Are you more so looking for the right person or trying to become the right person (…explain)?

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I’m just being me and hoping they see me as more of being right for them rather then being all wrong. I rather be moving in the right direction and building things up than getting left behind and watching everything fall apart ya know lmao. But in the process, i’ll continue to work on becoming an even better version of myself, both physically and mentally. Can’t go wrong when you’re on the verge of remaining on the right path 😁🙌 :) #FeelFreeToList #MrAndMrsRight

HighValue · Accepted Answer

I already am the right person. Many of my qualities are what many women hope to find in a potential long term partner for an exclusive relationship, but even so I am still improving even more for myself so I will be happier in life.
For example:
Me: White, 6' 1/2" tall, Strong, (I lift weights and ride bikes), Trustworthy, Loyal, Affectionate, Never done any hook ups, No contact with any ex, no kids but I do want some with the right person, I am very good with kids, (I have worked with them in education for 11 1/2 years), Don't do any drugs, alcohol, or smoke, no tattoos, I work (no welfare or food stamps), I know how to cook, I'm educated (not indoctrinated). I enjoy physical stuff like riding bikes, lifting weights, and also indoor stuff like board games, video games, movies, tv series, comedy videos, learning new things, reading a book, bowling, pool, air hockey, amusement parks, and other stuff. I will try new things as long as it isn't gross or immoral. I prefer things to be planned most of the time.

The only real problem is that most women are not nearly high enough quality for me. they have bad morals, a bad past that is unacceptable to me, etc.
For example:
Potential Girlfriend:
18 to 30 (over 30 equals no interest), hasn't done any hook ups or ONS, doesn't do any drugs (no weed either), doesn't drink alcohol or drinks very rarely and is willing to quit, doesn't smoke, no kids from past relationships, but does want some with the right person, no contact with any ex, once in a relationship won't be posting revealing and flirty pictures online for attention, will be very affectionate with me and she initiates the affection sometimes too, doesn't have an immoral job or one that requires her to spend multiple days away from home (traveling), no tattoos or very few (each tattoo makes her less attractive to me), will exercise every week just like I will to stay healthy and in shape for long term, is not hypocritical.

So yeah, I am a good and extremely rare catch, and even though my wants for a potential mate shouldn't be difficult to match, somehow they are because the majority of people are terrible low quality people. All they needed to do in life is not make immoral decisions and be somewhat fit. It shouldn't be that difficult.

TonyV · Accepted Answer

I tried to be the right person, that's a bad idea, now I'm trying to change what I'm attracted too, cause clearly what I like, my type, is trashy woman, the redheads are what I want, my girlfriend now is a great woman but honestly not super exciting, I don't want to be around her 24/7. And I'm trying to work on that and change my priorities, cause honestly even tho she bores me at times she is dependable, trustable, honest, communicates and just all round decent wife material.

I'm interested in the skinny little tattooed girls that flaunt their body on socials that then get mad they are sexualized, the ones with the attention span of a goldfish that say shit like "life in the moment", the opinionated ones that can't handle a counter opinion. I still like them, they seem fun, probably freaked in bed cause they go through men like candy, jeez wonder why, but I now realize those types are only good for a short sex relationship but not for a wife, fun but just for a short time.

So I'm trying to find and recognize the value in the good dependable women, the ones that don't look as good, cause aperently any woman with good looks let them go to her head and she acts like trash.

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

Neither. I'm just looking for good time with a good person. That's pretty much it.
I think coming out of a relationship that I tried to hard into making it work just because I felt that what I wanted, isn't cutting it for me. It was nice at first but as years progress you realize you lose yourself and I never want to feel like that anymore.

