fun.

[Jamie05rhs]

You have been sexually harassed? Would you care to share your story with us?

[jack187625]

Plenty of times, I've been dragged over bars and tongues shoved in my mouth, had my arsed pinched on multiple occasions, people grabbing my crotch, inappropriate comments.

Hospitality can be a nightmare, drunk woman can be just as if not more disgusting than drunk men

[Jamie05rhs]

Gracious!