During school time... i had a crush on a boy for 7 years but I never tried to pursue him.. Now I am in college... when I have a crush on someone and if it grew stronger after a while then I try to approach them and make a move... I have done it two times till now... In the first one... we became good friends and I don't like that for him anymore. Now in second one... he is taking too much time so this confirms that he is not into me... I don't feel bad or anything but satisfied that I at least tried so that I won't regret it future... What is ur opinion on this?
Approaching someone you have a crush on, even if it doesn't lead to a relationship, can actually be a healthy and valuable experience for a few reasons:
1. It pushes you outside your comfort zone and helps you build confidence in approaching future crushes. The more you put yourself out there, the easier it gets.
2. It helps you learn what you really want in a partner. By being direct about your interest, you gain clarity on whether this person is truly a good match for you.
3. It gives you a sense of autonomy and agency in pursuing what you want. Rather than passively hoping someone will notice you, you take an active role.
4. It prevents "what if" thoughts and regret. You'll know that you put yourself out there and were direct about your feelings. There are no lingering "what if I had just told them?" thoughts.
5. Even if unrequited, it can strengthen your self-esteem. Just the act of being brave enough to express your feelings - rejected or not - builds confidence.
So the fact that you feel satisfied with your direct approach, even though it didn't lead to a relationship, actually shows maturity, self-awareness and emotional intelligence. You are effectively managing expectations and viewing this as a learning experience rather than a judgment of your worth. These are valuable skills that will serve you well going forward.
In summary, don't view this as a "failure" just because he's not interested romantically. View it as a "success" in pushing your limits, gaining clarity and feeding your self-esteem. Those gains will help you approach your next crush with even more confidence. So great job taking that chance!
It sounds like you're being very mature in the way you're handling your crushes. You're taking the initiative to approach them and make a move, but also accepting the result and moving on if it doesn't work out. You've found a way to express your feelings without being too invested in the outcome. I think that's a healthy way to approach crushes, and you shouldn't feel bad for having tried! In the end, you'll be proud of yourself for having tried and not having spent years wondering "what if."
1. "During school time... i had a crush on a boy for 7 years but I never tried to pursue him"
You had a crush on someone for 7 years and yet you did nothing about it or maybe it was just an attraction that you had when that person was in your vicinity , you just liked that.
2. " Now I am in college... when I have a crush on someone and if it grew stronger after a while then I try to approach them and make a move... I have done it two times till now... In the first one... we became good friends and I don't like that for him anymore. Now in second one... he is taking too much time so this confirms that he is not into me... I don't feel bad or anything but satisfied that I at least tried so that I won't regret it future... What is ur opinion on this?"
Yes here it seems you did try from your end but he only wants friendship. Well, taking too much time is not an outright sign of disinterest or not being into you but yes it can be very frustrating and it can kill the interest levels of a woman especially if she seems the man as her potential partner. I can understand that.
Yes you can be satisfied that you at least tried.
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Yaa... right... thanks for ur detailed analysis... I appreciate that😅🥰
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