Does he like me if he introduces me to his friends?

[Anonymous]

We met in the gym few months ago. In the early days we met at the entrance to the gym one of the times I stopped I looking at him for a few seconds he winked I swiped the card to the entrance looked back at him he winked again. We'd stand close to each other a lot. Now we have each others numbers. Had his email first , he asked for my number instead. I walked by the area he trains one time I heard "there she is" from his friends and another time I went to look for him his friends where there said hi and when I turned away heard "oh she came" . He helps me on the bench press I text him when I'm ready he usually comes up close behind me leaning in or trying to scare me. He grabbed my hands before on the bench press putting my hand in the right place like no let me. In between sets we'd be talking we'd look deep in each others eyes. He started walking upstairs after asking if I needed to get my stuff saying let me walk you or I'll walk you. On instagram he posted a picture on something he did I dm'd him congratulating him after he replied back to me as soon as he saw the message. Other people who commented under the picture I noticed he didn't reply to anyone else until the next day. It seems like he might be introducing me to his close friends? today he helped me with bench again he came up behind saying boo. In the bench area one of his closest friends were there he kinda introduced her to me. Calling her over saying my name and we both said hello to each other. And he seemed to bigging himself up in front me. Does that mean he talks about me to his friends?

[caring__1]

Yes, he has noticed you, finds himself drawn to you and has shared this information with his friends. It sounds like he's introverted and isn't about to make a significant move on you until he no longer fears rejection. Open the door, and he'll probably come through. He'll appreciate you asking for his help or advice, and he'll love an invitation for anything. You could say, "let's go get a coffee after our workout" or "I like to unwind after a workout with a leisurely stroll... I'd enjoy your company whenever you have the time." Don't come on too strong, or you'll scare him away, but consistent interest will draw him closer (especially using subtle approaches).

[Asker]

He's actually a very confident guy very competitive not a shy guy at all. Or is he shy with me? I don't know if i'd ask him out he seems confident enough that he would ask.

[caring__1]

Introverts can appear very outgoing within their structure, while shutting down outside their structure. He could see you as having more value than other options, so he may not be willing to gamble as much. I'm not saying you need to take charge, but it can't hurt to clearly show some interest.

[Asker]

or he's only like that with me? he's quite friendly and posts videos of himself seems a take charge guy. I can keep showing him consistent interest. Is it a good sign he's telling his friends stuff about me?

[caring__1]

You'll be much more protective of your own new car than a rental car. He has a structure for the rental cars, but not the one he wants to hold onto long-term. Don't let your own self-doubts get in the way. Telling his friends is his way of saying this is the direction he wants to go, so don't throw obstacles in his way.

[Asker]

oh so showing everyone he likes me and maybe seeing what they think about me? and seeing how I interact with his friend? we hadn't seen each other since lockdown guess it means he's still as interested as he was before and proud to show me off I guess? And he's gradually getting to know me not trying to rush it. We usually save our talking for when we see each other in person thing developing.

[caring__1]

Taking it slowly provides a stronger foundation, though a snail's pace provides no foundation. Always make sure you can measure your progress.

[Asker]

We're definitely getting closer each time. Is he trying to see what his friend think of me too? or he's more showing me off? I'm sure we both know we like each other maybe waiting for the right time to do something

[caring__1]

Only he knows his reasons for sharing with his friends. Maybe he wants to get them to stop trying to fix him up. As long as things are good between the two of you, don't make his friends an issue.

[Asker]

Oh I think it's cute he's told his friends didn't expect he'd talk about me like he must do quite a lot then I expected. I wonder what kind of things he says about me. And I was very unexpected when he called his friend over it's nice. We were in lockdown didn't see or speak all that much nothings changed still same vibe or connection

[Asker]

Saw him again the other day during bench we were chatting a lot , complimented him something about his training saying his arms were getting bigger it's working. Noticed he was standing much closer to the bench after. He gave fist pump at some point I did that and rubbed his hand he didn't move away got closer and was standing closer. And offered to get me in for like a extra bench session thats not on the plan think he was flirting . He mentioned the day he's usually busy I asked if he won't be busy he said he would try fit me in would take few mins to text him. Think was a heat in the moment thing lol he was busy when I text he voice messaged arranged a different day seems to be trying to see me more days. He wasn't that touch when I saw him last we spoke a bit. Think he gets a little shy sometimes around me. At the end he asked if I need to get my stuff previously he did that and walked me up that time he didn't not sure if he was gonna say something else. He always tells me to text him

[caring__1]

Based on what you're sharing, it's hard to tell if he is interested in you, he just likes attention or if his job is to promote business for the gym. Don't put all your eggs in one basket or hold your breath. If you don't feel comfortable initiating something with him away from the gym, ask his friend if he has shown any interest in you.

[Asker]

He seems to be trying to be more available to. A lot more too get the feeling he likes me for sure. Not paying him extra or anything either not paid him anything since like September wasn't that much. I'm just trying to flirt more with him when I can. He definitely seemed to like my touch responded really positively I think I caught him off guard. Think in work sometimes he tries to tone it down a bit

[caring__1]

He has an image to maintain in that setting, so showing preferential treatment can backfire on him. You won't know his true feelings until you get him away from the gym setting.