Why do guys blow me off all the time?

[AdrienneRose]

OK, so I'm an attractive girl with a good job and a good head on my shoulders. I'm very down to earth and super fun.I get asked out on dates quite a bit. Most of the time the first date seems to go well then after maybe one more date or some more conversing, all the sudden they stop talking to me. I will send them one more friendly text message and I get no response, they are blowing me off! I don't understand this. It's prob happened to me more times than I care to think about. I would like to know why this is happening. I don't get men! Please help.

[L_M385]

tbh if I'm to go on your description... I think they're crazy.

Why would they let someone like you go? and if the dates went well, why wouldn't they want to meet again, even if just as friends?

Might I add that I'm as baffled by this as you are...

Maybe you should just send them a message asking why? It's not like they were/are responding to your previous message. Maybe there is something that bugs them that you don't know about yourself. But keep friendly in asking, it's just for self-evaluation, make that clear in the message. =)

[AdrienneRose]

yes I suppose I could ask but I'd rather not. If obviously wasn't meant to be.

[afrohombre1]

Well this is kinda hard to get a handle on because you didn't mention what's happening on the date and the conversation on the date. Do you say that you're independent and things of that nature on the date, if so that could be a problem. It could be on the men you're going out with, some men can be intimidated by you being attractive, head strong with a good career.

[AdrienneRose]

I'm sorta coming to that conclusion. The dates are usually fine. Recently I was asked out and our first date was very nice. We spent a long time chatting. I went to his house to hang out for a bit on the second "date" well it wasn't really a date just to chat and it was OK. Then I didn't hear from him anymore...if being independent is a problem than that's unfortunate lol. Girls have to be independent nowadays! and who the hell wouldn't want that?! If I were a guy I would think that's hot!

[afrohombre1]

If guy has his stuff together and isn't insecure then a independent woman is hot, there's nothing hotter!

[Anonymous]

attractive girls don't get blown off... just saying

[AdrienneRose]

well, I do and I'm attractive so it does happen :)

[Opinion Owner]

well the guys that blow you off think otherwise, lmao. blowing off girls we're interesting in, is just something we don't do. just because your family tells you that you're hot after you smother your face with make-up, doesn't make it so. apparently, you're delusional, because guys just don't turn away attractive women. there's not one logical reason to support that... even if he had a girlfriend, he would at least try to keep her for backup. wake up lol

[AdrienneRose]

I think there might be one logical reason...meeting guys like you that clearly can't handle a woman that has it all. It probably makes you feel inferior and less of a man because girls like us don't necessarily need a guy for every little thing. We can choose to have relationships but we don't need them. Guess that's why your so hostile and it sounds like you've been through quite a bit. You should probably try to work through some things.

[Opinion Owner]

You're the one complaining about how you can't keep a man. The. You start to toot your own horn, to try and salvage some self-esteem. And now your trying to talk me down when I give you a male's perspective of the situation. Now I can see why you lack what it takes to keep a man. Instead of working at it, you'd just rather live in a fantasy world and make up things to male yourself feel better. Let's be honest, whether you want to admit it or not, you're being turned away for a reason...

[Opinion Owner]

If you want to keep telling yourself it's because "I'm too pretty. I have it all. I make them feel inferior"... Well... All I can say is that I hope you enjoy your alone time. Because I can tell from your posts, that your personality won't keep a man, and your looks have already failed you, so...