I had a friend who was a "dancer" at a club. I use the inverted commas because she was there a week and her boss pressured her to give private dances. VERY private ones. We lost touch shortly afterwards, probably because she was embarrassed to talk to me.
those days are long behind me. and when guys go there's rules that need to be followed. first never go by yourself to dangerous to do that. second always have someone watch your back when you're in those places. third never date a stripper. four never pay them money not worth it. fifth most of the strippers are ugly as hell but the waitresses are beautiful. they strip because they lack confidence in their appearance and desperate for the money. the waitresses though who don't strip they're hot hotter then the strippers. I hadn't been to a strip club in over a decade maybe a decade and a half. the strippers have such a shitty attitude and personality outside the clubs but when in it they do a 180 and act all different and fake nice to get your $$$ but outside the club forget it they couldn't be bothered and act like real stuck up bitches.
The intention counts there If it is to show disrespect, dissatisfaction, there is obviously some disharmony, something to work on. If it is simply for sex, and you still get the love, affection and loyalty you need - it could just be hormones playing out and nothing more
It's fine, I've been to many strip clubs while in a relationship, with my partner and without on business trips. It's a bit overrated in a sense, and I'll bet many have notions what they believe happen but never been to one. You can have a drink with the people you want hang out with and not even pay for a lap dance.
I see things like this if you go all out for your partner and you always put your partner first and you have that trust with your partner then you have nothing to worry about because your partner knows how you feel about her or him so you have nothing to worry about it's all on trust if you have if you don't have trust you don't have nothing
hell no i never get why people with girlfriends would want to go to one, i might u have a hot girlfriend who can do everything a girl at a stripper club and u have a chance to get some with her and not usually what happens with strip club go home with blue balls. so for me i wouldn't want to go to one if i was in a relationship if u dont mind me asking what made u ask this?
I would not keep them from going but after they left the relationship would be over, period. If I am with someone and they ask to go to a strip bar I would say do what you want that is your decision. Since I own my own house once they left they would return with the locks changed and all their stuff neatly packed and in boxes. They would be stacked neatly outside covered by a tarp with the message. You made your decision and I made mine. WE ARE DONE, GOODBYE.
Most of my girls are cool with it, but they want to come as well, the ladies just want to make some money, I don’t call them names like whore just because they earn a quid off the sex industry. They generally don’t screw, some do but most of them are very professional about it.
Hoe is a term i use loosely for anybody or anything. I will refer to a person or an object as “hoe” as i also use terms like “dude” regardless of their gender. I was not referring to the job they do in this case. If youve seen my posts, youd see i say hoe a lot. But ig if you wanna go there, yea a hoe does sell themselves so in this case i used the term wisely
It’s cool, I have dated girls that also would not have a look inside a strip club too, that’s ok I’m not really fussed about what people’s boundaries are, more that they are just honest with me.
Lol it's always disrespectful. I think even looking at other girls is being disrespectful to an extent. If my girl gives me everything I ask for then I have no reason to give my attention to any girl but her. Some of y'all really be dating the wrong kind of people
I used to strip so I know too much about the business, the girls and the guys that go. I wouldn’t be ok with it because I’d like my boyfriend to be smarter than that.
Hopefully he has enough sense to not date someone who took off her clothes and danced for strangers naked to give them sexual pleasure for money. Yuck. YUCK.
@Miristheiss are you kidding me prostitution is the oldest profession in the world men love it, if their woman isn't doing anything at home, he might as well go to the butt naked bar sitting on his lap get him all worked up so he comes straight home and fucks you all night
You seem to think it's some dumb hoes spinning around a pole and a bunch of idiots wasting their money on them for a cheap sexual thrill. I suppose a female would view gentleman's clubs as such, if they were average. The reality is that there are some truly talented individuals who are expressing the beauty of the female form through the art of dance. How is that any different than travelling to a concert hall to see your favorite musician?
No not really at the strip club I would be looking and feeling women for a short while as me and my partner usually have sex everydayso even if my partner knew I went to a strip club for a night or two it wouldn't bother her now if I invited another woman over for at least one night and she knew we were having sex that would bother her
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I had a friend who was a "dancer" at a club. I use the inverted commas because she was there a week and her boss pressured her to give private dances. VERY private ones. We lost touch shortly afterwards, probably because she was embarrassed to talk to me.
So yes, I'd have a problem with it.
Why would she be embarassed to twlk to you
She used to ask me about God. I guess she thought I'd judge her or something, but that's not my job. I'm not someone who can throw the first stone.
If it was a bachelorette party or some one off occasion I would be fine with it. If it became a regular thing I would not like it.
Yea i definitely meant regularly
Then no, forget it. Everything she needs she can get at home.
those days are long behind me. and when guys go there's rules that need to be followed. first never go by yourself to dangerous to do that. second always have someone watch your back when you're in those places. third never date a stripper. four never pay them money not worth it. fifth most of the strippers are ugly as hell but the waitresses are beautiful. they strip because they lack confidence in their appearance and desperate for the money. the waitresses though who don't strip they're hot hotter then the strippers. I hadn't been to a strip club in over a decade maybe a decade and a half. the strippers have such a shitty attitude and personality outside the clubs but when in it they do a 180 and act all different and fake nice to get your $$$ but outside the club forget it they couldn't be bothered and act like real stuck up bitches.
