Girls never flirt with me. Does this mean I don't stand a chance?

[ValeriusDover]

My approach has always been simple, to only ask out a girl who would show interest. Unfortunately for me, in all of my life, not a single girl has shown even a sliver of interest in me. I can't but feel that that means the whole thing just isn't for me. If I was even average looking, I'd at least get some signs of interest, but there hasn't been even one hint directed at me. What am I supposed to do with all that dating advice if I can't even get past the first step, the one step that's out of my hands?

[Selene1600000]

The conclusion “no one has ever shown interest, therefore dating isn’t for me” feels logical in the moment, but it’s actually an overgeneralization, not a fact. Interest is usually subtle, context-dependent, and often not noticed unless you’re already engaging people socially and creating opportunities for it to appear. Also, “first step is out of my hands” isn’t quite true, because signals of interest are often responses to how approachable, socially active, and emotionally comfortable you are, not something that just randomly happens to you. If your approach is mostly waiting for clear signals before acting, you’ll almost always end up with nothing, because most people don’t signal that clearly. A more workable shift is to stop measuring success as “do they show interest first” and instead focus on “can I build enough interaction that interest can develop.” That means more low-pressure conversations, more social exposure, and more willingness to tolerate uncertainty without interpreting it as rejection immediately.

[_Maya_]

How do you interact with girls? That might be your issue. If initial interaction isn't a good one, they might just not give you a second glance. First impressions count a lot. Also, if you are expecting girls to just show interest in you out of thin air without being proactive about it, you are going to get nowhere fast. You need to put yourself in good positions to have conversations and get to know girls. I bet you aren't doing that. Just feeling sorry for yourself is not going to help. We can sense confidence.

[ValeriusDover]

I just talk to them like normal people, keeping my cool without giving anything away. I never show my cards first. If girls never showed interest in guys who didn't display interest first, there'd be no such thing as girls having one-sided crushes.

[Sanser]

I really think this depends in first impresions overall and the way you interact with them... I must say Im kinda bipolar. Sometimes Im a clown and I talk like a parrot and sometimes Im too reserve... well the times I have had a hookup with a girl is when I was in clown mode... the worst is that I can't control it...
I recommend you trying just to socialize and talk to girls more, not like flirting, just a friend and say jokes and be active. Active and proactive like I say. If you are that you will be interesting.

[ValeriusDover]

I never address girls I don't know, but once I am having a conversation I tend to be proactive.