Is sitting on a guys lap flirting or are you saying more?

[JezzOz1]

I got caught sitting on the birthday boys lap and my boyfriend says I was flirting but I was seriously walking by and was pulled down on his lap and at that moment when I was getting up is when he was walking in? Got mad and started a bunch of drama I'm I wrong or is he?

[dynamicyandere]

A girl sitting on a guys lap is kind like a guy putting his arm around a girl’s waist. Or getting your butt spanked by another guy at a pool party. It’s a sexually charged position that usually used for sexually charged situations.


But, the fact that you were pulled down onto a guy’s lap makes it an accident. Bad timing. You didn’t consent to be being manhandled like that.


If your boyfriend understood the context, he should be pissed at the guy that laid his hands on you.

[RavVid]

I can understand him being mad at you being onBBs lap. Ok you were pulled down and he didn't see that. Maybe you didn't immediately get up so there wasn't a fuss - I don't know. I think you have to give him credit that he only knows what he saw.

I think it comes down to how credible you are to him. if there is other stuff you might not be and it is better you break up.

[Anonymous]

If it's really as you say then it's ok, but otherwise if you're sitting on a guy's lap you're saying I'll make out with you in the other room if you want, and maybe more.

[SecretsofKB]

In the context of your situation, it was obviously an accident. Your boyfriend sounds immature and insecure.

[RavVid]

In the circumstance it wasn't an accident but entirely intended by the BB.

[LiamJHayden]

In this context, he is. But it is understandable. Suppose the situation were flipped and some girl came and straddled him while he was just sitting there, and as he was pushing her off you walked in. How would you react? You two need to sit down and talk it through.

[Ill_made_Knight]

Sounds like one of those guys that uses situations to get a feel in, kind of take advantage of traditional situations like the mistletoe to get a bit more than they normally would... creep move on the guys part and really bad timing.

[MrCommodore]

The other guy pulled you into his lap, that was inappropriate behaviour. I don't think you did anything wrong.

[ArrowheadSW]

Well if you got pulled into it momentarily, I don't see that as being a big deal. Not like you had time to think of it.

[Mimi_loves_her]

Usually I would way it would be flirting or trying to sexually arouse the person but you got pulled so that him/the person flirting with you. Your boyfriend is wrong.

[Anemone978]

sitting on a guys lap is slutty but if his friend pulled you down its the friends fault

[Shamalien]

You shouldn’t be on a guy’s lap that’s not your bf…ofc he was angry. You should slap the birthday boy

[Kelly6]

It’s accident

[Figurine89]

It's only flirting, if you want it to be.

[Anonymous]

Its way more than flirting.