Lucy68 · Accepted Answer

I think I'm some cases a person needs to do some deep self discovery within themselves before they begin a new relationship as well as pursuing and involving themselves with different types of activities and hobbies. Now as for waiting for the right person, there's someone out there for someone, and we meet that person when we least expect it.

melanieeeB · Answer

Well I'm working on being happy and building myself a good future and I just hope that my man finds me lol

t-8900 · Answer

B. I def want a woman that is looking for long term in a partner. Even if she doesn't want to go there just yet and just date for a few years first, cool. But I want her to DESIRE me as much as possible. And the more desirable I can be to women as a whole the more likely I'll fine a woman at the end. But the thing is I want my improvements to continue throughout life. I want my woman to grab my arm and be like "look what I snagged" around her gfs and stuff. I want to be desired like that. And I want passionate love and romance, and great sex with her and ONLY her. And I want to be an excellent role model for our kids. I want my sons to have a father they can look up to and be proud of. I want my daughters to look at their father and see and know safety and know what a truly loving and passionate man REALLY is so they aren't getting played by low tier chumps. I think you already know the kind of daddy I'll be. The same thing I used to tell my sister's bfs, "You break her heart, I break your face!" They were always so polite around her ^^

Peenshake · Answer

I think people have a limit they set a at too often. The limit is who they feel like they really are supposed to be. Sounds great but each of us have potentially 100 years of life and I don't think a minute of it is supposed to be someone slowing down on development for anyone or anything. There's always ways to better yourself at all ages. It's a ridiculous work load and life of chasing a paper dollar that ruins our chances of being much better. Most things you buy with that paper noone actually needs. Similar to a good cheese burger will still kill you when you're older. True potential of being human is almost never recognized because of our norms and behaviors we grow into. Money is just this invisible jail cell that looks sexy af from a few good perspectives. But there's millions with horrible perspectives. Human trafficking just to start the list. I think most of our potential would come from everyone actually being on the same page. Everything in the world would finally get somewhere. People have effectively made life and love just a game and alone it crumbles our humanity. We put more favor in fake and only what we're told than reaching for something better. It's a complicated thing to me. Not as simple as just being right for someone at all.

Hulk30 · Answer

on a basic level in order for us to be most successful in the datin game with the opposite sex we need to understand that relationships are a business/negotiation/transaction/sales the reason why 80percent of folks dont got mrs. or mr. right is because currently most folks want their potential sexual partners to tailor themselves to em without em doin the same and then got the nerve to wonder why they didn't find the right 1 now if your not willin to constantly self-improve on a spiritual mental emotional physical and sexual level then it's gonna be hard for both women and men but men especially generally constantly self improvin myself is how i ended up in the polygamous relationship im in and that's how i keep 80 percent of women comin my way

Oigit · Answer

Taking the wait and see approach. Not looking for Mrs. Right or tying to become Mr. Right. If it happens one way or the other, that's ok. If it does not happen at all that is fine as well. I am doing a lot of self improvement. To get myself back to where I was before a serious accident.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

What’s the def. of right person for you?

someone who shares my values is the right person for me.
so yes, I look at all those important things…
everything else you have to work out the diff. the person who shares these similar value will work together to become the right person for each other in that long jurney of life

MCheetah · Answer

B, D, and F:
Trying to become the right person for myself.
Working on making myself better IF I meet the right one.
Statistically, no woman on Earth is going to find current me attractive enough to marry, let alone like. So I'm not holding my breath.

It's more like, "working on myself so I can one day be someone I'm proud of again, regardless if a woman comes into my life or not, although it's EXTREMELY unlikely any woman like that exists on planet Earth."

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

There is no such thing in my book as the ''RIGHT ONE'' . My experience, i met a lot of cute girls, i met/dated those who were into me but i didn't get that connection where makes me go (oh i would love to see how far we can go together) until i started realizing i need to know the person before taking it to the next step. So me and the Mrs. became friends and then best friends and we got that connection flow in. And together we become one :D

Phoenix98 · Answer

I'm not going to change who I am as a person in order to fit someone's definition of
Mr. Right.

I will however seek to become the best version of myself that I can be without compromising who I am as a person and individual for the right person.

And I'm not actively looking for the right one but I am keeping an eye out.

SCDivinitySoul · Answer

I am pretty sure I found the right person, but she doesn't think how I feel is real about her, yet I'd give anything to be by her side day and night. The girl touched my heart when I built wall around it, after a failed relationship. I hope one day she realizes my feelings are real for her. I'll remain by her side for as long I live.

