This is the song that inspired my MyTake today. I'm sure you can get the gist of it, but I was somewhat disappointed in the lyric when the girl is still in love with her ex after the breakup.
"But it's still your side..."
It had only happened about 2-3 months ago, so I still have a vivid memory of how I felt when it happened to me. (And no, not a breakup....technically)I was always questioning why he didn't care about me the way that I cared about him. I learned it the hard way; not everyone has the same heart as you. Some people won't take interest in you, some people won't treat you right.
But that's okay because I learned to let go. It honestly made me feel stupid that I was so attached to him in the first place. I mean, he's not perfect, and he didn't always care about me in the way I had expected him to. I expected too much from him and things didn't end well. But I'm really glad that I had to encounter this situation and help myself grow and improve from it. During the process of letting go, I was heartbroken (even though we never really had a thing. I guess it was an attachment to his interaction with me) .
I could sleep at night, but I cried a lot. I could barely eat, and I was just lost. My parents actually considered making me stay at home because they were scared I had depression, and it broke my heart, even more, to see them upset about me being hurt when it was me who let him hurt me. Which wasn't really the case in my opinion. I had a great outlook on life, and that never changed. I was just more upset than I'd ever been in my life.
Now, I can proudly say that I am better, and I've become stronger emotionally than I was before. I once heard Michelle Phan say something along the lines of "Usually if you ask for something, you will either get it, get it later, or get something better." As this doesn't apply to all aspects of life, it's still important to remind yourself that in relationships.
It's important to strive to let go of someone rather than to hold on if things are over. Sometimes people can fix things, but I knew I couldn't so I moved on. That's exactly what I did, and I can tell you I've been so happy from that point on. You don't have enough room for new things if you're still holding on to all of the old things, they say. It's really true.
I've talked to someone who has made me happier in the 8 days he talked to me than in 2 months of that other guy talking to me. I feel he is more trustworthy than the other guy ever has been. And I wouldn't have met him if it wasn't for me letting go of the other guy. The other guy has taught me some things though that are important to keep in mind. He taught me how to contain myself, and how to not overwhelm someone else and let things happen on their own. But now, I will be focused on developing and becoming better with other people, and let him go about his own life.
For those struggling with letting go of someone that you really should let of of, I encourage you do what I did. At one point, I thought that it was really the end of everything, but it;s really not. Just because you can't imagine someone making you happier, doesn't mean you won't find someone who can. :) If you see it as a risk, I encourage you to take a risk once in a while. If you truly feel that that person meant so much to you, then really, nothing could make things worst. You've lost them, and now maybe you have something to gain from letting go.
As much as it is good for other people to make you happy, you should also be happy with yourself first. Fairly short MyTake today, but just wanted to share a little story from the heart :) -Sherry
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