Do men generally enjoy women hitting on them because it tends to happen less frequently and aggressively for them?

[Anonymous]

I've heard a lot of guys say that women should be grateful they get hit on as much as they do and that they would love women to hit on them more and wouldn't be creeped out by it even if was a woman they considered unattractive or weird, i.e., they feel it would still be a compliment to them.

I feel like guys don't get it though. Being hit on is cool, that isn't our issue. It's when you're at the gym just trying to get through a workout unbothered or a guys being super sexual with it, being chased down by a guy which is creepy, or a guy physically touches you without your permission---this is the stuff that women hate about it. I don't think women are complaining because a nice guy was like, you look beautiful today. We wish all the flirting/hitting on was that awesome, but some guys are just creepers, and men don't experience this side of flirting/hitting on a lot.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Most men typically do not find flirty advances creepy.

Touching without permission goes too far for disease risk reasons, but no amount of verbal flirting, following, questioning, or getting flashed by a woman is "creepy" as long as touching is prohibited until otherwise stated.

I think a lot of women in general are just easily scared of things.
Spiders, bugs, snakes, lizards, rats, the dark, loud noises, men, the list goes on. A woman with nerves of steel is MUCH more attractive, but only if she also is logical instead of reckless. So your reaction would be a sort of red flag to them I guess.

I imagine many of these men are testing women, seeing how they react to see if they are "tomboyish" enough (mentally speaking, not physically) to date. Most men want a woman who only looks girly, and doesn't think "girly".

I personally avoid hitting on strangers, and prefer women who hit on me instead. So instead I have to do the nerves of steel test by looking at how she lives and interacts with the world around her. Like if she has a pet tarantula or something, and likes action games that are intense, and scary sci-fi movies, and porn, thats a good sign she isn't going to be easily scared, startled, or offended.

[shades777]

Depends, its not a compliment if a Lizzo thinks I'm cute and shoots her shot then again that's a consequence with being buff, for whatever reason big girl us me... when I'm checking for a Szr, Halle Berry type.


I rather do the approaching, I already know what I want.

[Avicenna]

It's enjoyable because it's fun. Even if the woman is clumsy in her flirting it's fun.

[FilmGuy93]

Yes. Although, any man who has had women hitting on them can tell you how boundary-violatey and forceful women can get. It can get alarming, honestly.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But much like women we have to worry about manipulative women. It's a double edged sword. Sure we like being hit on. But generally it's just the manipulative women that do that hitting on.

[Asker]

What are they trying to manipulate you into doing?

[Opinion Owner]

This is a default setting for some women. They have no interest in him. They have no real interest in ANY man. But they still enjoy the act of flirting and they get a charge out of controlling a guys desire. Essentially they're just fishing for sport. The lure him, then snag him, then after she's reeled him in enjoys the accomplishment of the catch. Then just like that releases him. Done. Moving on to the next catch. Men know this, experienced men. This comprises the majority of single women over 30 I'm sorry to say.

[Ben487]

Yeah I wouldn’t like being grabbed but comments would be nice

[Anonymous]

Yes.