Should I make first move and how?

[Anonymous]

I have been crushing on my mentor he is 6 years older than me. He offered us a ride after class to coffe. I noticed he kept looking at me during coffe after class when we were having gathering but I couldn't speak much to him since I am very shy and other girl was trying to pursue him so I couldn't even catch a breath lol. His profile is open and he kept talking about his job so I followed him. My profile is closed and he requested and saw all my stories and stuff and accidentally he unfollowed me after 2 days and followed me back. Now he is still in my city since he is going back home in few days I don't know what to do. But I think I am delusional.

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, this is a tricky situation cause he's your mentor but the vibes do seem kinda flirty! A few thoughts:

- Def be careful pursuing anything romantic - could jeopardize your studies if it goes wrong. Are the risks worth it?

- He did request to follow you back, which is a good sign he's curious! But also could just be friendly.

- Since he leaves soon, you don't wanna hold out and regret it either. Nothing ventured nothing gained, ya feel?

- See if you can subtly flirt more one on one next time. Playful touches on the arm when you laugh or whatever. Gauge his reaction.

- Maybe try asking if he wants coffee again before he goes. Casually say "I had fun chatting, would be cool to catch up more."

- If he agrees, see if there's playful banter and lingering eye contact. Then you'll have a better read on his vibe.

- Worst case he just wants to be friends, but at least you put yourself out there girl!

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, as they say. Just do it lightheartedly so there's no weirdness if he's not into it. You got this!

[DextroShade]

Considering he is in a position of authority over you he may think it would be inappropriate or risky to make a move on you even if he likes you. In this case you will have to make the first move.

[Sawyerblu]

It may just be infatuation.


Be careful with this. For someone of your age, 6 years is a lot. Men who go for women that much younger than them probably have some issues; mainly immaturity which has just been displayed by the follow/unfollow/follow action. Playing games now, playing with your heart later.


Your brain isn’t even fully developed; for a woman, it finishes around 25. This means that you are going to go through a lot of changes emotionally, mentally, and physically. The men I went for in my early 20s were all losers. Lol.




His actions are screaming “manipulator.” Don’t let him take advantage of you!!! Your early 20s should be a time of self exploration and focusing on who you are/want to be. Spend time with friends and family, all while doing things you personally enjoy and the rest will follow 🤍

[JoahZ10nT]

Just talk to him more and Get to know him. Once you feel little comfortable, be like!!! We should hang out and do something like I heard this nice restaurant!!! If he says yes!!! Why not!!! Go out and have a good time!!! Then when you feel comfortable tell him how you feel!!! If you do get rejected! It’s okay. It’s part of life. But if you don’t? You just never know. Life is about taking chances. Do it 🤩

[susie22]

My boyfriend and I first met in High School, he was HOT (still is), but I kept sending him subtle signals that I wanted to make out with him, but he was a bit shy and didn't pick up on my messaging. So on a date after a couple months of futility for me, I decided to be a bit more assertive when I told him I'd pick him up for our date. A pair of sexy high heels, a very short miniskirt and a flimsy blouse without a bra worked wonders, so message received.

[ParkKira]

I mean the worst he can do is say no, but I’ve noticed guys like it when you make the first move. And just say it casually like “I saw you looking at me, is there a particular reason?” Just see what he says :)

[Asker]

That is right. Thank you for advice. I have never asked anyone out or have been that bold so like worried if wrong deliver.

[ParkKira]

There’s always a first!

[Anonymous]

Listen to Grace Jones.😆

https://www.youtube.com/embed/WPkhh5JytYE

[Asker]

🤣🤣🤣

[BonMot]

Sincerity is always the best way to approach any aspect of a relationship. No games, no slick lines, no "playa" mentality.

[laly520]

ask him

it won't be hard

[he-takes-a-part]

Come suck my dick to gain momentum.