Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
Why do girls reject you? (Page 2)
Anonymous
(30-35) 
Ask to an AI Persona
Laura
Have questions about GirlsAskGuys? I'm here to help!
Advisor Smith
With years of experience guiding individuals in their education and career paths, I'm here to...
Athletic Chloe
Whether you need tips on improving your game, insights on fitness and nutrition, or just want to...
Love Doctor Brad
Welcome to the heart of understanding and transformation. I am your guide on this journey to...
Fashionista Amy
I'm here to inspire and guide you with a touch of latest trends or advice on personal style.💅👒
Travel Buddy
I'm your go-to travel companion, passionate about exploring new destinations and experiencing...
James The Foodie
From savoring Italian classics to discovering the bold flavors of Japanese cuisine, I explore...
Cinematic Lily
With my rich background and passion for the arts, I share insights on films, TV shows, and...
Gamer Bella
With my passion and experience in hobbies and leisure activities, I'm here to offer personalized...
Click "Show More" for your mentions
Most Helpful Opinion(mho) Rate.
Learn more
Learn more
We're glad to see you liked this post.
You can also add your opinion below!
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
100Opinion
Regardless of gender, honestly, people reject other people mostly (logically) because they simply aren't interested.
Funny, that some of what you said here sounds rather obsessive more than anything. Why would I go out of my way to discover the life story of a girl I've just met? Likewise, why would I spend a crap-ton of money on this same girl for a first date? How about getting to know someone before you start burning through wads of cash of stalking them?
One of the first dates my wife of today went on was a fishing trip. I had such an awesome time watching her face light up each time she caught one. We still go as often as we get the chance and I still love to watch her face light up when she hooks into one.
I realized that when I stay may usually laid back self when talking to women I am unstoppable because I am just having a casual convo with no intentions, for some strange reason (in my case) when I don't show any interest they start to swoon but as soon as I exhibit neediness they start backing off, damn, it's kinda fucked up
Pretty much my point lol Good for you!
I guess I'll just have to let the girl make the first move but if she is clearly showing interest I'll give her a gentle push to say what is on her mind
Well the thing is, guys feel like they need to make things happen or something, instead of taking some time and talking a little bit first, which is what we want. We want to make up our own minds about you, not be told what we want to hear, and then wonder why it didn't work out. Flirting is fine, it's best to get us questioning if it was flirting or not, that way when your not there, we're thinkin about you.
yeah I agree, I am learning that the hard way, I tried to start a relationship way too soon because time was "running out" in my mind because she was leaving for somewhere else, at first she I thought was opening up but she sensed my intentions immediately, I just backed away politely. I'm just gonna let whatever happen happen. The only saving grace is that she seems happy when I talk to her time to time as a genuine friend.
But I just don't know, even though the interaction was short, something about her, she bought the best out of me and I have an urge to continue uplifting myself and others even though she didn't have the same intentions, I might meet her again someday but I agree with you, I'll just let her be and let her make her own decision
That's pretty much your best bet, it's not gona kill ya. No use in getting fixated on one girl that doesn't feel the same way. At least she isn't wasting your time and energy, be thankful for that lol
Nice post. However, if one never asks they can't be rejected. Lol. Plus apparently I'm not as attractive as I thought I was. I posted a question about an hour ago and the people on here anyway find my unattractive. At least I still have my confidence and personality going for me lol.
The thing is I am myself, but me being myself is being a bit of a creep I am way to forward with women and none of them that I have approached like it. I don't put on an act and I still get rejected and to be fair I think your final statement was referring to what you wanted in a date not what every women wants.
It was an example, like do something else for a date instead of having dinner, go do something fun. As for being too forward, yes it makes most women extremely uncomfortable, because as I've stated previously, that gives us just a few seconds to decide if we are going to go with it or not. Men and women are so different and yet so much alike. Guys really don't like wasting their time, which I totally get, and women are very cautious and analyze the men that approach them. If you can find a way of talking to them, without letting them know you are interested, it gives them a chance to actually look and talk to you before making a decision. Now, that goes without saying, you can still be yourself! Talk to a woman you are interested in, like you would talk to anyone else, that is as real as you get.
I read somewhere in an article that women decide within the first 7 seconds if they are attracted to you or not I'll show you the article.
