Busting Myths About Modern (Non-Extreme) Feminism (Page 7)

[Anonymous]

Most rapists are men. Sorry. Get over it. Instead of teaching girls to "prevent it," we should teach boys not to rape in the first place. If a girl is friends with you, it doesn't mean you can take advantage of her when she's drunk "because she didn't say no," and you don't get special brownie point for not raping her. It's called being a decent human being.

[Anonymous]

The Steubenville guys don't condone rape? The guy laughing about the "dead girl" the guys raped doesn't condone rape? Please educate me, besides cognitive dissonance, on how these men can thoroughly enjoy raping, gaslighting, and bringing pain to a girl yet "not condone" it.

[Anonymous]

Also, highlighting women's issues is not "showing a lack of care for men." Again, "what about the menz!?" strikes again. The world is pretty much about you already. Have some empathy.

"No man condones rape."

Oh, so the guy who raped my friend for years doesn't condone rape?

[Anonymous]

Then on top of that, people don't believe you afterwards? Then guys consider you a slut or damaged goods because you "let" it happen? Perhaps you catch an STD that haunts you for the rest of your life? You die of AIDS? You pass HIV to your baby? You have to use condoms every time with your new partner, so he doesn't catch it?

[Anonymous]

"Acting like rape is worse than anything a man experiences is self entitled and shows a lack of care for men."

I -never- said anything like that, because men can be raped too. BUT, men don't live with the everyday threat of rape like we do. Honestly though, can you tell me something exclusive tomen that is worse than forcefully and painfully yielding to someone, especially if he supposedly loves you? And it hurting the whole time, while he enjoys your pain? And you're helpless and immobilized?

[Anonymous]

You know what really helped me become an official feminist? This site. I am so sick of guys saying how terrible women are, how shallow we are, how we owe them dates/sex, and how it's okay to rape us if we don't say no. I'm sick of double standards and lack of respect for women -because they are women-, not because of behavior, because these women often have already demonstrated behavior worthy of earning respect.

[Anonymous]

"your entire article sounds like your bashing men. It sounds like this "I don't hate men...but men do this and this and this which is bad...but I don't hate men". It's contradictory. For reasons explained before, feminism needs have a culprit and men are the only logical ones."

I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm sorry you feel that it's illogical to blame the sexist men who say sexist things. Sure, some women are misogynists too, but hate is often directed toward someone different, or a threat.

[Anonymous]

"Like in most cases with male issues, we're just told to shut up and stop complaining."

If you knew me, you would know I would never tell that to a guy who was a rape victim, really was screwed over by an ex-wife, got kicked in the balls, etc. Guys DO have issues, but they don't face discrimination based on their gender nearly as often as women. That is the point of feminism. Feminists WANT men to be happy too. Why wouldn't they?

[Anonymous]

And don't tell me what my "biological" role is-- I would much rather slave at work than have children, as I have been working since I was 14. Some women aren't cut out for motherhood, and I am one of them. It's a right, not a privilege, to choose not to have children. You can choose between two forms of hard work, kids or a job, or have both. I can only handle one, which is a job. Big whoop.

[Anonymous]

" I also think there is an element of one sided gender role standards that applies to this... Men learn to suck it up and get a job because we are expected to, whether we like it or not."

Everybody has to work to live, both men and women. So, what you're saying is we should give men the option to be useless sacks of flesh because otherwise it's misandry? If a guy wants to be a stay at home dad, fine! But doing -nothing-? No, that's not okay.

[Anonymous]

Idk where you live, but where I live I notice that the men are underachieving compared to the women. I don't know any woman who plans to live off a guy's salary; pretty much every woman I know is working her butt off in retail, a trade, college, or in a professional career.

[Anonymous]

But, you know, it's totally okay to deny a woman a pill for health reasons because it's a contraceptive and "just like" condoms and Viagra! Someone get this guy a Nobel Prize-- what a genius who OBVIOUSLY understands why women want the Pill for reasons other than reproductive freedom? By the way, I think you would be upset if your local pharmacist wouldn't let you have Advil for a wicked headache because it was against his religion.

[Anonymous]

I'm not going to waste energy addressing each of your points, as I have a life, but you're twisting a lot of what I said. So, I'm an extremist just because you said so? I really had to list ALL the men in my life who have been positive influences and people I respect and look up to? A lot of my favorite feminists ARE men.

Also, I have messed up hormones that cause me to have migraines, horrible cramps, and PMDD, so I very damn well am entitled to affordable birth control to help those issues.

[Anonymous]

Butthurt, K-Hol? I have not been raped, but I have dealt with guys who were physically/emotionally abusive/manipulative. Why should it matter? It was a string of bad, serious relationships in college that I overcame via leaving, rebuilding my life, and achieving regardless of that. I have helped countless people on this site with my advice, something I can attribute to my experience. So what?

[Anonymous]

Again, this is my opinion, and my article. GAG likes it, my professor liked it, and many other people like it. If you want "The Moaterboat Show," write your own article and stop harassing me and telling me what my own experience as a woman is like. You don't understand feminism, and don't seem willing to do so.

[Anonymous]

I identify as a feminist, but also an ally for other causes, like LBGTQ rights. Sure, I can be called humanist or egalitarian, but I need the feminism title because females are still widely discriminated against in the U.S. From what I understand, we are behind other industrialized nations in terms of respect for women. If I took the term "equalist," it would be like dismissing that women still have a large disadvantage and aren't seen as "people" as much as men. "Matriarchy" my BUTT.

[Anonymous]

Btw, rape culture is real. See this: link

College is a joke? HAH. Okay, well where's your education? Did -you- get into a selective school? Did -you- get Magna Cum Laude (3.93 GPA)? Did you write beautiful essays praised by accredited, published professors from places like Princeton, who are much wiser than you'll ever be?

[Anonymous]

It's not being superior, it's a handicap. Leveling the playing field (telling those who are a LOT stronger not to hit the weaker ones) is the ethical thing to do. I don't go around hitting guys, and girls should be taught not to hit as well, but it's especially important to the boys that because they are generally stronger, more athletic, and can do more damage. Don't you see how inherently unfair it is when a 200-pound guy giving a black eye and a broken arm to a 112-pound girl? When the most

[Anonymous]

" I am saying that by specifically saying not to hit girls children are being indoctrinated in the false belief that women are a protected and superior class of people."

No, it means that girls are PHYSICALLY WEAKER and often more easy to hurt. Something that would likely be a "tap" to a guy would send me crying. Crimes against women are often especially heinous because we have an extra orifice to rape, and we are physically weaker and cannot defend ourselves as well.

[Anonymous]

I think you fail to notice that the bumbling male and capable woman stereotype is a result of patriarchy. It hurts women because guys are expected to be (and accepted as) lazy today, while women go out and have careers, clean the house, and raise the children. You guys are still benefiting from that. It is not surprising, even expected, when an average-joe guy (looks/ambition-wise) gets a gorgeous/high-ambition woman.