Girls, you create the fuckboys, womanisers, players, and man whores that we see today (Page 3)

[ellada]

Im devastated right now. I gave my all for almost a year. I never let a day go by where I didn't tell her how much I appreciated her and how much she meant to me. I did everything for this girl and actually loved doing so because her smile was perfect. She broke my heart last night.

I have no desire to go out and fuck as many girls as I can. I just want to be sad for awhile and then hopefully find a nice girl who deserves and can reciprocate all that ill do.

Yes, some guys are fuckboys due to some terrible girl "ruining them". But not all.

[myTake Owner]

sorry bae...*big hug..

[Anonymous]

Agreed, I was cheated on by a woman who for 4 years convinced me we were "soulmates". I don't want to be a fuckboy, but I can see the allure after you have gotten your heart ripped out and your soul shattered! Also, I know girls don't like fuckboys, but they still date them! Stop dating them! Boycott fuckboys and get yourself a man who actually cares about you!

[Mesonfielde]

Where there is demand, there is supply.

I think the girls who look for these so called douchebags (avid fans of the 50 Shades franchise), they are the demand. These guys actually get to break hearts, doesn't that mean these girls don't pay enough attention to know what kind of person they are getting together with? :p

[Anonymous]

If you see a girl as a priceless treasure and would do anything for her, it's like painting a huge target on your back. You will get used and abused and disrespected. After this happens enough times, a male will kill his inner nice guy to avoid getting hurt again. So yes, guys are the way they are because of girls.

[Roostah]

The problem is the dual nature of relationships. Just as men don't have respect for girls who give it up on the first night. Women don't have respect/value for men who immediately or very soon show love and affection for men who show their undying love for them too soon.

People only appreciate something of worth when it's difficult to obtain or took effort to get. Hence, guys who act like assholes to girls initially and show love and affection to women later on do much better and have less of a lower chance of getting friendzoned.

[Roostah]

Correction:
"Women don't have respect/value for men who immediately or very soon show love and affection for women who show their undying love for them too soon."

[clever_seeker]

You certainly have my thanks for this post. I was just asking my self for research purposes, " what exactly is a fuck boy?". It's somewhat rare to see it from a women's prospective view. Not all women are stuck up (bad word) or crazy ( bad word ) etc. So in the act of it all, do not we learn from each others common flaws rather than are unique strengths? where does the line draw for creating a torn person..

[MaskedSanity]

Well, you ARE making excuses for them.

While it's true that certain women enable these types by endorsing the behaviours you mentioned, in the end these are SENTIENT BEINGS who are FULLY responsible for their own actions.

"You made me that way" is what an manchild would say.

Life experiences mould our characters, but WE make the choices and only WE are responsible for what we do.

[RationalLioness]

Not true. Not all assholes are this way because of women. That's asinine. Some most definitely are due to their past, but they're the fools who allowed themselves to change because of it.

Some guys enjoy playing people.

And you're wrong. There are people who are born with traits that predispose them to being malicious.

[Entity]

"It has never occurred to us that a lot of these boys have never had a father figure In their lives so the more they grow, the more confused they get about manhood."

Wait, what does this have to do with the fault of women? You know what? I need a drink.

[myTake Owner]

I want some too

[Entity]

I would, but you're underage.

[OpenWine]

Not where Iive

[Brokenheartedx]

I didn't have a dad around to protect or look after me.. my mum wasn't the hugging type... so I went from one abusive man to another is that my fault? Do I have to be held accountable for getting hit because of what someone did to these men in the past? Did I deserve to be called names and made fun of cheated on.. treated like shit because of what someone else did.. so it's my fault.. ok I'm best staying single then.. nothing to do with these so called men at all it's all women's fault

[heavensgift2girls]

I don't know why you would think she is saying it is your fault for being mistreated. I am not reading that in her writing at all. She is just talking about how people that spread pain, once had pain in their lives themselves. This isn't a new idea. We know abusers were likely to have been abused themselves. That doesn't mean it is okay to abuse people. It also doesn't mean that the person that is being abused is at fault.

[Transigence]

I agree with the claim, but not the argument. The argument that supports the claim is that those are the guys who are rewarded with selection.

