10 Things To Do, To Battle Low Self-Esteem

[Remembermyname4]

10 Things to do, to battle low self-esteem

1. Stop comparing yourself to others

2. Work on learning to groom yourself

3. Laugh, humor is a free medicine

4. Get an Education, make something of your life

5. Talk to people you know or even strangers

6. Try to find out your talent

7. Look back on your previous life accomplishments

8. Try to help a person learn something new

9. Listen to your partner when they tell you that you are beautiful/handsome

10. Meh, if you don’t love yourself, I’ll love you. Enjoy the rest of your day/night :P

[redeyemindtricks]

So, yeah, I hear way too much of #1 ("Don't compare yourself to others"), and I gotta come out on the opposite side of that one. A big part of my POSITIVE self-image CAME FROM comparing myself to others.

Yep.

Specifically, I'd look at other women I thought were goddesses, and find the SAME "flaws" I found in myself!

Example:
When I was a teenager, I was OBSESSED with the asymmetry in my face. My eyes don't have exactly the same shape, and my jaw isn't exactly as round on the left side of my face as on the right side.
Like any other teenage girl, I was hyper-self-critical about these things... until I looked VERY closely at pictures of Marilyn Monroe and Cindy Crawford, two of the "goddess-on-earth" women I idolized.

Sure enough...
Cindy's left eye is slightly higher and larger than her right, and her jaw is more square on the left side of her face.
Marilyn's left eye is lower than her right, and the left side of her face is actually a little wider than the right side.

When I saw THOSE things -- and realized I could "compare myself to" THEM -- that did WONDERS for my self-image. I mean, I was actually on the level of freakin' Cindy and Marilyn, ffs.
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You get me.

I think it's just plain unrealistic to tell ANYONE "stop comparing yourself to others". That's just human nature -- we're competitive with our perceived competition. Unless someone is gna go off and do some Into the Wild type of thing, this just isn't a reasonable prescription.

Instead, the best recommendation is to keep comparing yourself to others -- but in a way that makes YOU look just as good as, or even better than, them.

See, because, when you start thinking that way... You'll find that lots and lots of people will agree with you.
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[Remembermyname4]

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[brain5000]

Agree with what you wrote here, @redeyemindtricks. Might I add that if you have to tell yourself not to compare yourself to others, it is probably a sign that you have low self-esteem.

I have low self-esteem too. I wish I could write a take about what high or healthy self-esteem looks and feels like, but I don't know. It would be great to be able to envision a target to shoot for. This is a pretty good start for women, at least.

[Polocrew]

11. lift till ur ballsack hurt

[canadachic]

I like this list a lot. Another one I would add is learn to step outside your comfort zone once in a while to learn something new. When you accomplish it you will look back on it and be proud that you could push yourself to do something that you weren't at ease doing.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

these are all really true! always my go-to's when i'm having bad days. also a few more to add!
11 exercise! as elle woods says "exercise gives you endorphins. endorphins make you happy!"
12 find a good feel good movie to watch when you're down. mine is legally blonde. so i strongly approve of your use of an elle woods gif :p

[Tomboy_Cool]

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[Remembermyname4]

Yay! ♥️

[bluenose1872]

Problems only exist in your own head. You ever forget to be miserable sometimes and enjoyed yourself? That's when you realise negativity only has a hold on you when you acknowledge it. If you don't it doesn't exist.

[Mesonfielde]

Actually you just gotta read this set of files
www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/.../infopax.cfm

[Vicki97]

Well I am doing almost every of them. And I do feel beautiful :) yet almost no guy notices me lol I am getting tired of being forever alone // please don't tell me - you gotta love yourself and then you will hv a relationship, well I do adore myself yet I am pretty lonely

[Londonscotland]

I used to be very secured but lately my self esteem is on steak partly because here in Miami man are dogs and they only want sex they don't care with who or the fact that they are girls who won't give it like that.

[raio81597]

# 11 if someone says they like you, believe them it's often true. :) Great take, couldn't agree more. :)

[BuchitaBuchys]

As a person who has always struggled with self esteem, I agree. But it's an uphill battle sometimes :(

[Waffles731]

I just don't think I'll ever not have low self esteem

[Remembermyname4]

That pained me to read that.

[Waffles731]

Eh, such is life

[Remembermyname4]

Let's get through it together, ya?

[FallOutBoy2001]

Well Waffles, that makes two of us

[Peachhhfuzz]

Humor is free medicine c:

Gonna write that on my wall as a reminder

[bloodmountain1990]

Another one is to focus on the positive things in your life and not dwell on the negative things. Easier said than done, but it gives you an overall better attitude/outlook on life.

[dovido]

be naked as much as possible. even only alone in ur room. it helps

[thatguyfrom]

If anybody says they are better than me I just say that isn't my problem and they should stop bloody bragging. That always makes me feel good :)

[Aqesiro]

Gret take!

I also find staying busy helps. It's easy to feel down when you're just lazing around.

[TheBrokenDream]

It didn't really help... :(

[Remembermyname4]

Can you tell me something about your personality that you really like?

[TheBrokenDream]

I'm in music and art and I like making youtube videos :/

[Remembermyname4]

What kind of YouTube videos do you make?

[TheBrokenDream]

gaming and just about anything... I don't really have a type of youtube videos lol

[LucasGaribaldi]

Can i kiss you?
I have no f!@#$n' idea why i wrote that but that is somewhat honest. A friend of mine, a girl by the way, was feeling very down and we used to talk a lot about it and i did almost everything i could to take her up and eventualy she did get herself up! I gotta admit, despite we where friends back then and we got no romantic stuff between us, not even "tensions", just like two boys you know, i once or twice wanted to just throw myself towards her and kiss her like against the wall LOL! totally like "fuck this talk, ill put you up wheter you like it or not" hhaahahah. She was a good friend and your comment reminded me of her :) i wish you the very best and if you would likem please, take a read at a post i made to help a guy from gag once!
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1099258-how-to-make-yourself-happy-when-you-re-alone-depressed

[Raymond_Reddington]

i have problems with point number 9. most people with low self esteem, have no partners. is that person in that gif a boy or a girl btw?

[Victorianne]

Great Take!! I like this 💖👍

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Nice take - It is good to spread positivity

[vishna]

Things Not to Do
-Get a caricature