What are the qualities of a "fantasy girl"?

[Anonymous]

So I spent the weekend at a place where this great guy works, and on my last night there, while he was closing the place up, he told me that I was irresistibly attractive. I laughed it off, thinking that he was just being nice since I was the only female under 40 and over 21 in the place all weekend. The third time I shoved the comment aside as flirtatious banter, he leaned over the bar counter and said he usually can't wait to get out of the place, which closes at 10pm, and there we were, chatting it up at 1am. I started to go, thinking that I was bothering him and keeping him from getting home, but he asks me what I'm doing the following morning. I told him I was free after 9am and he said he'd call in the morning. I started to walk away and turned to find him staring at me (LOL). "Are you okay?" he asks me. "Yeah. You're sure I'm not keeping you from something tomorrow?" He smiled. "Sweetie, even if you were, I'd cancel whatever that was. You're like every guy's fantasy girl." I must have given him a "yeah, right" look, because he walked over to where I was standing (towering over me at 6'4) and looked down. "Let me put it this way. The only reason I stayed behind the counter all night was to keep my hands off you, okay?" I went up to my room, thinking he was just feeding me a line (which guys tend to do that a lot.).

Within five minutes, he called to check that I'd made it to my room alright and said he'd call again in the morning if I didn't need anything. He texted me right on time the next morning, asking if I was still interested, figuring "it was just the Patron talking" and surprised that "a girl like you would actually go out with a guy like me."

Long story short, we had an AMAZING day, and he told me he felt like the luckiest guy alive to have had this time with me. It was nuts -- completely the opposite of what I get from guys on a regular basis and I told him so, but he told me they're just saving face because they can't imagine I'd really be interested in them.

Usually guys tend to think I'm married/someone's girlfriend, saying that "a girl like you can't possibly be single" right to my face. I wonder what qualities a "fantasy girl" has that guys find so irresistible... and apparently intimidating.

[Anonymous]

I think every guy's fantasy girl is different, but there are some things in common.

I probably shouldn't even have the right to say anything since I've never had a girlfriend and I'm 27 years old. The only reason I'm here is because I did actually have a crazy fantasy girl that made me feel crazy for the past 4 days or so.

So I was reading about how much some women crave sex and it kind of made me horny (like typical horny). So I started fantasizing about a girl craving me all the time. But then I felt something I never felt before. This girl never wanted to leave me and she wanted to have my children. It wasn't just one or the other -she wanted to f@$! my brains out and she wanted to never leave me. I felt so pulled in by her (I really over-indulged this fantasy). Like I felt like I met the perfect girl and would never have reason to leave her ever because she was the one. And she craved the hell out of me in every possible way and I craved her in every possible way. It was crazy.

For the first time in my 27 years of life I had never felt that way. I felt butterflies in my stomach (kind of sick), I had a hell of a time breathing (like shallow breathing and sometimes an urge to take a really embarrassing and deep almost orgasmic breath -regardless of who was around me), and I felt light headed. And I couldn't shake this feeling for four days (couldn't get her out of my head). I was also aroused as hell from thinking about her. I almost drove off the side of the friggin road! I looked in the bathroom mirror and it looked like I was about to try and romantically seduce someone.

I think this was the first time I've ever been love-sick. I didn't even think love-sick was a thing until this happened.

Somehow I have recovered (maybe because I am finally able to push other thoughts into my head -I'm having an all-expenses-paid flight to go to a job interview). But here's the kicker -I can't really paint a picture of my imaginary fiancee (I was pretty much proposed to her without even proposing to her). She craved the hell out of me physically, mentally, spiritually, sexually, and wanted to have children with me. I know she was beautiful too, even though I can't really describe her. I think she represented ALL WOMEN'S LOVE for a man in a phenomenal female form I cannot describe.

I have no idea how I'm ever going to meet a woman like that. I don't think she exists. Is it even possible for a woman to love a man THAT much? It was like there was so much gravity to her that I couldn't help but love her. Like forever.

I know I'm a weirdo saver type, but my fantasy girl is a girl who loves me in all ways possible. Like that alone just makes me love her. I wish I could say something about physical beauty, but all I can remember is THE female form -it was beautiful albeit indescribable.

Sorry if this isn't what you wanted as an answer.

[Opinion Owner]

I can't believe I wrote that. But yeah, it's all true.

[Asker]

It's precisely the sort of answer I was looking for -- you built this girl up in your head; at the same time don't know if you'll find her. Thanks for sharing that.

Tell me a little more about what you saw in the mirror when you felt like you were going to "romantically seduce someone"?

You're describing the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship, where you're all over each other in person, wanting each other whenever you're apart. My (ex)husband was my first and we were that way. ==>

[Asker]

==> I'd make it a few feet into the doorway and he'd pounce on me. If I got home early, I'd make a dinner we never got around to eating because I'd be so obsessed with thinking about him while I prepared it that I'd just cling to him like velcro the second he walked in the door. Once kids, etc. set in, we were still "frisky," but things calmed down quite a bit.

[Opinion Owner]

Umm...It's kind of embarrassing to reflect upon.

My eyes were very relaxed-looking I guess. My smile was different -like it was weak but sincere. If I 'talked' with her I couldn't help but talk softly and seductively. And it felt like sex was always in the background of my mind. Like it could just happen whenever and wherever. It wasn't an issue of trying to 'earn' it or anything like that cause she felt the same way I did. It was an experience I never had before.

[Asker]

Hmm. I like that, though. It sounds incredibly sexy. Why would you be embarrassed by that? Being aroused and wanting to get someone else aroused is normal. Wanting someone to want you is part of that...

[Opinion Owner]

Heh, I think I fell in love with love itself.

I am kind of a weirdo. Romanticizing about stuff like this when I have never had a girlfriend before. I don't even know what love is.

On a side note, I once tried to fantasize about the female version of myself...and it didn't turn out so well. Turns out there are things I really don't like about myself. What a wonder to have a girl who loves me more than I even love myself.

[Lommelun]

You'd be amazed at how sh*tty some girls can act towards guys for showing them "unwanted attention". And good looking, 10/10 girls tend to behave more like that than the average girl. And even if a bombshell girl isn't necessarily a bitch, the effort some people have to put in to remain bombshells does tend to render them rather high-maintenance.

So most of us guys may like to look at you top-tier girls, but we'll stay away from actually contacting you. Often because we don't feel like putting up the energy only to be rejected.

As we grow older and more confident though, some guys stop being so intimidated and simply go for what they like. This guy likes you, that is obvious, even if his pickuplines are a bit on the sleazy side. Sleazy can be fun to with a dose of humour.

[Asker]

I've never thought of myself as a top-tier anything, lol. He sort of made me sound like I was, which is what made me doubt his sincerity. The date itself was funny because he kept wondering what I was doing there with him, putting himself down. I didn't get that. He seems like one of those guys -- really charismatic, but on the quiet side. I don't see why I was on that pedestal at all.