In short, those assholes are who you choose to be intimate with. They are that way because it's what "works" for us.

[AleDeEurope]

A store would not sell a shirt that never get sold.
A guy will never be a douchebag/jerk/player... if it never worked.

It's pretty f*cking simple... but it's always easier to act like a victim.

[Anonymous]

I agree with this, partly. I was a nice guy, Still am mostly, but I do have massive trust issues and I am now reserved and usually will reject people before even getting to know them thus making me look like a dick when in reality I'm just protecting myself. I wasn't always this way, I only started being like this because other people (not specifically girls) messed me around or stabbed me in the back.

I had an ex who dumped me so she could go with another guy and gave me that whole "but we can still be friends" thing. Which I didn't want because just had my heart broken. So I told her no and got the whole "woman scorned" treatment, horrible rumours, twofacedness (she was still super nice to my face but nasty as fuck behind my back) etc. To give an example.

[mutedaisy]

My savior complex died a long time ago when I realized this was complete bs. Sure, some guys are hurt in more ways than one, but there are plenty of guys that just fuck till their hearts content. Why; Just because they can. It's like guys not deali

[mutedaisy]

-ng with women with tons of baggage, I will not deal with it as well. I will never try to save a player, because they do it to themselves. If you can't see that all people aren't trying to hurt you and you fuck over everyone, you deserve feeling empty.

[VegasNewFallout]

im glad u stopped thinking that people needed ur help and that because they didn't live to ur standards of normal that they were wrong.

[mutedaisy]

@VegasNewFallout that's not what I am saying.

[99percentangel]

Honestly there's no excuse. I've been hurt in the past by males but I don't go around acting like a jerk, and using the excuse "someone hurt me in the past" No not all women and men are the same way, just because you were hurt once by someone doesn't mean everyone is going to hurt you. I think it's kinda pathetic when guys are fuckboys because they've been hurt by a women before. Not all women are like that. (Same goes for women who use that excuse, not all men are like that)

[JensonStatement]

Just like you said. Those people are weak if they let one bad relationship change them.

[Northeast106]

I think men choose to become like that, because honestly it seems to be more rewarding. I hate to say it, but the biggest assholes get the most out of life in general. Some times it can be a reaction to how a woman treats them, but other times they just open their eyes and realize being bad is better than being good.

[xxcchhllaauu]

there is some truth to that I've always been a nice guy but I never thought being nice would get me any were why do I feel girls don't know what they really want

[ThreeMonkeys]

So... I am an expert on this subject. You are partially right with what you have to say but there are enough guys our there who wouldn't give $.02 of shit just like there are women.

Personally, I think there is a lot of miscommunication and misinformation... leading people into making tons of stupid choices by identifying things incorrectly (ex: arrogance for confidence, nice for kind, "badass" for self-confident).

[BenMarZ]

Yah I agree with this. I started of having this I'm gone make a girl feel like she means the world to me mentality. But it doesn't work. I've personally seen guys who are douche bags get the girl most of the time and I see how bad they treat them. As a result I'm trying to change the way I treat and see women.

[Roostah]

This was actually a mytake lol before your

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10881-women-create-the-bad-boys-cheaters-players

[Roostah]

You have to also realize men tend to adopt behavoir that women reward with sex. If acting like a " Fuckboy, a heartbreaker, a player, a womaniser, a douchebag, a manwhore, an egotistical Big headed psycho" rewards you with sex and affection from women then men would slowly but surely become this.

Also on the flip side women also become bitter, jaded, and users of men because of their experience with the men you listed above in your mytake.

It's an adaption thing from dealing with shitty people who seem to be rewarded with love and affection these days in our ever growing morally compromised society.

[FirmSteam]

Well done for being open minded enough to consider an idea like this.

Yes, a lot of bad attitudes to girls come from girls being the female of equivalent of ass-holes to men. Saying things that , if you were male, would get you a punch in the face and rightly so... but because girls can basically say anything they like without much of a consequence... they do.

[Anonymous]

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I never make excuses for my bitch behavior and I never blamed men so I do not think that assholes should get an excuse for treating women like shit, they only have themselves to blame

Some men treat women like they are the only man on earth when it's raining men

[RedThread]

hallelujah it's raining men!