I personally don't know where I stand. By people's opinions I'm considered attractive but many girls are trying to bring my confidence down.
I doubt it tbh cause I have never been sexually assaulted or just cat called. I don't know what to think of that. It's not something I want to happen to me but it feels like if it doesn't happen to you, you aren't attractive.
I can highly relate to this. A lot of people just judge looking at the surface and no doubt being attractive is a blessing. But it is also a curse in a lot of ways. Many people think that your looks are the reason opportunities were handed over to you, you have to deal with jealousy, being underestimated and judged due to stereotypes, and just hated on simply for being pretty. There are people who are envious of others' success and they do whatever they can to bring them down. Plus, the cat calling and staring is by far the worst part of it. at least if you're ugly, you can walk in peace without being interrupted every minute by desperate guys.
The big difference in being harassed between men and women is that a guy isn't really threatened when a woman does something like that to a guy. I've had my ass grabbed, been kissed randomly and been whistled on but its not like a woman can rape me. Quite the opposite for a woman so i understand the discomfort
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Women have assaulted me too and it's not okay but I get what you are saying. And I mean a women could but it's a less risk.
There are so many average/ugly girls that think they’re the hottest thing on the planet so I don’t if I can take his seriously without a pic. These types of girls blame everything on their “supermodel” looks.
Also I find it so annoying when people bitch about being attractive. Everybody wants to be attractive. Do you see people using thousands and thousands of dollars and risking their life to be “ugly”? Do you actually think you have problems? Jeez, be grateful. It’s like a rich person telling broke people “ugh my life is soooo hard being rich” .
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Okay so There's a lot of things here lol. 1. Beauty is subjective this is based of what other people have told me and how I att I don't Calle myself attractive they do. 2. I am not the model type I am not a tall flat underweight women. 3. I don't bitch about being annoying I am saying the bad part about it so People don't have to be so jealous and see that everything isn't perfect about it. 4. Ofcorse I have problems we all do in life. People have different kinds of problems and these problems I named above is no where near as bad as other stuff I have been through. 5. You have misstanken the whole mytake it's not like rich People saying it's so hard being rich it's like if a rich person say "having a lot of money doesn't make everything easy there are some bad stuff about it too like..."
You are wrong in many things. I hope you become happier and stop judging before you know the whole story. It Only hurts you to see everything in a negative way not the other way around. Feel better, have a Nice day, bye!:)
I love being healthy now... but at the end of the day we all just are bitching about why we can’t find love or full acceptance...
All trying to find a stupid reason to why we put so much work into something that hurts us
Do you ALL see that both ugly and pretty people have it hard? And are afraid of never finding the real thing? Look even when u were ugly and try to become pretty you are still going to get hurt... no matter how hard you try you will hurt so can we all cut each other some slack? We allllll are struggling in this world
yeah, different ways but both still hurt, "oh i didn't get the guy because i wasn't pretty enough" "oh the guy only liked me because of my looks", like either way the guy in both scenarios was a douche bag and both people experience different pain. but pain is pain
instead of diminishing the other person's or only seeing your type of pain (this goes for everyone not just singling anyone out), im just saying we all should just chill and support each other.. cause the douche bags aren't gunna change
@Tonga exacly! That's why I wrote this so People don't have to be so jealous and understand there are also pain in being pretty. I can only write from my experience cause thats what I have been through. I have never in my life said it's not hard to be ugly
I’m not an attractive person but I always love to read stories on pretty girls who actually go through hardship too. People hate them because their beautiful. Girls hate them because they get all the boys. If she’s too shy and navie she’s going to get bullied all the time. Prove that being attractive is not always a good thing if you’re easy insecure and introverted.
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No one believes there's no problem's attractive people face. They'll always say they'd prefer your problems over their own and that's obviously what they mean when someone references how easy attractive people have it.
I highly doubt you'd give it up. So given that choice, it's hard to consider "people like me too much" to be a serious problem.
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I never Said People like me too mush it doesn't say any where in the text that's not even close to the problem. But thanks for taking your time and commenting
But this wasn't just about assault and drama in general. It was about assault and drama considered a byproduct of being attractive -- a quality you're not interested in trading in.
Nobody said being attractive means you have a perfect life and everything is perfect, but let me tell you something.
You won the genetic lottery and it's entirely natural for anyone who didn't to resent you. Deal with it, that's the price you pay for being good looking and it's well worth it. I'm a solid 7-8, maybe I'm actually the luckiest :P but I would not complain if I was a 10 and girls wouldn't fk off (although my emotional side would be a burning hole in the ground cause im really sensitive to love :3)
I have to say I feel practically zero empathy for the "problems of being attractive". Every single thing you describe can happen to anyone, and there are ways to deal with it. It might happen a bit more often to the "beautiful", but really... so what? Poor baby. Deal with it. No sympathy here.
