Do “flirty friends” ever lead to anything?

Question

So I’ve been messaging this girl for a few days and she said that we’re better off friends because I don’t know how to be dominant. Then she sends me a video of her smoking listening to a song and making suggestive moves. Then she was like “what do you think?” And then I told her I thought she was hot. She was like “you should say this” and proceeded to make flirts. And when I did that she liked it. So I asked her “do I have a chance with you or no?” And she said “flirty friends”. To which I said “I need an answer lol” and she said “flirty friends”. So now I’m confused. Do I have a chance with her or not? In your experience does “flirty friends” ever lead to something more

razelove · Accepted Answer

If it starts with benefits then you have friends with benefits, otherwise the effort you'd put in to getting tail from one girl who friend zones you is not worth the effort of just meeting more women. In general I say no because after high school I never kept humping that wall to find out if it had a hole.

Also she's right, you're putting yourself in a position to orbit and simp, but not to get in those pants when given obvious signs to make a move, like a physical one, even just probing for a touch, carress, kiss, what have you. She'll take the attention, but will only take you as a last resort. You won't get the love, or be first on her list.

Meet more women, don't be obsessive, and come up with simple questions, and physical tests to see if she's into you (other women) and wants more. That will keep you out of the friend zone, and being desired more. Once that flow gets broken when you first meet someone, well, attention span is short, and there are literally hundreds if not thousands of other opportunities.

You can use this girl you know as a wingman, but don't take advice from her on getting other girls. Ask a fisherman, not the fish.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

This girl is basically  begging  you to step tf up and be more aggressive and take the reins. She wants you to be suggestive back, she wants to feel like she turns you on, and for you to take action. She's baby stepping you and guiding you by the hand, telling you exactly what she wants you to say. But she's going to get bored real quick if she has to spoon feed you every time, and she'll find someone else who has the confidence to flirt without guidance. Step it up.

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Once you have your answer, to keep questioning it is pointless. Personally all I see is a flirty woman who craves male attention and praise but you aren’t her type. You are a fun way to pass the time and that’s it. So what if she’s hot, she’s wasting your time at this point so just be done with her. Sticking around giving yourself false hope from here on out is all your own fault.

ohsheeT · Answer

if you just going to be flirty friends . you have an option if you want more you'll get more but if you blow it and break up there goes the friendship

or stop being flirty friends and become friend lovers

or just be friends if you know down deep to this not going to ever work out and we all know this before we go into a relationship but we always think we can change something

no matter which way you decide to go it takes work it takes commitment communication and friendship both wanting the same thing

but if you think you're just going to get a free ride it's going to end in disaster

Summeroflove · Answer

She rejected you. She insulted you. Let her go…. Leave her be. Find someone else. If she likes you the balls in her court.

Your time isn’t worth spent on someone whose either genuinely not interested or is playing games.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

No. It doesn’t lead to anything.

molonski2 · Answer

Virtually ALWAYS , she is pushing the boundary , get in there and close the deal..

When she says stuff like " How does this look " in the suggestive dance , just say " It would look a lot better if I could rip that nightie ( or whatever she has on ) with my teeth , that would make it great ! Don't be afraid to throw the " cat amongst the pigeons " never let yourself be seen as " safe " , always be " dangerous " , and be prepared to back it up.

smne35 · Answer

She told you several times where you stand and what you need to do, for one thing don't ask if you got a chance be more confident dominant in a suttle way not pushy or overbearing, for the moment sounds like she wants to just need to be pushed over the edge but that's where she's telling you you come up short, right now she's enjoying teasing you why she flirts, see, she's in total control over you so until you can take control and be more assertive, confident she will tease and taunt you, and she knows your into her, from what you said seems like she left you several openings and you missed them, take a day or so and change little things about you, be more confident, assertive she likes to tease and flirt have fun with it, not be obvious, you leave yourself wide open why she reads you so easy, calm down and go with it not exposing yourself so much and so early

magiusX26 · Answer

you are friendzoned. she enjoys the attentiin you give her from her teasing you. meaning she will continue to lead you on with the hopes of maybe "someday" while she actually is dating/fucking someone else. that "someday" may actually come but not till she's ran through all her other options, probably has at least 1 child with someone not you and she has no other attention givers like yourself that she decides to pick as her "settling". and that will likely be around a decade (10 years) before that slim chance happens.

ManOnFire · Answer

She is basically trying to make you into the kind of man that she finds hot and that she wants. She's being honest by telling you she feels like you aren't dominant enough, but she is still basically hoping to manipulate you into being what she finds attractive, and you're basically handing her that power by wanting to be what she wants and begging to know if you'll ever have a shot with her. She has you right where she wants you.

sawno · Answer

Yes but in my context it was different, I met her over a sexual question and right from the beginning it was clear we were very sexually compatible. And from the beginning we knew we could use a friends with benefits type scenario. So while it was flirty friends, it was also more than flirty friends. It eventually lead to the best relationship of my life so far, unfortunately long distance killed it.

serious · Answer

She is playing hard to get. Not giving you a straightforward answer but at the same time not denying you either.

If you are a person who does not like mind games then you should just leave her alone otherwise going forward you will have to put with her mind games all the time.

Amara_09 · Answer

Lol, you have a chance with me. At least I will direct with you. I don’t like beating around the bush. I told this guy friend of mine that he is definitely my type. He is hot and I would definitely smash. We can be friends and do anything as long as we are adults about it.

