Do you struggle with flirting?

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Luopio27 · Accepted Answer

There was once when I was an intern, 3 girls at a terrace of a bar. They were pretty and I kmew I wouldn't last longer than.5 minutes without them asking me to leave. I lasted 45 minutes. Heard them laugh and smile.

I started of with guessing contest. I made it easy for them to guess what I was becoming. My internship was to do with working for children and they guessed a teacher. Then it was my turn to guess. They all had different hair colors so I said the one with the black hair has to be a contract killer, a murder who works for the government.

It wasn't exactly flirting but it broke the ice.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

Nope not at all.

it’s sort of at my core and you learn it young.

also a lot of people have odd ideas on flirting lol.

it can be non sexual, non romantic and just having a laugh, equally it can get very dirty n dark.

Jaws music is quite close lol

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Horribly. I don't even try to anymore, lol. I've even been told I'm terrible at deciphering when someone's flirting with me!
It doesn't help I was raised in an area where people are naturally polite, friendly, and reach out to you, so if you're not careful it's hard to tell if they're flirting or friendly- hence why I assume everyone is just friendly until proven otherwise.

That's why I tell people: if you like or are interested in me: DO NOT FLIRT. Just tell me. Otherwise, I'm going to instantly assume you're friendly or nice.

little_bird1 · Accepted Answer

I find that most good men don't know how to do it or simply don't want to. It's such a shame. It's why women are miserable and go to "bad boys" because they do know how to flirt. I think I flirt all the time.

Desconhecida · Answer

Actually, no. It's like riding a bike, you can get rusty but you never forget all the moves

melanieeeB · Answer

Not If I really want to flirt with someone

Pleaznhim4me · Answer

Not sure. I am naturally social. Unfortunately some men find it flirtatious when it is not. I have a rare personality for a woman. I would say I behave more like one of the guys. I’m blunt and straight forward. I joke around and speak the truth. For some reason guys think it’s flirting and women either hate me or think “I’m just wonderful and funny”. I’m just me. So if I have a problem than someone better think of a cure pretty darn quick.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Holy shit, I suck at flirting. Whenever it came down to doing it with a woman I liked my inner core was pretty much this. 👇 "Oh no..."

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

Not in the slightest. I actually really enjoy it as long as the person I'm flirting with knows it is just in fun.

globetrotter22 · Answer

Yes. The problem is I am not sure what’s going on in the girl’s head. This leads to me avoiding taking risks by keeping the conversation friendly/non-threatening. But that can also make the girl think I am looking just to be “friends”.

No straight guy approaches a woman (in dating range) and engages in convo just to be friends.

Kstiz2287 · Answer

Sometimes yea, which has a lot to do with a lot of nonsense values I was brainwashed with growing up that make me almost nervous to make moves sometimes, for fear of being being an offensive male. Not always though, and it's been improving for me with a lot of thought about it and challenging the ideas I was taught to come to a more balanced and reasonable view of things. It goes hand in hand with anxiety for me a lot of the time, really.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

I never flirted. It's not needed. It might be a fun game, but it's not needed. It's only comfortable when both people know how to flirt, which is not usally the case.

dustybiker · Answer

I laugh and joke with everyone I get along with, I’m more serious with people I like.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Quite the opposite. My friendliness, playfulness, manners, mannerisms & voice often mislead others to think I'm flirting with them.

lilyanony1 · Answer

I have resting bitch face so that already puts me in the negative! The only way I can redeem myself is if you push on through...

Daniela1982 · Answer

No because someone might get hurt.

OmegaSTC · Answer

I can only do long haul flirting. But I do that pretty well and now I’m married with a beautiful son. But I’ll tell you what guys love: back scratches, head scratches, the works. That’s physical flirting that shows that you like and value what you see. Really intimate in a non threatening or even non sexual way.

moviedude714 · Answer

Yeah I never really mastered the art of it, sometimes I get annoyed when people call it a skill set or learnable skill, I also like to think it's far more important for men to know how to flirt than it is for women

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and no.

I would flirt, and I personally have very little issue with flirting… but I’m pretty rusty at it.

I either become really formal if I’m attracted to a woman, and I will not flirt… like if it’s a waitress or something, I will be polite, but won’t be super chatty.

but once in a while, I probably do it subconsciously, and it’s probably pretty awkward.

cookiecrusher · Answer

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Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I'd say I have the opposite problem, I struggle NOT to flirt. It is so natural without even thinking about it and it can make my man feel jealous sometimes, so I have to try not to do it.

RobT312 · Answer

A long time ago yes. Then my older brother taught me to open up, and enjoyed it actually! Be yourself and be natural and it’s fun.
I’m off market though so not much flirting except for in-house, lol

Kabluie · Answer

If the sparks are there, it's not a struggle to flirt. If it's not, then you know where you stand.

