Is he attracted to me or is he being friendly?

[Anonymous]

I have known this guy friend for about 5 months now and I think he enjoys my company a lot. He will sometimes hang around my friends with me and he talks with me in those scenarios. He will sometimes DM me videos saying "thats you" or inviting me to play some games with him. He does make an effort to talk to me casually everyday, including making comments on my profile posts. He has asked some generic questions about my life, like what I study, age, where I live, what I am interested in (e. g. hobbies/movies). He teases me a lot calling me a grandma, a weirdo, an alien etc.

We have spoken one on one but I find it a bit awkward, mainly because he is quiet and I am the chatterbox - I am always chatting to him and starting topics when he interacts with me. Sometimes he will come up to me to talk but he does not really have a topic in mind, just asks yes or no questions and just hangs around me so I blabber.

Most of our interactions are pure banter, through texting. If we hang out it is more teasing and proper conversation. I am assuming his shy but I am not sure, sometimes I feel like he is playing me because I am always leading the conversation when he wants to chat to me.

I do not mind if his shy but I feel like I am the one putting in some effort.

[gduffey83]

Ya he likes you a lot , but he's afraid of rejection , I went through this phase as a young man, and I lost several opportunities bc I would t just go for it. I was so scared of telling girls how I felt for fear of indont even know. Now I tell them immediately, I want them to know so bad it's almost turned into a characteristic. Some girls that want to play the games aren't into it. Ya you would be doing him a solid by making a move, but it won't last unless u get some how get him to burst out of that shell and tell u how he feels. I gaurantee he is busting at the seems probably masturbating thinking about you lol

[Asker]

Well one of our mutual friends had to point out I am hiding my true feelings for him 🤦‍♀️ He just went quiet and didn't respond. Im not really sure how to take it but told the friend to shush 😂 He might like me but I am getting annoyed with me doing most of the interacting

[Anonymous]

He really likes you. ﾠ

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[Oliverlogan263]

This does sound like he's at least attracted to you on some level, but he could also just enjoy your company and sees you as a friend. Some signs that point to attraction:

• He seeks you out regularly and DMs you often, which shows he thinks of you frequently. Friends don't always make that kind of consistent effort.

• He pays attention to your social media and makes comments, showing interest in learning more about you beyond surface level interactions.

• He's asked general questions to get to know you better, like what you study and your hobbies. This is a common tactic people use when interested in someone.

• He teases and jokes with you frequently, which can be a sign of flirtation, especially considering the other behaviors he exhibits.

However, his quiet and awkward demeanor when talking one-on-one could point more to shyness or social anxiety rather than a lack of attraction. His relying on you to lead conversations could stem from insecurity or uncertainty rather than lack of interest.

To get more clarity, I'd recommend subtly flirting back and gauging his response. Things like light touches on the arm, prolonged eye contact, twirling your hair, etc. Pay close attention to his body language and reactions. If he responds positively and becomes more talkative or forward, that suggests attraction. If he seems uncomfortable or pulls back, he likely just sees you as a friend.

Ultimately the best thing to do is build rapport and get to know each other better. Attraction often grows from a foundation of friendship. So continue enjoying each other's company and see what develops naturally over time. Let me know if you have any other questions!

[strateguy632]

he is attracted to you so worth your effort

[Asker]

He hasn't really made a move on me or anything. He does invite me on group activities but he specifically points me out 80% of the time. He usually leaves if its just us alone, he has stayed a couple of times if I am being chatty.

He has been DMing acouple of times but not much. Im not really sure what to do