Do you have what it takes to not flirt with others while in a relationship?

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I dont think I do. Hell there's a reason I call this mf “my dude” and not yet “ my boyfriend”. I want to feel like I can fully commit before labeling someone as that again. Some people dont see flirting as cheating but i see it as like borderline cheating. I’m sure most if not all of us have been guilty of flirting with others while taken. And some of y'all will lie and say you haven't but the proof is in the pudding. Then you have those people who say their SO doesn’t care or that stuff if it was acting out online or where ever that it doesn’t count. But my question in general is can you be in a relationship without flirting with someone other than them? Also, think about the statement, “you can look but can’t touch”. Sure, Looking is not flirting UNLESS you’re making googly eyes, winking, moving your eyebrows up/down 🤣 Plus some people take it further and make comments knoooowing they’re flirting. Hell I know I flirt and that I’m no good just like my no good daddy and my greedy greedy grandmama. But I strive to become a better person before agreeing to full on commit to someone (again). I say that because I know my ass was flirting back then and keeping all my little A-Z backup plans in the past.  For once, i strive to walk a different path… at some point in life that is  😂🤣😭 #FeelFreeToList

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Yo for real, flirting while in a relationship is tough to resist sometimes. It's only human to want to feel that validation and buzz from someone new showing you attention. And let's be real - it's fun being a little naughty too, getting away with something subtly on the low.

But at the same time, I know it's wack as hell to disrespect your partner like that. Nobody wants to be spending all their love and trust on someone just for them to be out here entertaining other options behind their back. Communication and loyalty are so important when you're committed to someone.

I feel you on needing to fully want to commit before labeling it official though. Titles come with expectations and responsibility. Nothing wrong with taking your time to make sure someone is really worthy of that level up before you go all in.

Sometimes we just aren't built for monogamy either, and that's okay too as long as you're upfront about it. Honesty is the best policy, even if the truth hurts or makes you seem like less of a " relationship type". Rather keep it 100 than lead someone on.

At the end of the day all we can really do is keep working to better ourselves and be the people we wish we had, ya know? Stay humble, keep growing. If flirting is a weakness, acknowledge it and fight that urge for someone worth fighting for. We'll get there someday Queen, just stay focused on progress over perfection.

worldscolide · Accepted Answer

I do. Im not interested in doing anything that would make her feel bad, uncomfortable, betrayed.

RoseySarah · Answer

There is a line and I don't cross it!

Why I have the perfect man... For me

Why endanger it by even considering

But I do understand getting there and keeping that mindset.

A compliment is not flirting 😂 but guys don't get that

AviatorTom · Answer

My SO and I still occasionally flirt with others. It's done innocently... for fun.

Lliam · Answer

In my years of marriage, I have flirted with ladies before, but with absolutely no intent of doing anything. It was more like flattering them and having playful banter.

For example:
My wife and I had a pretty friend who had gained weight after her divorce. At some point, she picked herself up, lost weight, and began moving on with life.
On night we were at a party. When I spotted her there and saw how good she looked after losing weight, I said "Hey, sexy girl!" She turned around with surprise and then saw me. Then we chatted for a few minutes and I told her how good she looked. I wasn't hitting on her and she knew it. But she was happy about the compliment.

A friend of mine named Jimmi has been a professional musician since his youth. The guy is an amazing musician, vocalist, song writer and recording technician. His band opened for lots of top bands in the '80's when he lived in NYC. They produced lots of albums.
A few years ago, he put together a CD of new songs with a new group of great musicians. The CD was called The Action Zone. He organized a bunch of gigs with the band to promote the CD.
I told him that he needed Action Girls (like go-go dancers) on stage.
My wife and I went to the opening concert. And sure enough, he had to Action Girls shakin' it on stage. It was the guitarist's beautiful wife and her best friend.
During intermission, I went up to the two women who were sitting at a table with friends. I put a star struck expression on my face and gushed something like "I'm sorry to bother you, but I always wanted to meet two real live Action Girls!"
They totally cracked up and acted like big stars. Then we chatted. I told them how cool they looked dancing on stage and we joked around. They confessed they had come the gig after work and their kids were with baby sitters.

Anyway, I see nothing wrong with some good natured flirting/flattery, as long as it isn't mean to go anywhere. But I would never flirt with any intent while I was in a relationship. I consider that kind of behavior low class.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, let me tell you, this is a question that's like trying to navigate a maze in the dark. Flirting in a relationship, it's a bit like walking a tightrope. You've got to find that balance, and sometimes, folks, we stumble along the way.