Anonymous · Answer

I seriously never even realize someone is flirting with me until either them or snother person blatantly points it out.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@coachtanthony I don't struggle with flirting. In fact, I don't like flirting because I consider it cowardly & lack the guts to express interest directly.

Vick2727 · Answer

I suck at flirting now. When I was a teen, I could get mostly any girl I like to make out with me, but now I just suck.

Citizenkirk · Answer

No. I ignore it if it's supposed too be directed at me, because I can never tell if she really likes me, or maybe I just have lettuce 🥬 stuck in my teeth from lunch🤮.

Sammielove · Answer

I struggle with it every day, I still don't know to do it properly. It's more like a mission impossible most of the time (the movies are easier😒) I am wishing someone could just show me. Anybody?

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Most women are sphinxes to me. Can't find an angle to get close. And always afraid of saying the wrong thing.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. It just feels weird to me to, in the driest terms, convey sexual attraction through playful conversation.

I have a difficult time with it, just because it always feels somewhat inappropriate to me.

NathanDavis · Answer

Do I struggle with flirting? no... because I don't even know how to flirt lmao... so I never do that, and never actually needed it really

Magnum615 · Answer

I struggle just talking to people, sometimes it's hard to make a genuine connection with people and without that flirting is sort of pointless.

Raphaëlle · Answer

Sometimes. As someone said here before, I also come across as a very friendly and helpful person. Some people misinterpret that as flirting.

slatyb · Answer

No, after divorcing and starting to date I got quite good at it. What's the secret? It's simple. I listen and pay attention.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I vary from being smooth as silk to fairly awkward it just kinda depends it can be real hit and miss sometimes.

faye_girl · Answer

I've been told I am good at it, but I don't feel like I am acrually good at it 😆  Maybe they are just being nice lol

RolandCuthbert · Answer

It is weird that people think flirting come naturally. You have to practice it. Over and over.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Not really no, comes relatively naturally to me, it goes with my charismatic personality lol

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't like flirting, because I don't know who the other person is; and I don't want to give them the wrong impression that I like them when later I find out that I actually don't.

t-8900 · Answer

Not any longer. But a while ago I did. Now I just struggle to not talk so dirty sometimes 🙈🙉🙊

mickeystoned · Answer

No I do not I'm actually good in that department I'm going to relationships too it's just kind of shy at first but not flirting

JSmuve · Answer

Ya I can't think quick enough on my feet to come up with much in the way of flirtation and get bored easily.

dragoblack · Answer

Absolutely, I'm honest and straight forward, and i never know if what I am saying is really just stabbing myself in the foot, or ruining any chance i have.

aquamarine321 · Answer

No, when I’m in my playful 😈 mood, it comes easy, and sometimes they fall for it, but when I’m interested it may be difficult

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

the way i see it, its only men who need to know or learn how to attract a woman, not the other way around

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I don’t flirt. Guys think I am because I laugh/smile/blush when I feel very awkward or nervous but I can’t control it.

jasco · Answer

Yes and No, while with some people I can flirt like no one's business, their are people who simply incapable of letting me flirt with them

Massageman · Answer

If that's a struggle, I'd like to sign up for a battle or two.

AdithyaR · Answer

Yep, I'm really bad at it, I don't even try anymore to avoid embarrassing myself.

rabbitzzz · Answer

yes. I get lost in her eyes and nothing comes out of the mouth.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well now that you mentioned it.. I tried some old 80's pretending to yawn while putting my arm over her, but she screamed social distancing!

Tomtom9494 · Answer

Can’t flirt I don't know how or what it is. I’m serious all the time no funny business from this sad shit

Gal67 · Answer

I wouldn't know how to flirt even if my life depended on it.

Likes2drive · Answer

Maybe sometimes but I don’t do it very often anyway

Tiger288 · Answer

I'm the worst when get hint by women flirting with me it cause me confused and wonder if she just friendly polite or dare to flirt with me

Elliegirl · Answer

Nope. I think I’m quite good at flirting.

Anonymous · Answer

No i think it just comes naturally for me. Unless the situation was really awkward then probably.

Anonymous · Answer

I was awesome at it when I was young then I dated somebody for 5 years lost it and now I’m slowly gaining it back again

McKellar · Answer

Nope, that I don't. I just struggle with being some woman's type.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know anything about flirting. How to flirt, when to flirt arr completely lost to me so I avoid it when I can unless I was flirted at, even then I fall on my face.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Well, when I try to flirt in real life, I feel like I sound like a creepy guy

Better_off_here · Answer

i seem to struggle to have the right time to do it i think.

xXcrystalskullXx · Answer

Yes - I'm told I come off as more friendly than flirtatious.

Srij23 · Answer

Yes, i stuggle with keeping the conversation going on.

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