Could accidental touches be on purpose?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy whom is also my best friend that I really like and I feel like I have been getting mixed signals from. It seems like we are always touching.. whether it be him brushing up against me walking by or me doing it to him. Then also we are smoking buddies so there a lot of passing things and our fingers are always touching. There is never really a time that our fingers don’t touch. Sometimes it’s even more than that and it’s like he is touching my whole hand. Too there was one time when we were talking not to long ago and I just looked in his eyes and he started staring back in mine. We both were stumbling over our words… it felt like we were sucked into each other’s world. Could this be an unspoken attraction? Maybe two people afraid to make a move or just coincidence?

[Anonymous]

Traveling down that road is scary, and it’s understandable that you’re afraid of losing him, but hiding the truth will pretty much ensure a slow, painful, awkward death to your friendship.

I’ve found it’s much better to be straight and up-front, and let them be free to decide what happens next. Honestly, you’ll be ok no matter what happens, and (this is important): Full honesty is the only way you get to be you. Sure you may get rejected and that would suck. Or, you might fall madly in love only to have the relationship explode in a few months or years.

Life is uncertain.

The questions you need to ask yourself are…

• Am I ok never knowing?
• Am I ok never trying?
• Would I rather torment myself with a secret crush on a close friend, or let it out so I can relax and be honest?

Being scared is ok, and normal.

It means your brain is telling you “this is important to me.”

But it doesn’t mean you should freeze, and do nothing.

[Talwood]

From a man's perspective... don't read anything into the "fingers touching" one the puff puff pass activities. Don't read much into the whole hand touching during times where you are passing things. Believe me, we (men) are cerebral in the way we think. This touching is most likely without emotion... however, the staring in your eyes and stumbling over words is different. That has emotion tied into it. If that happened and he didn't move in closer... he is scared to be the one to initiate it. Guys that clearly believe they are in the "friend zone" will make subtle motions, but will never move all in. You will have to be the one to move. It will be you moving 90% and him moving 10% (a Hitch reference). You will have to be the one to let him know that he is no longer in the friend zone. If you don't, he won't.

[Makeushiver]

Yeah, they could be but it's also possible that you may have triggered the behavior by brushing against the person in question. I've had that happen before and it is something that I've seen and experienced as a form of flirting but if it bothers you say something as soon as it does

[EspressoTeen234]

Im a high school teen I always notice when its those tiny desks grouped up girls try their hand at physical conversation when they don’t know anything about the guy after trying to say hi.

Two girls in my classes always do this every day I have the class. One girl holds her foot their after touching. It can be on purpose both from girls and boys.

[Andrew2128]

You mean if I accidentally grab your breast I mean I guess it could be on accident

[BackwoodsPofit]

Ohhhh yes. Definitely