Shy Guys And The Shy Complex (Page 7)

[MoonUrbanite]

You know what's funny? Once Tia is through her Pharmacy degree or, alternatively, whenever she feels "ready"; Unless she gets enough guys and of her desired quality approaching her and feeding her with a silver spoon she'll be back on here to bitch endlessly about guys not "fulfilling their duty" or some sh*t.

[paintitblack]

I know this is trying to "help out" shy guys, but I think the whole article assumes there's a magic switch these shy guys have to flip and then they'll suddently get over their shyness. Yeah these guys are going to have to get out of their shells but I doubt admonishment is going to help them accomplish this goal. There are any number of reasons guys are shy, every shy guy with his own reasons. I just don't know how much this is going to help.

[MarcusAurelius]

What is the “Shy Complex,” and on what page might I find it described in the DSM-IV? Fact is, there is no such thing as a “Shy Complex,” and you discredit yourself and your writing by using such nonsensical labels. Stop trying to make yourself appear learned by using jargon that doesn’t even exist. BTW, on what expertise are you basing your advice? Clearly it’s not grounded in formal education or life experience. Stick to writing about topics you actually understand.

[Enchanted_x3]

OKAY. I am officially done defending my opinion. It is mine alone. I don't really care what you think. Take my words for what they're worth. Whatever. Good luck.

[Concordia12]

I read a book once, I don't remeber the title, it was about dating and relationhips and there was a guy's opinion about who should ask out. So that guy (co-author) wrote that it should always be a man who asks a girl out and not the other way around, and he warned us,girls, NOT to attempt asking out first because "if he isn't asking you out, means he DOES NOT LIKE YOU or... not man enough to ask"...

[Enchanted_x3]

Thanks very much for your feedback, Epiphanies. I read your article recently and agreed with essentially everything you wrote as well. I love seeing a girl's insight when it comes to males.

[Enchanted_x3]

I don't have crushes on shy guys. I don't even notice shy guys to be honest, because they are just that - shy.

Nashton, thank you for your compliment.

[Nashton]

It seems like the girls agree with this because they might have a crush on that shy guy and want him to make a move. but I enjoyed the article good to hear from the light of a girl =D

[Enchanted_x3]

I did address how guys need to suck it up and make the first move, quantum.

And women are just as common as being prosecuted for sexual harassment in the workplace by male coworkers.

[drvannostrand]

Sometimes I feel that this sadness if affecting my life in a negative way. I feel like I will never meet anyone and that thing alone makes feel apathetic and worthless. Your article had a lot of bad reactions, mostly because they can't admit reality, but I think you are completely correct. Thank you for writing this. I wish you great happiness for your life.

[drvannostrand]

Dear Enchanted_x3, I am 26 year old virgin. Never had a girlfriend; Never kissed or had an intimate moment. I am not that bad looking actually and I consider myself a good person. Everyday I pass by beautiful girls I would like to meet. Everyday I go back home feeling sad that I didn't do anything; sad that I never felt love or had any affection; sad because I see other guys with their girlfriends; sad because no girl even looks at me; sad because I think "why am I like this? I don't want to"

[Enchanted_x3]

Doctorwhofan23 - Shy guys do have a choice. In fact, they have two choices. A-Stay the same and don't really get anywhere with women or B. Man up and gain confidence. It's simple.

[AfricanD]

(continued from previous comment) Having to go through multiple girls just makes me think that I would have to ask out girls I'm not interested in or become a guy who easily falls for different women. I honestly can't see myself doing that. However like I mentioned before I get what you are trying to say, and I wouldn't say I am a 'shy guy', just a guy who doesn't believe in being 'out there' and a 'loud guy', just to get noticed by people.

[AfricanD]

Interesting article, I get what you are trying to say even if I do wish things like this were more 50-50. One thing I had trouble accepting in this article is when you mentioned something about for every 10 girls one will say yes'. The only issue I have with this is that some guys (like me), just want to ask out girls we're interested in.

[darkknight1x]

No I didn't contradict myself. Also to clarify when I said screw the "norm" I meant screw the people that say men have to ask the women out first. Duh.

[eidahl]

Some of the things that are seriously screwed up about me. :p (To all those guys commenting about how it sucks to be one expected to ' do all the work', DON'T BE SUCH PUSSIES. Jeez )

[EngineeringStudent]

Man I wish I came across this a long time ago. At least I got over it at a fairly young age. Good article.

[NMMan]

Please, don't hate on this girl because SHE HAS THE RIGHT IDEA. My hat's off to you, author-lady. Keep up the good work.

[Asailum]

great article. Very nurturing and kind :)

and, moviedude is more interested in whining than doing anything. lol

[Enchanted_x3]

And I'm mildly attractive? Like I give a f*** what you think. No offense, but you have no right to talk about physical aspects.