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How I Plan To Stop Worrying So Much About My Relationship

How I plan to stop worrying so much about my relationship.



I've worried far too much about my relationship. I've posted stuff about it on here before and from some the things I've said, I've had people call me manipulative, say I play too many games and that they would basically leave me if I was their girlfriend.


As much as I would like to tell those people to get lost, that they don't know all the details about my relationship and that we both have our flaws, as does every other human being.. I can't ignore multiple people saying the same thing. If multiple people are saying these things and not just one or two.. I am doing something wrong.


Last week not once, but twice I implied to my boyfriend that I thought he was lying. When he said something that made me realise he wasn't, I felt guilty for doubting him. On new years eve I was talking to one of our mutual female friends about my being concerned he hadn't told her himself that we were going out yet so she kept offering to just ask if he had a girlfriend and I got to worrying so much, she just asked and sent me the messages, even asked him other stuff I mentioned or worried about too. He admitted he had a girlfriend and that it was me but was also asking who she liked, which made me worry. I still have those messages saved. So yeah, I basically tested my boyfriend. I worry about who he is talking too at his sixth form in case of any other girls he likes - I automatically think he must fancy every other girl who is even remotely attractive and that if he has any friends that are girls, he must fancy them. I also doubt he tells other girls about me unless they ask directly because he is probably trying to flirt with them. I am also uncomfortable about him ever meeting certain ones of my friends because they are pretty, he is bound to fancy them - possibly more than he fancies me.


I need to get over these fears because my worrying is OTT. My boyfriend admitted before we were going out that he used to be a player but not anymore, my ex cheated on me, I had trust issues before then due to certain friends, family memebers and even teachers but looks like they got worst. I don't trust anyone 100% but have different levels. I give my boyfriend a higher level of trust than I do most people and yet I've still been worrying. This needs to stop because it is unhealthy for me, and unfair on him. If I look at his words and actions, he has proved before that he is honest, loyal and really cares about me from what I can tell so far.


He is a lovely, sweet, caring guy and I want to change not just for myself, but for him. I want to be a better girlfriend. So here is my plan:


I have already taken pics of when he's told me he loved me, said something cute or explained himself on something that worries me but I often forget to look at them when I worry so I am going to make a note of it. I am also going to make a note to look back on to remind myself that I am his girlfriend, he loves me, he is loyal to me, he is going out with me, he doesn't want me to leave him because he doesn't want to lose me and he chats to me every day on fb, even late.


I have decided to write this all down on a post-it note on my laptop to look back on when I worry. I am also going to try remember how he has been honest with me so far at least. I may also make a note to remind myself that even if this relationship doesn't work out, all that would mean would be that he is not the right one for me which would mean that someone else out there is. I cannot lose - If he is right for me then I will be right to calm down and start being a better girlfriend and it'll be fine. if he is not right for me then I will be upset after we break up but then should get over it in time, find someone who is right and I will already know methods to calm down and be a good girlfriend to them.


So this is basically my plan: To look back on these notes when I worry and to remind myself that he appears to have been honest and hasn't broke a promise so far. And to remind myself of what a sweet guy he is and how I want to do something for him. I may later update on how this plan has worked and thank you for reading, sorry for any grammar errors. Also if anyone has any other suggestions how I can be a better girlfriend or stop worrying so much, please share because I really want to try and change this.


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