I've never had a boyfriend or even held a guys hand. Is something wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I am in my teens and have had crushes on guys and started conversations all in attempt to get some guy to notice me. None have. At first it was no big deal. I thought I just haven't found the right guy. But the older I get the more. Worried I become. Has anyone ever had a similar problem? I currently have a really good guy friend that I really like. I'm afraid if I ask him to hang out or something I will get denied again. Should I just go for it?

[Living-the-ADvenTURe]

I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend in my life. You just have to be happy with who you are and not worry about that whole dating stuff. Even if it does sound nice to have a boyfriend, there's more to life, so just be yourself, do the stuff you love to do and some day you'll find a great guy who likes you for who you are and vise versa. If you want to ask your guy friend to hang out, then just go for it. It's not like it's a date or anything right? Just be happy that your blessed of having him as a friend and just let things happen naturally instead of trying to make your friendship more then it is now. Maby later you'll find that you like eachother or something but just hang out and stuff and see what comes out of it. Make sure that you really do want to be more then friends also. It sounds as though your a little bit desperate to have a boyfriend. You can calm down because I know quite a few people in their teens who have never had a boyfriend. Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you ;p.

[ditzytiggsie]

Oh honey, there's nothing wrong with you. You probably just haven't found the right guy yet, and tbh, the fact that things are taking their time is probably a good thing. Your first proper boyfriend should feel special that you have so many "firsts" with him.

if your guy friend isn't shy and isn't really giving you any hints that he wants to be more than friends, he probably doesn't feel the same way for you.

in which case, stay friends and wait for the right guy to come along. Remember. Friendships last longer than relationships normally do, so treasure his friendship. The more comfortable you are with being friends with a guy, the more comfortable you will be hanging around with guys and the more you'll learn about them, which will help you in the future.

hope this helps hun :

[chipmunkgrl]

Don't worry I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend or held hands either. I think that most guys see that your not like other girls and that your dif. , don't worry being dif. Isn't bad. I think that they are afraid cause they see that your not just going out w/ any guy. And they are worried that if they ask you out that you'll deny them. So don't worry. And did you ask this guy friend out already? Mabey he just wants to be friends if you already did. And if you didn't make the first move. Don't make it to obvious, ask him to the movies w/ friends, or if he wants to get a bite to eat.

[Aristotles]

Hey I'm 23 and still single. Never rush love, it will only kill you. Wait till it comes on it's own accord and when the feeling is mutual and you are ready for marriage then consider dating. This should rather be done in your 20's. The longest you stay pure the better, especially when you are still a teen. Start worrying when you reach 40. Or rather just don't ever worry.

[idancemuch]

People, WTF? Dating is pure, sex is pure. Stop being so prudish, it's very annoying!

If you want to hang with him it's absolutely ok to ask for it. You never know if you don't go, etc. Other than that try to go out more, meet new people, make friends, simply be there, very soon you'll be noticed. Good luck

[TwilightXO]

Hey hun I just want you to know that you are absolutely fine! I know how it feels especially the whole part about getting older and worrying more. I'm going to tell you this from my personal experiences. I am 18 years old and have yet to actually kiss a boy. I have had several opportunities but I let fear get in the way. I was just waiting and waiting like you to find the perfect guy and guess what I did and.I let him slip away. I was just so scared to tell him how I feel and now that I think about it it's crazy because I honestly do know he felt the same. Now I can't go back. I guess this is just a round about way of saying you should definitely ask this guy out if you feel it's right. Most of the time us girls can subconsciously tell him a guy likes us. So just go with your gut and do what feels right and even if he doesn't say yes just consider it a stepping stone. Just try not to freak out about things like this it can drive you crazy!

[Spartacus]

I'm almost 19 and I've only held hands with one guy- never kissed or anything like that. I'm glad nothing ever happened though. It gave me time to make the decision to save my first kiss for the guy I know I'm going to marry. Same with the words "I love you. " I know that whatever guy I marry, he's going to be amazing and special, and saving my first kiss and "I love you" for him is a way of showing him that. Not to mention the special unspeakable act that will occur on our wedding night ; )

[kazine]

You know, my first kiss was awful. My first few kisses were awful.

But the first time I kissed the boy I love, the kiss was amazing.

The first time I has sex was awful and painful. The second time was worse.

But the first time I had sex with the boy I love, it was amazing.

I don't see why people want to save their first kiss or virginity for marriage. I imagine sex on a wedding night to be perfect, not me in pain bleeding all over the bedsheets.

Just my opinion.

[elara55]

It happens, sometimes for a while there is no love in our lives, but I think it will come to you. I have found that love comes when you least expect it, when you aren't looking- just having a good time and enjoying your life. You are young, now is a good time to just have fun and "get to know yourself": what you like, what you don't like, so when someone special comes along you have confidence and strength. You will also be confident enough to let the "duds," pass on by.

When I was a teen I was very involved with my hobbies/interests and not that concerned with dating, even so, I happened to meet someone when I was 17 and he was my first boyfriend. Some of my friends didn't start dating till they were near their twenties! It's not a big deal.

If you like your friend, try to get clues if he likes you...try flirting a little, see what happens!

Best of luck.

[springdragonfly]

You're still young! Give it time. Don't feel pressured by what people you know have or haven't done. Who you do it with is more important than when.

if you are worried about asking the guy you are currently interested in, just take it slowly, be really friendly, try to flirt and tease a little. If he responds in a positive way, you can be pretty sure he is interested too. Just remember there is no rush and have fun getting to know him better. He might be a bit shy too.

[AOgixxer750]

I would say, don't be worried, but make sure you want to be in a relationship, it sucks when your with a girl and a few later she wants out just cause she's not ready emotionally, mentally, etc. for a relationship.

[maddy87]

I'm 21 and never had a boyfriend before either. If you want to ask that guy out, probably make sure the feeling is mutual.

[Hercules]

Nothing wrong. Just be yourself :)