Riddler1412 · Answer

I chose option D, because I think it's the closest to what I'm doing. I try to improve every day. But the thing is, maybe you've been perfect for someone already. Who knows if improving oneself is the way to go. I hope it is, if not for others, then for me. 😊
I have no idea, if what I wrote, makes sense. 😂

Anonymous · Answer

There are some things I want to improve about myself and my life, not only to get a good partner but also so more people will like me in general. I don't want to change in a direction only to get/be with a specific person, but I don't mind changing some things if they make sense to me and are within my values and so.

mimi051998 · Answer

Trying to become the right person before I jump back into the dating world. My Mr. Right is out there somewhere and he will come when it's the right time 🙏🏾.

ariadneR · Answer

I'm just being me. If you don't like it then tough titties. I'll be doing me , cause I can't expect anyone to look after me, if I can't do it for myself

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Either of those options will depict that I am actively looking for a girlfriend or for a relationship. Which I am not. Hence Neither.😅

CandaceSims201 · Answer

Although i already worked on myself, I am not sure if I can find the right guy for me because i have already had negative experiences with some former boyfriends and relationships.

Lliam · Answer

I had to become the right person in order to find the right person.

ChiPaPa · Answer

No idea. Just trying to live day by day. I don't know if anything will ever be better in that department. Other people are more hopeful than I could ever be.

Bdsmaster · Answer

I am not looking for the right person luv, cause I am completely opposite of how the right person should be, but I don't have a problem with being the wrong person. 😅😅

Rudon00 · Answer

Well said Desii. I share your views and the same things you said. I second that too. Its not about looking for Mrs Right but being the Mr person for whosoever come across my path.

exitseven · Answer

I remember working on myself until I met the right person.

Anpu23 · Answer

I believe we are a great match. So I think Im good, but constantly trying to be better.

Andres77 · Answer

The right person found me. Now I'm just trying to be better.

KatherineJ · Answer

He is my Mister Right, and I try to be his Mrs. Right. Yes, we are married. ❤️

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I am going to be the best I can be, until I finally meet the right partner

Shark_61695 · Answer

Waiting... probably in the wrong place but definitely waiting.

Pink2000 · Answer

I’m working on myself while being in a relationship. I’ve taken a step back so I can fix myself.

TallAnon · Answer

At this stage I am who I am and whatever happens happens, fuck it. "Any where the wind blows, doesn't really matter, to me."

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I've been working on myself continuously. That's not a reason to pause the Search!

ALewis30 · Answer

Looking for the right person. A woman who I can spend my life with. She's funny, smart, cute, understanding, loyal and playful.

Jouth · Answer

I'm a fucking catch. Tall, handsome, smooth. I'm working on my career. But I'm looking for a gorgeous girl who marches me in all the ways that matter.

Nick473 · Answer

Just someone i fit well with and can grow together with

Mehzmeh · Answer

Neither since I am single again. Relationship suck!!! No one has time for that bullshit!!

Lonely888 · Answer

Looking for right person, no one should be someone they're not to please someone

Jerre · Answer

I’m not looking for a life long partner, but one day I may be surprised

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

I'm always trying to be a better version of myself

JosyJosy · Answer

Trying to be a person I'm happy with

Wiredone · Answer

I'm not looking for anyone. I already found her

clampfan101 · Answer

D, but more waiting than working. :/

Morgador · Answer

I'm so not good for anyone.

Cubus · Answer

I believe both are important.

wampt · Answer

I am going for both, looking and becoming

Twalli · Answer

I am almost 100% sure I found the right match

Relux47 · Answer

I’m trying to become a better person day but day

whosnumber1 · Answer

I am the right person!

collie22 · Answer

i'm focusing on school

Tim-loves-it · Answer

Wanting the right person but already married

BCRanger10 · Answer

Already found her 😊

KieranByrne · Answer

Both DizzyDessi!

EaterPeter · Answer

Both

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