How Do You Feel About Women Wearing Thong Bikinis at the Beach?

This Take is an attempt to get to the bottom of whether there is a cultural divide on how people view the human body between the English-speaking world (the UK, Australia, Canada, New Zealand, South Africa and the USA) on one hand, and Europe, Latin America etc on the other.

I'm making it specific to this, because toplessness, nude beaches etc are not mainstream, and show no signs of ever becoming mainstream, whereas thong bikinis arguably are, although are still controversial with some people, and in some places.

Leaving aside the basic fact that not everybody is comfortable with the idea of showing off, there seems to be a big culture divide within the western world on this issue.


On three occasions earlier this year, I was at beaches around the Mediterranean, when it was warm enough to swim, yet out of season. There were very few foreigners there, and these beaches were recommended by locals in the know.

Because it was mainly during the working week, the beachgoers were mainly female, and it was pleasing to see the amount of ladies, who had opted for thong bikinis.


There was a wide range of ages, from late teens to early 40s, and probably most, if not all of these ladies had children with them.

It struck me as quite culturally different to what you'd expect to see on a beach mainly frequented by English-speakers. As I mentioned earlier, virtually all of these ladies were local.


Do you think this is harmful to their kids, or something that we should also adopt, namely a more carefree attitude to the human body, particularly one that has had children? Do you think it would be liberating if our society wasn't so judgmental about this kind of thing?

And do you believe that this is something that only a woman with a certain type of mindset can wear, and if so, what is that mindset?


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  • I don't really like the idea of going to a beach like that with my family.
    I don't think it's something that I would like to try and explain to my children.
    I'm a tad conscious more modest about my figure and it's something that I would not wear.
    You may like it because you're a bloke.
    Would you like it if it was your wife or teenage daughter and guys were staring at them?

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    • I think that's fair comment.

      I wouldn't worry me if it was my wife, although your question about daughters is thought provoking. I'm a long way off that yet, so I'm going to cop out, and say we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. πŸ˜‚

      Do you think your kids would actually notice and need an explanation, though? I'm fairly certain I didn't think in all that much depth about it when I was a kid, but that's all I'm basing my comment on?

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  • No I don't think its harmful to the kids. Not sure if carefree is the most apt word but in Western society I feel the female body has become objectified and hyper-sexualized to the "nth degree". I think possibly adopting a attitude with a more moderate, balanced mindset would be beneficial. Nudity and the female body is natural and beautiful but there is no need to view it in a sexualized context in every instance, "it is what is it".

    Regarding mindset I think you need to be fairly confident with your body to wear that and have a mild exhibitionist streak.

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    • Thanks for actually answering the question, lol - quite a few haven't...

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  • We are taught to be ashamed of our bodies, which doesn't make a lot of sense. People should keep fit for their health but otherwise shouldn't feel compelled to hide their bodies. I can't think of any reason that seeing someone in a bikini would harm a kid.

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  • I wear a thong bikini to the public pool all the time, but I spend the whole time doing yoga in the steam room, which I guess is equally as "offensive" to people's eyes but I don't care. And I'm no bikini model lol, but nobody cares.
    Some people ignore me and some people talk to me. Some people even sit right behind me (at a creepily close distance to me when they have the option to sit anywhere else in the steam room) and I have to adjust my positioning so i don't do Downward Dog with my butt in their face. There were a few times where I purposely did that though lol.
    No one has ever commented on my appearance there, with the exception of an old man who was hitting on me and said I could be a bikini model (which isn't true) and an old woman who said my body looked strong, and both of those occasions just made my day lol. People stare, and maybe not in admiration lol but I don't care. I'm just focused on my routine.
    And as far as it being harmful to kids? There's just no way. At the pool I go to, mothers and their children get full on nude in the change rooms. As do I. I think it's nice. Women of all shapes and sizes feeling comfortable getting nude around each other, and their children feeling confident enough to do the same and being raised without body shaming and feeling like being nude is wrong. I personally love it, and although I've never been to any nude beaches I know I would love that too. I'm definitely not a prude but I just don't see what's so wrong about a woman wearing a thong in public. The first time I saw it was in Hawaii years ago, and there was this beautiful bigger curvy girl wearing one, and nobody else was, and I admired her confidence.

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  • I live in a conservative country where one piece swimsuit is still common.

    I think there must be a limit as to how much you expose. You are a guy so obviously, you'd like it if women expose themselves more and more..

    I was raised in a conservative society so I believe that most of my naked body is only for my SO to see and not some strangers. I wouldn't like it if I wear such clothes and people check me out. It makes me uncomfortable.

    Maybe I would want my kids to raise in same way. I mean, how would they feel if their Mom is being sexualized by random strangers? Personally, I would feel weird if it happens with my Mom.

    As long as society is not comfortable with such kind of exposure, I don't think it's for the best.

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    • I think that's fair enough, and your last sentence sums it up well.

