And you're both in completely different jobs, so no you can't just go and offer to help her because you need to be at your computer to do your work
What do you do for a girl you like if you both work in an office?
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Usually I will give her a promotion or an open office that I find and get IT to set her up in a vacant office. Several weeks go by and she’s gotten used to the office and I announce to her that she’s getting a raise. She is excited and immediately wants to date me but I tell her it is against company policy and she politely acknowledges my loyalty to the company and the job. Soon she has an issue with payroll not processing her raise. I tell her I’ll take care of it and that it’ll be fixed soon and that she’ll get her back pay in addition to the missed raise. Weeks go by and she still doesn’t have a raise so I tell her I’ll get it taken care of. I then tell her I want to meet her for dinner but we have to do so secretly because of the company policy about dating your superior. She agrees to be discreet so we meet for happy hour. Once she’s a few drinks in, I calmly explain to her the situation. I tell her I have a crush on her and that I wanted to impress her by getting her an empty office and pretending I’m her boss. I then tell her how I fixed her payroll problem because she has been getting paid the correct paycheck amount all along. I then go on and explain that the office she had been using is going to be used by a new employee starting later that week and that she has to move all her stuff out. She starts to look shocked that this has all been a big misunderstanding on her part. I then tell her the good news - she no longer has to worry about that pesky company policy because I’m not her superior. I expect her to be ecstatic that we can finally be a couple and show the world our love 💕 but she just stares down at her drink, looks up at me and throws the drink in my face. She didn’t even go home with me. The next day, she reports me to HR but now, the joke’s on her, I never was employed there. I just found an ID card one employee lost and started showing up everyday to see how long it would take for anyone to notice. Sadly, the tactic failed and I have to find a new office and try again.
Is this a joke reply?
Wait. Why would it be a joke? This totally happened!
nothing. i act professionally at work. if i'm not it, being paid to help her, she's on her own. i won't jeopardize my job to help some woman at work.
As i said, you can't help her in this situation. It doesn't mean you can't talk to her though. It also depends on the office, if there's no public around etc.
People are lying if you claim you never talk to your colleagues whilst working m what about in break or on the way in? Christmas parties?
well as i initialls said: i act professionally at work. so that means i do not help any coworker beyond how a professional would act towards any coworker. work isn't a place i simp for women at. i do that in my free time.
So you never have alaugh whilst working? Id be wrecking my brains
so she wouldn't get any help beyond the help that a male coworker would get in the same situation.
i'm merely saying: she's a COWORKER. i don't consider her a mate or a date. yes i will be friendly INSIDE the boundaries of a professional work environment. nothing akin to doing something special cause i "like" her.
No because it would be distracting you from your work. But there's no law against havi g a laugh with someone or talking about things you enjoy doing. Everyone dods it and you won't be sacked for it
Even the bosses like having a laugh
If you are friendly with someone you might just find her likeable enough to hang our in break, im Not suggesting anything beyond being friendly with someone.
But of course there's nothing stopping you exchanging numbers/socials and hanging out with her outside of work.
I don't know if what i said came across right. i will not give her any treatment that i would NOT give a coworker. and sure you're more fond of some coworkers than others. but i will not do anything special that i only do cause "i like her as a woman".
I didn't say that because as i said, in this situation you can't abondand your job to help hers lol which is why im asking whay would you do if you did find soneone likeable you would like to hang out with outside of work
oh in this case i would actually treat a woman differently than a man. i would not hang out after work with a female coworker. with a male, i would maybe.
i do not want to have any sexual/romantic stuff happen with a coworker ever. with a man, there's no risk of that happening ever. but withz a woman i may fuck that up, as she transitions the barrier between "professional world" and "private world".
So you wouldn't go there even if you really liked her? Would u not attend Christmas parties?
i will not romance or fuck a coworker no matter how much i like her. and i would do my best to avoid situations where i could be tempted.
I will go to a Christmas party but that's a formal public work event. Not informal and private.
Offer to meet for lunch or to have drinks after work. To make it less direct you can invite a group out and include her.
Ok but is this straight away after meeting her?
Sure. I mean unless you can talk to her at work sometime. I suggested the group thing because you can email a group saying you are meeting at _________ restaurant after work on Friday and hope everyone comes for drinks after a busy week. Then she feels less pressure to come or decline the invite
Even if she doesn’t come you still have fun on a Friday :)
Interesting. I never assumed it was important (i mean we no longer in contact but i wondered about the signs) he mentioned to me about the work night out in literally our first meeting lol
Yep so he was asking you out and if you liked him you would have gone.
We had literally just met. We had a falling out later on and he literally blocked me from going. I dont think im pretty at all and in work im literally just getting through it without dying 🤣 we was going to go for a walk aswell and someone said it was an unspoken date but i was like no i just needed someoen with me xos it was dark
You don't ask out girls from work when you just met. Most women will assume you just want sex, reject you and be uncomfortable around you from now on.
You have to give it some time for her to get to know you first. That's office romance 101
Not sure why you replied here whdn you ignored my dm but ok