I immediately lose interest in guys I found attractive when they start flirting with me, why?

[Anonymous]

Whenever a guy I try is attractive starts flirting with me I lose interest completely it js grosses me out.

I find it most attractive when a guy and I are just joking around if that leads to flirty territory usually that’s fine but then I’ll start feeling ill

problem is this wards off most men because I feel ill and block them without explanation.

I have good self esteem and I want a boyfriend how can I stop being grossed out when guys flirt with me?

[Jimrat86]

I stopped flirting for this very reason. I don't think all the dating advice is I hear about when it comes to that is super accurate. I'd rather the person be comfortable than risk being ghosted for being too aggressive. That said, it kind of annoys me because it kinda takes the fun out of dating sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Maybe because you’d give more attention to a man who completely ignores you that you find attractive. You’re so used to men just showing up at your door so sounds as though you know you have a lot of options. But just maybe that one hit dude who completely ignores you will be the one you go after.

[Subarugirl]

Probably because you like the idea of them but not the reality. So when you are faced with reality its a turn off.

[CoolCatMar1]

Maybe it's because you don't like what you can easily get?

[abc3643]

You want what you cannot have.
(So, once you realize that you can have it, you don't want it anymore.)

Many women suffer from this.

[roy_ricky09]

Perfect example of negative imacts of Social media contents and availability. Too much unrealistic expectations which do not match with the reality.

No offence. Just think about it deeply.

[satori-in-life]

It sounds like you might have some latent issues, maybe family or father related. Perhaps intimacy related. I'd suggest looking into therapy or some kind of counseling.

[Subarugirl]

or more likely, she is realizing that doesn't actually like the person once she gets to know them.

[Asker]

Completely healthy family life especially with my dad.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You're commitment phobic. You think that if you have a relationship, something terrible will happen.

[Katyalov]

We always want what we can’t have. Once you got the guy’s attention, suddenly you wanna move along to the next one.

[Anonymous]

I was with you right till you said " I have good self esteem". I can't answer your question until you're ready to be honest with yourself. Sorry.

[Asker]

I mean genuinely though. I’ve struggled with my self image before but after working on that for years I’ve been in a great place confidence wise. I truly love myself.

[Opinion Owner]

If that were true you wouldn't be seeking thier approval. When you get it then you lose interest. It's most likely a power thing with you.

[Surely]

You must like the chase. When you see that you have gotten his interest. The excitement is over to you.

[Brando10222]

That's a good sign. I think you'll be fine with him flirting after you both have confessed feelings for each other

[Shy_Steve]

I have a similar problem, When Girls do show me Attention I retreat back into my shell because of my Shyness which is why I'm still single.

[Guy13]

Scared of risk.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they don't do it in a pleasant way and you ar entitled to feel so

[DizzyDesii]

Damn well thats a new one

[PinkRose24]

You have mental issues. Get some help.

[Danny_dan92]

Because you’re weird

[Danny_dan92]

Just cause girls talk to me doesn’t mean I get bitches.

[Danny_dan92]

Nah. Other men make me irrelevant.

Then they come back later when they got played and want my attention again.

[Danny_dan92]

Just self aware really