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    In the USA/Australia/New Zealand etc people have trouble separating the body from sex because they only see a whole body during sex. Therefore, to see too much skin is not appropriate because their minds go straight to sex.
    This link is not as well established in some European countries so their minds do not jump straight to sex when they see a bit of flesh. Its not that public sexuality is more accepted. Its just that a nipple or a butt cheek does not = sex.

    In my country we have a lot of day spas with pools, saunas, hot tubs etc. They are usually nude areas and men women and children are all together. Its actually very hard to find a day spa where clothes are allowed, they are certainly in the minority. I go to the spa regularly and have never seen a man get hard, even in a sauna full of naked 25 year old women. If you don't link it straight to sex its just a body.

    Most of the time people look more sexy in a regular bikini than they do in the nude because of the illusion it creates.

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  • When I go to a beach on a hot day I want to be as cool as possible so of corse of gonna wear something with the least amount of cloth, and as someone who doesn't give two shits if someone sees my nipples or pussy (Cause everyone knows to some extent what you look like under your clothes) I don't see a problem with wearing stuff like it

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  • Though I have a smallish toned, tight little bum, I wouldn't feel comfortable wearing a thong on a public beach where families are present. Cheekies are as far as I go, they have to have a little coverage though!

    I've heard friends with younger kids talking to each other about some of the suits younger girls are wearing like thongs; they don't like explaining to their kiddos why her bum is hanging out of her bottoms. many moms are protective like that. I respect that.

    Now if it's a place where there aren't kids then if she wants to hang it all out wear a thong or even go naked that's her choice.

    The other thing is I don't believe in advertising what isn't available, that's for my husband!

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  • Your wardrobe ought to be restricted to what looks good on your body. So... if you're the queen of squats and legs and abs are your favorite thing to do in the gym... by all means, show off your hard work.

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    • I should be restricted to what you feel comfortable wearing. After all if people don’t want to see it they don’t have to look, unless being judgmental helps with their self esteem.

  • Depends on what country you are in and who you're with. Personally wouldn't wear thong bottoms with my family but I do around my friends (personally normal brief underwear looks terrible on my butt πŸ˜‚ I prefer Brazilian/thong so much better).
    I don't think it's harmful to kids at all that's nonsense. I think it's nice when people are comfortable with their bodies.

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    • I don't personally get the harmful to kids thing either. I'm almost wondering if that's something I'll change my mind on when I've got kids of my own, lol? So many people tend to mention it...

    • Kids respond to what they hear others say. If thongs are just taken as normal, then kids don't pay any attention to the issue.

    • @markscott And that is a very, very good point.

      I entirely agree.

  • I do not see anything wrong with showing butt cheeks though I know it would be frowned upon here on the US beaches.

    As for the mindset for who wears them - I think you wear them since you would prefer to have as little tan line as you can and if you are comfortable with showing your buttocks. lol!

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  • Thongs aren't for everyone. They particularly don't look good on girls with squared butts or heavy girls. Somehow, I find them fitting for girls with round butts (whether Kim K or Beyonce large or anyone small, as long as they're well-rounded) more than anyone else. I sometimes wear them on the beach if my companions also wear theirs. I don't find them comfy. The skinnier the thong, the more I feel like I'm getting "butt-flossed!"

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  • Wear whatever you please. Just don't get butthurt if someone stares a little "too long".

    I live in Alabama where most people here are still conservative, so wearing a thong would mostly NOT FLY.

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  • Thongs and cheeky bottoms are becoming normal especially during spring break. I think they are really cute on girls with good butts. I think in ten years most girls will wear them on the beach as bottoms are getting smaller every year. Everyone has a butt so it isn't a big deal

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    • Thanks for your reply, Paige. I should have specified, I'm only really interested in getting answers from actual men and women, and not people who are pretending to be the opposite gender.

      Cards on the table, Paige, as a fellow heterosexual man, I also think they are really cute on girls with good butts.

      But pretending to be a girl to reinforce the point you are trying to make actually undermines it, particularly when you're so transparent.

      It does take balls to do, I grant you. But then, you literally DO have balls, don't you?

    • ooh shit exposed lmfaoo

  • I don't think it is a big deal or too harmful for the kids, but thongs don't look good on everyone. I personally don't like them, but who cares? They can wear those if they want to.

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  • It seems like most women in my country wear thong bikinis. Well, I went to the beach recently and most were wearing it. So I'm "desensitized" to it. πŸ˜‚ They want to tan and show off their butt cheeks. I don't wear it because men stare too much as is already. About the kids... They don't care about it; it does no harm to them. And thong bikinis are mainstream while nudity isn't because the thong just doesn't cover the butt cheeks, but it covers the rest... You can bend over and not show your sex organs. (Female nipples are still treated like they were sex organs, though πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ.)

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    • Women in my country have been wearing thong bikinis for decades and the kids are still normal kids (most); no harm done.

