Is it a big deal to guys to hold hands?

[Anonymous]

I always grew up around women and girl-friends and I always have a habit of holding hands when I walk. It's just habit! I feel most comfortable linking arms, or inter-lacing fingers, or just clasping palms.

However, I've noticed that now I'm all grown up, when I meet a new man, and I get familiar (not in the sexual sense, but I feel conversationally comfortable and relaxed around his company...), often, if we are walking somewhere, especially if I'm wearing high heels, I have a HUGE temptation to hold the guy's hand (mostly for support ;-P ha!)

However, that has ALWAYS got me into trouble! Shortly after holding a guy's hand, he will lean in for the kiss! :o !

Also, recently, I met a guy who took two whole DAYS to work up the courage to hold my hand. (I only know because he told me so.) But in my mind, when he told me that, I thought, "Holding hands? psh what's the big deal...? lol!"

So why is it that for guys, holding hands is such a ...spaz-out? :p

Do guys mentally see the act of "holding hands" as something significant, sort of? Kind of a barrier broken? What's the deal now I suppose I can't just hold a guy's hand as a friend? :p

[Malcom_Reynolds]

To most people I know holding hands does actually mean something. I find linking arms to be more innocent though, on the same level as hugging. I have found it to be less of a big deal for girls, but still more so than how you describe it. I did know two girls who'd been best friends their entire lives and commonly held hands with each other as they walked places thinking nothing of it. They also said that they've been accused of being lesbians because of it.

My personal opinion, I don't think it's a big deal. But I wouldn't grab someone's hand to hold without having it mean anything. If a girl started holding my hand, I'd think that she did like me, but it wouldn't be definitive. That is I'd suspect it, but not be convinced yet.

[emdeex]

Couples usually hold hands, the problem isn't them its actually (well not really a problem), but you're the one who's different, although holding hands might be OK if he's you're best friend or as a joke but not whith guys you know.

[Anonymous]

good question...I think it all depends on the guy.

some are flirty, friendly, comfortable breaking the touch barrier, etc and some guys aren't.

[Konnour]

When a girl and a guy are holding hands, it's a couply thing.

Among girls only it's completely normal.

Among guys only it's completely unacceptable.

[bDizzie]

Because its the same as making a move. An indication of interest.