I bet the strippers act like the crazy ones on GTA lmao
The intention counts there
If it is to show disrespect, dissatisfaction, there is obviously some disharmony, something to work on.
If it is simply for sex, and you still get the love, affection and loyalty you need - it could just be hormones playing out and nothing more
Ahh ok
@msbrightness
would u go with him?
It's fine, I've been to many strip clubs while in a relationship, with my partner and without on business trips. It's a bit overrated in a sense, and I'll bet many have notions what they believe happen but never been to one. You can have a drink with the people you want hang out with and not even pay for a lap dance.
If I have a girlfriend or wife, makes no sense to me to go see women strip. Im happy with I have.
Absolutely
I wouldn't be with someone who wants to be in a money sucking building. Haha.
Lmao 😂
I definitely do care. There's no difference whether he's my boyfriend or husband I won't tolerate him being involved with hoes.
Yasss 🙌👏
I see things like this if you go all out for your partner and you always put your partner first and you have that trust with your partner then you have nothing to worry about because your partner knows how you feel about her or him so you have nothing to worry about it's all on trust if you have if you don't have trust you don't have nothing
Its not that i dont trust them. Its that it would be disrespectful to go entertain another woman
well your absolutely right on that point
Actually yes i do mind. I heard girls often suck off and have sex with the male strippers, so hell no.
Lmao wiw
hell no i never get why people with girlfriends would want to go to one, i might u have a hot girlfriend who can do everything a girl at a stripper club and u have a chance to get some with her and not usually what happens with strip club go home with blue balls. so for me i wouldn't want to go to one if i was in a relationship if u dont mind me asking what made u ask this?
I would not keep them from going but after they left the relationship would be over, period. If I am with someone and they ask to go to a strip bar I would say do what you want that is your decision. Since I own my own house once they left they would return with the locks changed and all their stuff neatly packed and in boxes. They would be stacked neatly outside covered by a tarp with the message. You made your decision and I made mine. WE ARE DONE, GOODBYE.
I can't believe the money I wasted there as a young guy. So stupid.
Lol i bet
Most of my girls are cool with it, but they want to come as well, the ladies just want to make some money, I don’t call them names like whore just because they earn a quid off the sex industry. They generally don’t screw, some do but most of them are very professional about it.
Hoe is a term i use loosely for anybody or anything. I will refer to a person or an object as “hoe” as i also use terms like “dude” regardless of their gender. I was not referring to the job they do in this case. If youve seen my posts, youd see i say hoe a lot. But ig if you wanna go there, yea a hoe does sell themselves so in this case i used the term wisely
It’s cool, I have dated girls that also would not have a look inside a strip club too, that’s ok I’m not really fussed about what people’s boundaries are, more that they are just honest with me.
Lol it's always disrespectful. I think even looking at other girls is being disrespectful to an extent. If my girl gives me everything I ask for then I have no reason to give my attention to any girl but her. Some of y'all really be dating the wrong kind of people
No i fully agree with what u said
I used to strip so I know too much about the business, the girls and the guys that go. I wouldn’t be ok with it because I’d like my boyfriend to be smarter than that.
Good point
Hopefully he has enough sense to not date someone who took off her clothes and danced for strangers naked to give them sexual pleasure for money.
Yuck.
YUCK.
@Miristheiss are you kidding me prostitution is the oldest profession in the world men love it, if their woman isn't doing anything at home, he might as well go to the butt naked bar sitting on his lap get him all worked up so he comes straight home and fucks you all night
You seem to think it's some dumb hoes spinning around a pole and a bunch of idiots wasting their money on them for a cheap sexual thrill. I suppose a female would view gentleman's clubs as such, if they were average. The reality is that there are some truly talented individuals who are expressing the beauty of the female form through the art of dance. How is that any different than travelling to a concert hall to see your favorite musician?
Im all for cage dancers who wear clothes and love to dance. But strippers seem to love to seduce and get naked.
And its different cause im not getting naked for the concert performer
Some strip clubs actually do couples night discounts like free entry, dance or drink specials.
Back when I was single and playing DD for my crew it included a few strip club stops. Some clubs had that. Some couples are into that shit.
I dont want to be in that environment at all
I wasn't encouraging it. Just shedding light from personal experience.
No not really at the strip club I would be looking and feeling women for a short while as me and my partner usually have sex everydayso even if my partner knew I went to a strip club for a night or two it wouldn't bother her now if I invited another woman over for at least one night and she knew we were having sex that would bother her
I don't see the appeal of strip clubs for solo prurient purposes. I get it as a group activity.
Most girls I go out with would go with me (bc they're usually bi/pan), buy each other lap dances, and competitively dance for each other.