My ex boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for nearly a year. Before that, we were work colleagues and friends for a year. He is very career driven, so he had to leave for a new, better job 350 miles away. This summer, we both tried relocating to each others' cities, trying to secure a job, but nothing panned out. As we both grew frustrated that nothing was coming our way, my ex said he didn't think he could handle another year of long distance and wanted to call it quits. I was shocked because he was giving up so easily. However, I didn't beg or cry for him to reconsider. I simply stated that although I didn't like his decision, I respected it. It was the hardest thing I had to do.
It has now been over a month since he called it quits and neither one of us has made any attempt to contact the other. I know that he has thrown himself into his work so I imagine for him, its been easier for him to move on. As for me, I am having a really difficult time accepting that it really is over. During the relationship, he would bring up the possibility of marriage for our future, something that we both wanted, and we would have honest discussions about what that future looked like. I just feel blind sided that it went from "I would like to marry you someday" to "I can't do this anymore."
I am just wondering... what is/was he thinking? What happened? Do I ever cross his mind? Many people have told me he needs time to miss me, to realize what we had together. Any thoughts or advice?
It has now been over a month since he called it quits and neither one of us has made any attempt to contact the other. I know that he has thrown himself into his work so I imagine for him, its been easier for him to move on. As for me, I am having a really difficult time accepting that it really is over. During the relationship, he would bring up the possibility of marriage for our future, something that we both wanted, and we would have honest discussions about what that future looked like. I just feel blind sided that it went from "I would like to marry you someday" to "I can't do this anymore."
I am just wondering... what is/was he thinking? What happened? Do I ever cross his mind? Many people have told me he needs time to miss me, to realize what we had together. Any thoughts or advice?
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