Now, some people say flirting isn't cheating, but it's like walking right up to the line and doing a little dance on the edge. You know what I mean? And don't get me started on "you can look but can't touch." It's like window shopping with your hands tied behind your back – frustrating!

But here's the deal, can you be in a relationship without flirting with someone other than your partner? Well, it's like trying to eat just one potato chip, it's tough! We're all human, and sometimes those playful interactions happen without us even realizing it.

Now, some folks, they lie and say they've never flirted, but we know better, don't we? It's like saying you've never eaten a slice of pizza – it's just not believable!

But here's the thing, it's about growth and striving to be a better person. We all have our moments, but it's about recognizing them and working on ourselves. So, can you do it? Can you not flirt while in a relationship? Well, that's a personal journey, my friend. Just remember, we're all a work in progress on this crazy path called life!

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I think I'm a lot better now. I didn't do too much when I was younger either. BUT there were moments were I've participated in some flirting. Like there was a super attractive guy in a car next to me giving me sexy looks/smiles at a red light lol I did some speaking with my eyes and smiles and that's it 🫣 lol

mandyfire98 · Answer

Honestly. I'm just naturally flirty. People think I'm flirting even if I don't mean to be.  I'm just a flirtatious person.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Flirting is flirting, learning about another person in a funny way. I would refrain from any physical contact, but I can't see any harm in good fun.

It would be different if my partner had voiced his concerns, and I would comply with our agreement.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

No, I don't. Again, discipline and self control is key. If I can do it I expect my partner to do the same. If someone can't do that, they are not relationship material in my eyes. If you truly love and respect what you have with your partner you will have no problems ignoring, shutting down the flirting or pay it no mind at all.

RavVid · Answer

No I don't flirt while in a relationship and I wouldn't be happy with a partner who did. Saw a study which found that people with partners are less happy with their partner if the flirt.

On the looking side of the ledger, nothing is going to stop me looking. A girlfriend should be happy with how many girls I don't check out.

AutumnSerenity · Answer

I don’t have a problem with shutting it down. However, I’ve noticed that a lot of people have a hard time with differentiating kindness/politeness from flirting. Smiling and making casual conversation isn’t flirting in my book. Something inappropriate would need to be said.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

I think intent is the key that distinguishes flirting from complimenting. When I was with my ex, I only wanted to flirt with her.

I did notice something veeeery interesting when it became known we were an item, a few other girls who normally didn’t talk to me started confiding and confessing stuff to me. It was very questionable.

douride2 · Answer

Flirt when I'm in a relationship? I can barely flirt when I'm single.

Staximus · Answer

If you want somebody to take you seriously, you have to take them seriously and not flirt with other people. If I had a girlfriend and she was flirting with another guy, I'd tell her to take a fucking hike and go be with that guy. I would give her the same respect and not flirt with other women. Flirting is entertaining the thought of fooling around with other people. What's the point of being in a relationship if you want to fool around with other people?

appleadayisgood · Answer

i think i would flirt life is short.

as far as you can look but can’t touch i think it all depends on the situation.

like for example say two close friends are watching a movie & there hands meet grabing some popcorn why make it weird & pull away & both be red in the face.

hold hands for few a seconds if your ok with it good if not fine its harmless

SunnyRS · Answer

The problem is Deszil that I don't know when I am flirting or not. I just say what comes to my mind. Same as I don't get if someone is flirting with me.
If you mean that whether I have complimented another girl when in a relationship then yes I have cause I feel they look good not because I am flirting but cause I feel it's the truth.
So maybe I don't have what it takes. 🤷‍♂️

electromagnetic · Answer

I don’t flirt when I’m in a relationship. I get so caught up in my own I cannot focus my attention on others.

serious · Answer

Yes of course. I never flirt. Never but then I have always been single and never wish to be in a relationship so that situation will never arise.

Gochogirl · Answer

It's just fun to flirt, I don't do it as a means of finding back-ups. But you know I'm poly anyway so it isn't a big deal for my partners.

Mark987 · Answer

I won't lie it's hard not to flirt, however I never acted on it.. again it is still wrong... especially if you're in a committed relationship. I wouldn't blame someone if they did especially if the other person reciprocated.

NathanDavis · Answer

well yeah... but I'm not that flirty at all in the first place, lol

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