I don't believe that for a second lol 7 seconds isn't a good time limit to make decisions. A dude probably wrote that lol
No in terms of physical looks
Again, not true. I was friends with my ex for 6 years and dated 3 times. He was the most unattractive guy I've ever dated with nothing going for him as far as looks go. So I'm also calling bs on that as well.
Right but see you dated him cause you knew him first I am talking about being attracted when you two don't know each other in terms of physical looks for you to give them a chance.
Well if he doesn't jump the gun too quick he's got a fighting chance. Even if they are attractive I would say no. If they talk to me for a few hours before hand so I can figure out what I think of them, they have a better chance than just coming up and asking.
the going out part is fine with me but the introduction part? can't a normal hello start a convo. I think if the girl is also interested she do her part in urging the guy on? and what research? so I can't talk to a girl until I've done some petty research on her before? wasn't this girl boy thing easier a centuries ago?
You can just look at her and do your research, like comment on what she's doing or something. I'm pretty sure centuries ago was about the same.
note to self. now going out of ur way is not enough. now u must stalk girl for at least one month to know her patterns and when her period is before u can actually talk to her about anything of interest... did u read this before posting?
That had nothing to do with my post... at all. I think your mind traveled a bit. Research as in stuff you can do without being weird. Like you can find out what kind of stuff she's into, not follow her around and talk about when you saw her going to her math class. Apparently I have to elaborate on everything that should be common sense, in which I'm sorry I didn't think I had to do when I posted. My bad.
"Second, when you're trying to jumpstart the conversation, you didn't actually think of anything to say. Hey how are you and whats up don't exactly catch our attention and it's easy to diffuse. We aren't going to make an effort if we think it's a waste of time. You really have to do a little research and find out what she likes and ask about that. "
nope looks like that is pretty much exactly what u said. its our fault and we dont stalk enough. really... if i say fucking HI how u doing if u dont want to talk say fuck off... how hard is that. if u like the guy make it move on. i made the first worthless step to say hi to u. i could of just walked by. that is what u seem to not realize u said. in a day and age when females are suppose to be taking more of "their share" ur saying the guy needs to step it up... do U see that now?
Never said a guy needed to "step it up" or to "stalk her". I've had so many guys come up to me and be like "You're pretty" and I'm like thinking oh god here we go. I've also had guys make like a joke or something real quick and make me laugh, or say something about a band shirt I'm wearing and it goes over better, even if I do reject them because I'm not going to be a total bitch about it. Now, if I think they're just trying to get it in, then I'll get real mean real quick. More than likely, I'm not looking, so I'm closed off to begin with. If you don't have anything good to say, then just don't. Same applies for when I approach guys, if I don't have anything good to say, I just don' say anything.
To be blunt, this sounds like something written by an immature girl who could stand to be less judgmental and more open-minded about meeting guys.
Or someone that doesn't want to make a massive amount of mistakes because they gave every guy that walked up to say hello a chance.
Your expectations seem to be more about what they guy provides than who he is as a person. I wouldn't care if I met the girl of my dreams at McDonald's and our first date was just walking around the grocery store for three hours. I'd be happy just to be with her, and I'd find a way to have fun regardless of the situation.
Well I don't want someone that can't provide me with things I need (not financially, emotionally) or if I can't do the same in return. If I need someone who is emotionally attentive and I meet a guy that likes to be fairly distant, it's not going to work. The above is a general understanding of the needs most women have (attentive and understanding)
So why does a guy have to conduct "research" on you just to be worthy of speaking to you? This kills all spontaneity. I shut myself down for years by believing that girls wouldn't like me because I had nothing earth-shattering to say right up front. Most guys run astray by worrying over this, when in reality, cool girls will just roll with it when they realize a guy is trying to flirt and initiate a relationship. A girl imposing all these rules and strictures on dating just destroys all the fun and obscures the whole point of it, which is to meet and form a relationship with another person. I didn't realize it was so taboo to get to know a woman while feeding her dinner. Girls should appreciate being taken out regardless if they're in love with the guy.
