What are good indicators that a co-worker is flirting vs. just being friendly?

[Anonymous]

Here are some examples that gave "suspicion" of potential flirting -

*He always finds stuff to talk about with me. Even little, pointless things. It's like he absolutely HAS to talk to me.
*He has started randomly using my name. He will say my name to get my attention, randomly use my name in a sentence when it wouldn't truly be necessary to use my name, etc.
*He looks my way a lot. I will look up and catch him staring directly at me. He typically looks away quickly once he sees me look, but sometimes he will keep looking for a few seconds before turning.
*He seems fidgety. He will adjust his clothes or mess around with his hair a lot. He also whistles a lot randomly when I'm around. Recently when we were cleaning up, he walked by me and randomly sang a verse of a song on the radio (he typically doesn't sing to the radio at work - he might whistle to certain songs but not sing).
*He makes direct eye contact when we talk and tries to hold/keep my gaze/attention.
*once he was working directly with me on something and he walked by me and said "huh?". I didn't know what he meant, so I said "what?" and he was like "Oh, I thought you said something". I said no, I hadn't said anything.
*He started wearing cologne and seemed to want me to compliment it. He came over and said someone had said something about it and kept saying he thought it smelled good, so I took the bait and said it smelled nice. He seemed happy with that and made sure I knew what it was called and got me to tell him what I wear too.
*He asked my age. I overheard someone asking him how old he was. He told them then came over to me and told me that person was wanting to know how old "we" were. I knew they hadn't asked "US" anything. It was JUST directed at him. I simply overheard it. He said they told him he looked young then asked me how old I was. I told him and he said what he would have guessed.

So does that sound flirty? How can you tell the difference between true flirting and just being friendly?

[Pyrofox]

Does he purposely go out of his way to assist and spend brakes specifically with just you. Even if it's just enjoying the same air? To me that's a dead give away is if guys are going above and beyond and then respect a girl but also be super helpful. Beyond just "oh you dropped this?" To me it is a dead giveaway.

Just probably doesn't want to be the one pulling the trigger on the relationship. And probably doesn't want to like scare you off either. So probably just willing to play it off as friends.

After all guys won't say this to a girl's face but no real charming dude is gonna wanna here a ex banter with other friends/colleague is a creep or predator. In this day and age most guys would rather take the high road if a girls not interested I think most guys will just accept it wasn't meant to be.

[kinggeorge007]

What do you want it to be? This is what matters the most. If you want it to be flirting you can consider anything flirting and sign him that you like him back. If not just let him know you are not interested via a similar sign.

[Helotome]

That list doesn't indicate that he is interested because he didn't tell you so. I believe you are looking for signs that tells he likes you because you like him.

Did he take you out for a dinner? Do he hints that he is single?
Had he asked you if you are taken?

[Asker]

Did you not read "flirting"? I didn't say anything about "liking" or "dating". I asked if these were indicators of FLIRTING instead of just friendly behavior. Also, I take it English is not your first language. If it is, you definitely need to work on your grammar.

You don't have to take someone out to dinner if you're flirting. Asking someone out for dinner is asking them out on a DATE. I was NOT referring to dating. I just asked if the list provided would qualify as indicators he may very well be getting flirty with me.

For the record, no, he has not mentioned a girlfriend or anything like that. He doesn't really talk about other girls in front of me. He doesn't pay other girls much attention when they are around either. We have not discussed each other's relationship status as of yet. He just recently asked about my age, so perhaps that was a "warm up". We shall see. I simply wanted opinions as to whether his behavior would be considered flirty or not. I wasn't going for dating or anything.

[Helotome]

First leave my English level shit alone. I am doing my best to reply in the only language you probably know.

You are seeking the signs that you want to see. He is being friendly with you. If you can't hear otherwise then stop seeking other people's opinion when clearly you are so convinced that he is flirting with you.

Most people flirt with the people they are interested in.

[Asker]

I said if it IS your first language, you need to work on it. Apparently you need to work on reading comprehension skills too.

I am allowed to ask others if these would be signs of friendliness or more towards a flirting level. That is exactly what I did. If you have a problem with that, DON'T ANSWER. Problem solved.

Obviously, yes, people flirt with those they are interested in. Some flirt for "sport" so to speak (as in they flirt just for fun without ever desiring to pursue anything).

This questions was purely asking would these be signs of flirting or friendliness. It did NOT have to be a big issue like you made it out to be and there was no call for rudeness.

[Helotome]

You are the rude ass here. You judge my English skill. It's my 4th languages unlike your ass that only master one.

Girl goodluck. Using perhaps in your sentence tell me that you already know that he is friendly but you wish he is flirting with you. Save my conservation for future references. He just friendly with you because you get along together well.

[Asker]

Lol wow. You automatically know that I only speak one language? Well, just so you know, you're wrong. Also, I really don't care either way. If he's flirting, whatever. If he's being friendly, I will keep being friendly too. This was a simple situation of me asking if this could be flirting or not.

[Guy__]

If your venus is in 10th house...
According to
I really do think there is something to it. Not a trained astrologer, but somehow my astrology report is over 90% correct in everything about me. As if I wrote a biography.
I'm not sure if this was even slightly humorous...

But to answer your question, I bet 100% he is into you. I'd only do the things you listed if I was very attracted to you.

[Guy__]

I read an article that when venus is in the tenth house you will likely meet your partner through your career, possibly a coworker. I actually only read that today and was shocked as I felt it to be true for a long time.

[jamesgoldman]

In my experience, I didn't realize until I woke up on her father's couch with her blowing me

Turned out she'd been flirting for a couple of months and I was utterly oblivious to it even when colleagues said as much

[20yearsolder]

His hands are on your hips and you can feel his boner rubbing your ass

[Ram-man]

Yup he seems to like you. She. You go out of your way to put your self into conversations or in their general area that’s a hint.

[deshazoj2]

You can make your own decisions l