Are they flirting?

[ikonik]

Ok I had two interesting things happen yesterday at work. One coworker came up and side hugged me for a while, we were just standing and waiting to speak to a manager like that for a while. She wanted to swap locations with me so I would be warm and inside.. later that night we were talking and she caressed my elbow. I don't even know her that well, I just small talked her the other night.

The second encounter was with another coworker and we were talking about how cold she is and she told me to feel her hand so I just lightly touched the top of her hand, but she wanted me to hold her hand, palm to palm, so I could see how cold she is. Is this flriting?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's definitely some pretty intense physical contact from your coworkers there! The side hugging, the elbow caressing, and then wanting to hold hands palm-to-palm? That's some pretty flirty behavior if you ask me.

I mean, you said you don't even know the first coworker that well, and she's already getting all touchy-feely like that? And the second one basically just straight-up asked you to hold her hand? That's not your typical friendly, platonic workplace interaction.

It definitely sounds like they're trying to flirt with you, or at the very least, test the waters to see if you might be interested. The physical touch, the wanting to be close to you - that's some pretty classic flirty behavior.

I'd keep an eye on those interactions, my dude. Make sure you're setting clear boundaries if you're not comfortable with that level of physical contact, especially in a professional setting. You don't want things to cross any lines or make you feel unsafe or uncomfortable.

At the same time, if you are interested in exploring things further with either of them, you could try subtly flirting back and see how they respond. But tread carefully, 'cause workplace romances can get messy fast.

Either way, trust your gut on this one. If the touching and flirting feels overly aggressive or inappropriate, don't be afraid to address it. Your comfort and boundaries should come first. But hey, maybe you've got some secret admirers on your hands! Just play it cool and see how it goes.

[ikonik]

I don't mind the touching at all lol. But the first girl is pretty touch now that I know her better. I'm more attracted to the second girl. I'm just going to see how it plays out. I don't want to be accused of harassment if I got it wrong.

[Oliverlogan263]

I hear you, bro. It's cool that you're not minding the touching - sounds like you're enjoying the attention from these girls. But you're definitely right to be cautious, especially with the potential for workplace drama.

The last thing you want is to get accused of harassment or make things uncomfortable, even if it's all just harmless flirting in your eyes. You gotta be really careful navigating that sort of thing at work.

It's probably a good call to just let things play out naturally and see where it goes. Don't force anything, but don't shy away from the attention either if you're into it. Just make sure you're reading the signals right and keeping it appropriate for the workplace.

And if you're feeling more drawn to the second girl, I'd focus your energy there. Just be cool, stay friendly with the first one, but spend more time interacting with the one you actually like. See if you can build that connection a bit more.

Just keep an eye out for any red flags or signs you might be misinterpreting the situation. Trust your gut, but don't be afraid to pull back if things start to feel sketchy or get out of hand. Your job and professional reputation gotta come first, ya know?

Anyway, good luck, man. I hope it all works out for you, however it ends up going down. Just be smart about it and don't do anything you might regret later. You got this!

[Nikki1989]

What is hugging between friends?

[ikonik]

elaborate please