This world is a bit strange i would say. We call a guy that maybe really likes you a stalker... Maybe you are his dream girl and he just can't give up on you or really likes you. Unless he is some old pedophile then yeah.
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Yeah but I really like a guy and I dont stalk him. A no is a no
But seriously, I do empathise. I often feel sorry for women, because I know they get stared at and can often feel comfortable, if not worse. I try not to overstare. And then I think, this woman is used to being objectified, etc.
Uh... okay. But wouldn't you rather be grappling with these problems than the girls who are really unattractive grappling with the problems they grapple with?
Also, being attractive has nothing to do with getting your ass grabbed; random douchebags will grab the asses of any chick, attractive or not.
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I don't know but I want people to know that everything isn't good about it cause people strive to be that.
Oh it will. I was a male model in my 20s. Never cocky or arrogant about it. But now I’m in my mid 30s. Most younger girls get creeped out if I as much as say hello to them (although some prefer older guys).
The future doesn’t seem real but it is. There will come a day you will LONG for attention again. Even the negative attention.
If you are really that pretty you can make a decision to use or abuse that power (many pretty girls do the latter). But just remember that good looks will fade but a shitty personality won’t. Work on your personality.
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I personally don't know where I stand. By people's opinions I'm considered attractive but many girls are trying to bring my confidence down.
I doubt it tbh cause I have never been sexually assaulted or just cat called. I don't know what to think of that. It's not something I want to happen to me but it feels like if it doesn't happen to you, you aren't attractive.
Yeah everything isn't perfect
I can highly relate to this. A lot of people just judge looking at the surface and no doubt being attractive is a blessing. But it is also a curse in a lot of ways. Many people think that your looks are the reason opportunities were handed over to you, you have to deal with jealousy, being underestimated and judged due to stereotypes, and just hated on simply for being pretty. There are people who are envious of others' success and they do whatever they can to bring them down. Plus, the cat calling and staring is by far the worst part of it. at least if you're ugly, you can walk in peace without being interrupted every minute by desperate guys.
The big difference in being harassed between men and women is that a guy isn't really threatened when a woman does something like that to a guy. I've had my ass grabbed, been kissed randomly and been whistled on but its not like a woman can rape me. Quite the opposite for a woman so i understand the discomfort
Women have assaulted me too and it's not okay but I get what you are saying. And I mean a women could but it's a less risk.
There are so many average/ugly girls that think they’re the hottest thing on the planet so I don’t if I can take his seriously without a pic. These types of girls blame everything on their “supermodel” looks.
Also I find it so annoying when people bitch about being attractive. Everybody wants to be attractive. Do you see people using thousands and thousands of dollars and risking their life to be “ugly”? Do you actually think you have problems? Jeez, be grateful. It’s like a rich person telling broke people “ugh my life is soooo hard being rich” .
Okay so There's a lot of things here lol.
1. Beauty is subjective this is based of what other people have told me and how I att I don't Calle myself attractive they do.
2. I am not the model type I am not a tall flat underweight women.
3. I don't bitch about being annoying I am saying the bad part about it so People don't have to be so jealous and see that everything isn't perfect about it.
4. Ofcorse I have problems we all do in life. People have different kinds of problems and these problems I named above is no where near as bad as other stuff I have been through.
5. You have misstanken the whole mytake it's not like rich People saying it's so hard being rich it's like if a rich person say "having a lot of money doesn't make everything easy there are some bad stuff about it too like..."
You are wrong in many things. I hope you become happier and stop judging before you know the whole story. It Only hurts you to see everything in a negative way not the other way around. Feel better, have a Nice day, bye!:)
How am I wrong in so many things?
What story do I need to know? 🙄
... if I didn’t work to be skinny... I wouldn’t have been used for my body and left hurt...
I love being healthy now... but at the end of the day we all just are bitching about why we can’t find love or full acceptance...
All trying to find a stupid reason to why we put so much work into something that hurts us
Do you ALL see that both ugly and pretty people have it hard? And are afraid of never finding the real thing?