SIMPLE AS THAT!

Screenwriter · Answer

I think it's unlikely. Flirting is usually done for entertainment, not to lead to a relationship.

If someone was that interested, they'd make a more direct move, like ask you out.

For me it's too much game playing. Let's get to the point, if that's the aim.

TenderFantasy · Answer

It depends. Lead to what? Sex? Probably. If it's more, like I said, it would depend on how she felt about you too basically. If she's willing to date you/be in a relationship with you, she would have done so already in my opinion. But just try to be patient with her and see where things go, things might progress from there. Just wait it out. Good luck.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yepppers, I flirted with someone at work all the time, and it ended with her feet pointed at the ceiling and some of the best sex either one of us ever had.
we had a lot of fun.
I think others knew we were doinking each other.
there was another guy that was interested in her, but he didn't have a sense of humor and just wasn't a fun person.
He used to always give me/us the look, but it didn't bother me at all.

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

I take it you're new to this site. Half the questions are about being ghosted; if she wasn't into you, she wouldn't give you the time of day. Personally, if I were you, I'd step back and make her jealous to try and reclaim the power dynamic of the relationship. Girls universally hate desperation more than anything, so if you don't come off as deprived you will open many doors that lead to magically places (why do you think so many married men get hit on?)

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Not always. Most of the time I'm being nice and it seems like I'm flirting so I think that's a no. I don't know maybe that's just me

bobalife · Answer

Unfortunately in this circumstance, she may just want attention and validation. Maybe when she feels like it, she may wanna do causal things or just over text/calls/videos. I think it’s better to explore other options if you’re looking for more.

WhyohWhy69 · Answer

Oh yes. I had a long time guy friend. I found out what turned him on and we had some fun. We are still good friends to this day. We both have partners and are faithful though.

laly520 · Answer

not all of them cuz some just enjoys playing around n being flirty without any attachments

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Sure, but not with people who "don't know how to be dominant"

HawkPerception · Answer

They can possibly lead to something but there needs to be clear intention that's made by someone at some point.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i don't know how to flirt irl, i don't even flirt. i do think good friends can tirn into lovers

Alina_980 · Answer

Yes mine even fuck me once he's so cute too

Anonymous · Answer

This girl seems to have more of a male character than a female's. Stay away, unless you can handle her. This half-man attitude / personality will not suffice.

Anonymous · Answer

If you spend time with her in person instead of messaging she will eventually fuck you at least once unless another guy comes along before then.

Anonymous · Answer

To answer the question in your post itself: Let her go. She rejected you and tries to change you to suit her desires. While she only wants to use you for attention, leads you on (with the weird answers) and not for YOU yourself.

Nikki1989 · Answer

If you do it right, sure, but you are messaging, so you are already failing there.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

This is the problem with female friends  the guy is always horny and statistically at least once a month the girl will be horny also and if they’re flirting  well ya know…

jshm2 · Answer

Just more flirting, usually.  It's "the chase" with such people.

RavVid · Answer

She is playing with your mind. Offer her a spanking.

Texaskid1 · Answer

I would ignore her bullshit and move on to the next girl.  Rest assured that she is playing multiple guys. Women do this all the time.

Jennz6 · Answer

Sometimes masturbation and sometimes sex irl

kellytheman · Answer

I wouldn’t says always but I have had girls who are friends and the flirty got pretty intense and sexual that we made out or even lead to sex.

DextroShade · Answer

She already told you: you need to be dominant. You need to make a move, if she's in the same room that means touching her.

Pudsmucker · Answer

If you get along is when you're flirting it can lead to some exciting adventures with each other and possible marriage.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Sometimes it does lead to more. It depends on the people involved. If one person is firm on being just friends, it will not be anything more

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No such things as flirty friends. Either you’re friends or you’re not

SotiCoto · Answer

It happens sometimes, yes.  Wouldn't bet on it happening though.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You don't want her, bro. She's trash. The cigarettes should have been a clear enough sign.

Strong_Warrior · Answer

”do I have a chance with you or no?” Such a low value text. Do you see her as prize? If so, you already lost!

clampfan101 · Answer

Ever? Of course yes. Often? I somehow doubt it.

boobliker · Answer

not very often but have fun with them and one may break the ice with you

Nice222 · Answer

If you move it along quickly it might but if you let it go on too long then you just end up friend zoned.

Avicenna · Answer

Sure, it can sometimes

Jhonrembo36 · Answer

This usually leads to sex sooner or later🤔😂.

sabaileytx · Answer

My wife used to be my friend and was definitely flirting with me. Married 41 years and hope I get 41 more

IloveWinters · Answer

Yes it can if you are good at it and the other person has not friendzoned u

Anonymous · Answer

Using the words "a chance" makes you look desperate.

strateguy632 · Answer

just friends zone

Alex-Snow · Answer

They can go that way at times

Dassmen · Answer

It does to be honest

msc545 · Answer

Yes. Sex and heartache.

Roudyrebel8 · Answer

Sometimes yes sometimes no

krin_m · Answer

Sometimes it can.

FenixG45 · Answer

I've met all my GFs by being flirty

Anonymous · Answer

Sex is often the result when successful.

Tylinsayshi · Answer

This is a gift from the gods, don't mess up

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, that can and does happen.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yea ofcourse

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It can

jaskin777 · Answer

Yes they do

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