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Today at the grocery store I saw very beautiful girl with a lovely smile , wanted to say you are beautiful to her but got scared thought she might see that as harassment , Im not the best looking guy out there
Was my thoughts wrong?
I don't do anything like that at all, I'm a very nervous guy nowadays as a nerd who's very wise now and every year I get older, to just not risk such things, no matter how they may seem as innocent, but I'm just expressing my own views and no advice. I'm just talking about myself here about myself, I don't talk to strange women except professionally and I don't do anything, no matter how small, that could be misconstrued afterward or in future. A man has to be careful nowadays and I'm that man to be careful, so others do what they do, but I for one stick to myself and if I wanted to compliment someone, I'd wait until it was a woman on a dating app who selected me, not I selected them and they expressed interest in me first, unless, unless, it's a scammer, which is probably would be on an app potentially. Ha.
So I'm happily single. And I don't mind staying single. It's better than court or a jail cell, I tell myself often 😅😅 as a nerdy slightly paranoid guy I am. And who could disagree with my lack of approaching women nor even complimenting women. Uh uh.
If you're an ugly man yes if you're a hot attractive man with confidence no.
It's definitely not harassment. Anyone that thinks it is, is typically either a feminazi or a misogynist. Normal people think hitting on either gender isn't harassment. It would only step into harassment if the man or woman asks them to stop and they don't or make it physical. However, you have to be careful as people are allowed to have opinions and voice them.. flirting included 😜
Too many people (women in particular) have lied about men "harassing" them or falsely claiming abuse for attention. This needs to stop. Flirting is a great behaviour of social interest and interaction. It's often necessary by those who are single. I say, flirt more and be upfront like the man most woman want. Don't listen to the loud and annoying feminazis that speak over the voices of normal women that adore men. ❤️
It is not harassment, she would prob. appreciate it, but it depends how you say it and how she takes it, what mood she is in etc. As an example of how it can get a little awkward, I had this happen once at a grocery store and then he and I happened to be the only two people leaving the store at the same time (it was night) and our cars happened to be close to each other so I am there walking at night in a somewhat dark parking lot alone w him, you might say my fear was irrational, nothing happened, but I was nervous. Most of the time when I get compliments like that I like it tho, actually I enjoyed the compliment itself before it led to that moment of being nervous later. JMO!
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No it’s not harassment to give someone a complement. It’s harassment if you keep bothering someone who doesn’t want to be bothered.
If you want to give someone a complement just do it. MOST people would take it the right way. A small percentage of people wouldn’t but they’re the ones with the problem and not worth your time
Isn't this a situational driven concern? If one is in the workplace then yes it is harassment according to HR. If not calling one by proper chosen pronouns is harassment then "hey beautiful" would seem to be too. In a bar and like environments a "wow, you're stunning seem appropriate. NOT an HR expert...
Only if she's not attracted to you. LOL
In most sane places around the world, a single comment "in passing" would not be considered harassment, even if the comment was unasked for. HOWEVER... when you think about doing that, ask yourself "why" - what is my motive, my intent, my purpose. I think you'll find, if you're a guy, that 99% of the time it's because YOU want her ATTENTION and nothing more.
In my opinion, the vast majority of beautiful, or hot women, already know they're hot. You adding to that and thinking it's a compliment isn't going to phase them one bit. My advice is just enjoy the view and keep going, especially these days. If it were my grandparents time, it would be a different story.
It's not harassment. Believe it or not, even if you don't look like a model, most girls will actually appreciate a none-sexual compliment like being called beautiful. She might be awkward or shy, but as long as you don't force yourself on her and keep a respectful distance then there isn't a single problem with it.
I sometimes have people, never men though, who compliment my hair and ask to touch it, and that makes me extremely uncomfortable. As long as you respect boundaries, compliments can make someone's day.
Depends entirely on how you deliver it.
You may approach her and say something like "hey I have been meaning to tell you this for a while and don't take me wrong, but I think you're really beautiful." You see, for most women being approached by any man, even when very charismatic is scary because there are plenty of stories out there of how harmless interactions with a man eventually led to some gruesome crime. It's not that we want to be rude to men or anything, but it's purely a matter of putting our own safety first for most women so even if someone is creeped out or uninterested, I urge you to not take it personally.
There are designated places where approaching someone isn't a bad thing at all, and yes I am talking about bars and clubs. I've been approached and complimented by men who don't necessarily look like movie stars, but they had good disposition and behaved very politely so I didn't feel uncomfortable at all when they complimented me.
I've given a stranger or two compliments in the past when I couldn't resist to say something about it.
I'd just give her the compliment and just walk away.
Example1: "Excuse me. I just honestly wanted you to know that you have a beautiful smile. You have a great day."... and walk away.
Example2: "Hello. I'm in a bit of a hurry but I had to quickly stop to tell you that your perfume smells delightful. Gotta go now. You have a beautiful day."... and walk away.
Don't stick around enough to let her feel that she HAS to respond or that you're trying to get something back from her.
If (for whatever reason) she'd have the need to engage or something, she can call u back, follow you, or whatever.
But at least she won't feel threatened.
Don't consider what I wrote as a law. It's just my experience so far.
Perhaps I haven't ran into anyone yet looking to sue a guy who just gave them a compliment.
Try to take comments from men more seriously than from women, because men know better when it comes to such situations. We have experienced them first hand and we can tell you what the Reality truly is. If you are a 7 on a scale 1-10, your compliment would be more than appreciated, heck man, you might even get lucky, but if you are a 6 or below, watch out, she might think of you as a creep and if a man is below 4, he might fright her and things might turn ugly for him real fast.
Believe it or not you made a good decision. Doing that does nothing for you and only provides her w/ additional attention, and yes if you're not attractive she could easily see that as harrasment. If you're going up to her w/ the intention of getting something for you then it makes sense but just to say something corny like that, you're better off not saying anything at all.
I saw a man asked to leave a bar simply because he said "Hi" to a female. If I don't know her generally I do not make comments to her. This is a motto I have lived by now for many years. I have invited females sitting alone to join our group, but that is the limit. I know I am a cynical asshole. Being arrested because of a false claim made by a wack job tends to make you cynical. REMEMBER the definition of harassment is her choice.
It depends on how you do it... If you just come up to me and say "I'm sorry, but I couldn't help but to stop and tell you that your smile brightened my day." And then walked away, Id feel on top of the world... If you expected that that compliment entitled you to an hour long conversation and my number, that could lead into harassment.
Funny thing is, if I saw you again a day or so later and you casually said hello, you'd probably get my number.
Here's the truth of the matter... it IS "harassment" IF she feels like accusing you and making your life miserable. Unfortunately, today there are a lot of feminists and bitter women with pent up anger just looking for a man whose life they can ruin. You made the right decision.
If you are hot, it is not harassment, if you are not hot, it is harassment.
I would tell her 'You seem like the kind of girl that makes most guys feel a lack of confidence. I, on the other hand, expect to be worshiped. So, do yourself a favor and take a picture of me, go home and build an altar, and pray to me.'
If that’s all you said no, if she didn’t like your remarks and you kept making them, then that would be harassment
It's not harrassment? It's just a simple compliment. Now if she stomps her feet and screams at you for dare saying that to her face... that's her problem. You just bein' nice. :1
It isn’t harassment. However, she may find it uncomfortable if you are a complete stranger. You can just admire her from afar. You don’t me have to tell her.
if you say it politely and keep your distance and in the culture it's normal to say that stuff like that she won't have a problem with it. or else avoid
Actually, I used to be shy but I think you should tell how you feel about her but keep note that they may think you are weird
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