My wife's sister flirted with me, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Before we start I didn't start anything with her. I don't even talk to her nor do I keep in contact with her. So last week we were on a family trip. We slept in villa. So one morning, it was like 3 in the morning, I went down in the kitchen to read and have some alone time. A few minutes after her sister came down a started talking to me. Now I don't like her sister because of the horrible things she said and did to my wife and overall she is a horrible person. I was giving her short answers. Then she sat next to me to see what I was Reading. I told her to move. She didn't. She then RUBS MY ARM AND MY CHEST. I feel so bad because my wife doesn't know😞😞. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

First, you should tell your wife about this.

It's understandable that you feel uneasy and unsure about how to handle this situation. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and to consider the potential impact on your relationship with your wife and her family.

The first step is to be honest with your wife and tell her what happened. You may want to approach the conversation in a calm and respectful manner, and be prepared to answer any questions she may have. It's important to reassure her that you did not encourage or reciprocate her sister's behavior, and that you are committed to your relationship with your wife.

Depending on your wife's reaction and the severity of the situation, you may also want to consider setting boundaries with her sister or avoiding situations where you are alone with her in the future. It's important to communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively, and to prioritize your own safety and well-being.

In any case, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or therapist to process your feelings and navigate this challenging situation.

[slatyb]

Wow, nasty In a private moment make it clear to her that you aren't interested. Then avoid being alone with her.

[Anonymous]

I think you should tell your wife. It’s one thing to notice that the sister attracted to you, like crushes happen and you’re not doing wrong by your wife so it’s easily brushed off. But for her to cross the boundary into physical touch is where you should draw the line.

[Asker]

I agree. I am most definitely going to tell my wife! It's just that I don't know how this is going to affect my marriage. I can assure that my wife will indeed lose trust in me😞. She has already lose trust in her sister. I just hope this doesn't destroy our marriage.

[Opinion Owner]

Is it easy to keep your distance? I would be around the sister as minimal as possible from here on out. I don't know how your wife will take the news, I bet she and her sis have bumped heads about men in the past and if some then she won’t be happy. But that’s nothing to do with you, so make sure you’re clear about that.

[Asker]

Yes I've been doing that. My wife never introduced me to any of her family except her mother and father and their old sister and brother. I always wondered why my wife never introduced me to her. I can sure see it now. You honestly don't know how awful she is. She has said some pretty hurtful things to my wife. When it came to boys, it was always her being the one that got attention from men. My wife doesn't care for that. My wife doesn't have to do anything to get a guy to like her. Her sister does tho. She is a very jealous person. When they are on the phone together as a family, the things she say are ridiculous. It's always hateful towards women. See my wife doesn't need a man to complete her life, her sister does though. I admire my wife's devotion to her belief and morality. With that being said, my wife would not take this well. I may even get divorced 😓

[Asker]

My wife is not easy and she doesn't take mess. Especially, mess like this.

[OddBeMe]

Depends on how often you want to hear bitching and fighting. I grew up with it so avoid it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Stay clear of this chick, she will find a way to destroy your marriage.

[SnowedIn]

Do nothing. Just move on.