Look even when u were ugly and try to become pretty you are still going to get hurt... no matter how hard you try you will hurt so can we all cut each other some slack? We allllll are struggling in this world
@Tonga yes but in different ways. There are differens ups and downs in both and I wrote about the down side of being attractive:)
yeah, different ways but both still hurt, "oh i didn't get the guy because i wasn't pretty enough" "oh the guy only liked me because of my looks", like either way the guy in both scenarios was a douche bag and both people experience different pain. but pain is pain
instead of diminishing the other person's or only seeing your type of pain (this goes for everyone not just singling anyone out), im just saying we all should just chill and support each other.. cause the douche bags aren't gunna change
@Tonga exacly! That's why I wrote this so People don't have to be so jealous and understand there are also pain in being pretty. I can only write from my experience cause thats what I have been through. I have never in my life said it's not hard to be ugly
I’m not an attractive person but I always love to read stories on pretty girls who actually go through hardship too. People hate them because their beautiful. Girls hate them because they get all the boys. If she’s too shy and navie she’s going to get bullied all the time. Prove that being attractive is not always a good thing if you’re easy insecure and introverted.
No one believes there's no problem's attractive people face. They'll always say they'd prefer your problems over their own and that's obviously what they mean when someone references how easy attractive people have it.
I highly doubt you'd give it up. So given that choice, it's hard to consider "people like me too much" to be a serious problem.
I never Said People like me too mush it doesn't say any where in the text that's not even close to the problem. But thanks for taking your time and commenting
I wasn't saying it was a quote. I'm paraphrasing for effect.
Okay well that has nothing to do with my text tho
It's not worded to your liking but I think it's at the essence of the issue.
How would you sum it up?
The issue is being assaulted and a lot of drama
But this wasn't just about assault and drama in general. It was about assault and drama considered a byproduct of being attractive -- a quality you're not interested in trading in.
Yes but its not all perfect and I want People to know that. I have been ugly too so I know bost
*both
And my response was that people already understand that perfectly well.
Nobody said being attractive means you have a perfect life and everything is perfect, but let me tell you something.
You won the genetic lottery and it's entirely natural for anyone who didn't to resent you. Deal with it, that's the price you pay for being good looking and it's well worth it. I'm a solid 7-8, maybe I'm actually the luckiest :P but I would not complain if I was a 10 and girls wouldn't fk off (although my emotional side would be a burning hole in the ground cause im really sensitive to love :3)
I have to say I feel practically zero empathy for the "problems of being attractive". Every single thing you describe can happen to anyone, and there are ways to deal with it. It might happen a bit more often to the "beautiful", but really... so what? Poor baby. Deal with it. No sympathy here.
This world is a bit strange i would say. We call a guy that maybe really likes you a stalker... Maybe you are his dream girl and he just can't give up on you or really likes you. Unless he is some old pedophile then yeah.
Yeah but I really like a guy and I dont stalk him. A no is a no
I agree. It's very hard being attractive. Almost unbearable.
I don't Think its that hard tho but it's not all perfect
It was a joke.
But seriously, I do empathise. I often feel sorry for women, because I know they get stared at and can often feel comfortable, if not worse. I try not to overstare. And then I think, this woman is used to being objectified, etc.
I feel your pain. It is truly hard to have long term female friends when you're attractive.
Yup👌
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😂😂nah
Hahahaha 🤣
Uh... okay. But wouldn't you rather be grappling with these problems than the girls who are really unattractive grappling with the problems they grapple with?
Also, being attractive has nothing to do with getting your ass grabbed; random douchebags will grab the asses of any chick, attractive or not.
I don't know but I want people to know that everything isn't good about it cause people strive to be that.
And the second part maybe that's so.
"he is always trying to show his fight skills "
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ryNJhzBnb8gahhh hahaha that made my day.. what an idiot. lol
I agree. It can be very annoying. The worst part is trying to figure out who genuine and not with their interest.
Exacly!
there is no bad part. I can bang her all day long. I guess that is good part about being an "attractive" female
Lol... Yes there is. Ofcorse there areamy Good stuff I'm not denying that but there are also bad stuff
but lets be real, its much better to be attractive then "ugly" or "average".
Yes I agree. But I want People to know it's not all perfect either.
well lets say im "attractive" male cuz i look aesthetic and trust me i get a lot attention but who cares. I just ignore them.
Yeah well there are other stuff too that I named above.
Don’t worry. This will fade with age. There will come a day when you will miss the attention
Maybe maybe not
Oh it will. I was a male model in my 20s. Never cocky or arrogant about it. But now I’m in my mid 30s. Most younger girls get creeped out if I as much as say hello to them (although some prefer older guys).
The future doesn’t seem real but it is. There will come a day you will LONG for attention again. Even the negative attention.
Maybe but I'm not social so I don't know
You are a kid. Got lots of life in front of you.
If you are really that pretty you can make a decision to use or abuse that power (many pretty girls do the latter). But just remember that good looks will fade but a shitty personality won’t. Work on your personality.
For reals. Guys only see girls they think are attractive as sex toys.
A lot of times yes but not always
Cons and pros are something that exist in everything
Exacly!
well never feel bad about your looks it's what's on the inside your personality that counts
That's true!! Thankyou!