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    • @markscott I told you most women at the beach here wear it, though. If you don't believe me, come here or something. I live in Brazil. Men don't stare at women just because they're wearing thong bikinis; they stare at some of them, thong or regular bikini or whatever piece that shows their butt. When I said in my first post that I don't wear thong bikinis because men already stare, I meant they already stare at me, by the way.

    • I didn't mean to suggest that women in your country didn't wear thong bikinis, as I have no reason to disbelieve you. And I get your point, that you don't war thong bikinis because men already stare at you.

  • I'd just walk naked lOl.. that wedge in my ass won't feel good

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    I think you should wear (if anything) you like. Off course try wearing that on a Scottish beach you'll get frostbite..

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  • i think its gross,

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  • I personally think it's tacky as hell.

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  • It doesn't affect me.

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  • As long as you look sexy why not

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  • Yes please.

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    • What's it like in places like Jurmala?

      Like the places I'm talking about in the Med, or a less relaxed attitude towards this kind of thing?

    • In Jurmala, it's pretty rare though it may depend on the beach. Every kilometre stretch of beach usually is different from the one a kilometre ahead or before.

    • Got you, yeah.

      That's the set up in lots and lots of other places, too.

  • I don't think hiding the human body from children is beneficial to them at all. I'd have no issue with thongs or cheeky bottoms on the beach when kids are around.

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    • I'm with you on this.

      I think it only becomes an 'issue' when adults decide to make it into one.

    • It's funny how if someone is seen to be naked where children are in our society, they're charged and labeled a sex offender whereas in many tribal communities, it's normal not to wear anything and children couldn't care less if someone is naked.

      Who's society is really the best one in this scenario? The one where we've turned to human body into some overtly sexual thing and therefore cannot be shown to anyone in public or the one where the human body is seen as nothing to be afraid of.

  • I really don't care to be honest. I think that human beings in general just need to fucking chill about bodies. ESPECIALLY female bodies, since female bodies usually gather around the most controversey.

    I honestly really wouldn't mind if people were allowed to go out in public naked. Even if they were a 500 pound acne prone slob, there'd no problem... just don't look at them. And most nudists carry around a towel with them anyways. So the unsanitary problem is dealt with anyways.

    The only problem left is how prude we are.

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  • Even though a lot of women wouldn't be comfortable wearing a thong (let alone going topless or nude) I think any woman who is comfortable wearing one should feel free to do so. I agree that we're still too hung up over the human body, and there's nothing to fear about it. We all (of the same sex) have the same parts. And since little kids are natural nudists anyway, I don't think there's any concern there as long as people don't engage in inappropriate behavior at a beach.

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    • Agreed.

      The inappropriate behaviour part is absolutely key, too. There was no catcalling, or any kind of harassment at all going on, in any of these places, contrary to the sometime stereotype of amorous Mediterranean men, lol.

  • I will cast my lot with @Goodwifie. If I had a granddaughter, I would not want her being ogled at the beach or by the pool. Western culture simply could not accommodate this very well.

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  • I think they should just start wearing whatever they want, guys and girls, something or nothing at all. Animals do it... our ancestors did it... so why do we need to be such prudes.

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  • A person should not be defined by what they do or don’t wear. So a persons morals aren’t inversely proportionate to the square metres of fabric warn.

    Whatever gender specific appendages a person has will be shared by approximately 50% of the planets population and but cheeks by almost 100%, some motor cyclists should have been wearing leathers.

    So given how common human bodies are I’m at a loss to understand what damage a person of any age can suffer by seeing one.

    With the above in mind my answer the original question would be that I would see no issue in it at all. Though as we'renudists we may be biased.

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  • No problem.
    Most arguments here were used before WW2 when women started wearing swimsuits and duting the fifties when bikinis were introduced.

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    • There's nothing wrong with a human body and nothing wrong with admiring it.

    • The most praised art works glorify the human body and are universally accepted.
      The human body itself isn't universally accepted.

  • I have no issue with it, but I go to nude beaches whenever I can.

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  • I think it's cool that women are wearing thong bikinis. Women like that are bold and not afraid of anything

    I do not like women who like to hide

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  • Society really needs to stop being so judgmental. You wanna flaunt your body, go for it (as long as you're not in a professional/courtroom/serious setting)!

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    • Also, there are plenty of men who can rock a thong as well (great examples: Gill and Urien from Street Fighter III).

  • There is nothing more beautiful in the entire world than the female body. By all means it should be perfectly acceptable.

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  • They are gorgeous. I Try not to look but it is difficult. If you have problem with that dont go to some beaches in france they are naked. Now they are difficult not to look...

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  • Awesome!

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  • "How Do You Feel About Women Wearing Thong Bikinis at the Beach?"

    Good.

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  • I love it and hope more sexy women wear them at the beach

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  • Very sexy!

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  • What is funny is these same women will run and hide not to to let you see them in their bra and panties but will wear that to the beach.

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  • It's a turn on and I like women who are not afraid of showing off their bodies

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  • It's harmless thus I don't care.

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