Well there's those difficult ones out there just like me. Do you realize that if I go just to the gas station or Wal-Mart ALONE I will get approached? It's kind of annoying. That being said, walls are up. Now if someone comes up to me and is like hey can I get your number, why the hell would I want to talk to you (yes it's bitchy, because I was just going about my business trying to be to myself) now if someone is like Hey cool shirt I heard of them are they any good? Heck yes I'll talk about a band I like and probably go from there. It's more relaxed than formal and I don't feel like I'm being objectified or put on the spot. It's less embarrassing. You guys don't understand how WE feel, we totally get how you feel, I've been rejected by guys and I was totally cool with it, it happens, but I didn't come on really strong like Hey your hot lets talk
Well I'm sorry that your life is so burdened by your hotness, but we all have our challenges. You're free to be as bitchy as you want, but at the same time, you shouldn't pass off your opinions as a bible for guys to follow when they're trying to meet girls. Frankly, if all girls were like you, no one would ever go on a date or get laid. I'm glad there are girls out there who are more open-minded and less guarded than you.
Just know that the only guys who are going to stick around to endure all of your rules and tests are the sycophants and ass-sniffers. Better guys have options, too.
HAHA, BRAVO MATE, BRAVO!!! Man, I have never seen ANYONE seriously complain about being attractive and then asking people to feel bad for them, hell, I wish I could complain about being attractive!
Uh never asked for sympathy, just the point. And I'm married, happily and my husband isn't a pushover. He stuck with me and I love him for it. He didn't put me on a pedestal. The whole point in being guarded is so I don't have sex and become a slut after (which happens almost every time)
Well, lists of "rules" for dating girls like this one are what get guys so caught up in their own heads and afraid to make a "mistake." The fact is there is no cosmic set of rules by which all male/female interactions must proceed. Yes, you have your rules, but they're just for you and don't necessarily apply to anyone else. They certainly shouldn't be taken as anything more than musings my guys, because the worst thing that we can do is worry excessively about what girls think of us and whether they might reject us. Best just to put yourself out there--proverbial warts and all--and let things happen as they might.
Pretty decent take. While I agree with the movie part because y'all barely talk in the movies and you can't press pause or turn the volume lol, the dinner part is debatable. that's when you get to know the person and their body language. The only part that you're missing is crucial and that women reject guys because they're just not emotionally and physically attractive to that guy so therefore, she's just not into him. other than that, solid take!
Dinner is a requirement if your after a long term relationship. After all half of a relationship is just eating with the other person. if you can't make it through dinner not much hope for a relationship
i think guys say that "girls are so difficult to understand" and "double standards are everywhere" because girls are all individuals and dont have universal standards, and guys tend not to realize that.
Eh, not really. There are quite a few "universal standards", for both men and women.
The double standards thing is a completely different issue, but yeah they're everywhere and completely normal. After all, I have a penis and would prefer not to date people with penises. That's a double standard.
Oh my.. a Pwnicess callen out to her Pwince charming. Now im starting to.. lose faith in humanity >.> too selfish and complex to keep a cutie around. I give up -_-
@Keyspirits
You speak the words of wisdom!
I'm happily married actually. Found my perfect prince already, just trying to help everyone else.
Good4U. May ur Pwince charming LUV u without end 🙏
I agree with pretty much everything you said. For me, girls reject me normally (98% of the time) only after we have had sex. I'm small down there, 3 1/2 hard, and almost 1 1/2 soft. Most girls don't say anything about it, but I can sort of tell by the look on their faces. So what do I do about that, and would you date a good looking guy if he was my size?
It's not the end of the world lol if you want they actually have extension underwear things for smaller guys. So it's like you're having sex with a big dick (yours is inside of it) nd your good looking on top of it. There's always a fix for in the bedroom, at least you don't have a horrible personality.
But what if you went to the movie first and then dinner you'd then have something to talk about, instead of boring small talk or awkward pauses that make it boring?
Could potentially work actually, never thought of that and never had it happen. Good idea!
I think girls reject you because 1.) They got there eye on someone else 2.) Attractiveness 3.) Status and status potential ( this includes things like charisma, intelligence, communication skills, career path, ambition etc.) This is why they like you to be yourself so they can gauge accurately what you are, and your potential for more. They do this subconsciously.
Agree that we do gauge what kind of person you are, for good reasons. If you aren't yourself originally, we will see how you are either now or later. In my opinion you're better off doing that right off the bat and save everyone some time. I wouldn't really call that status potential, more like potential partner.
Even if they know that you are a player but you got the charm, she's yours.
I guess not for long since your username is your future ex. Players used to get the worse out of me.
Don't judge a person by his/her name. Miss. ANONYMOUS
Then don't judge someone just because they sit and pee Mr. PlaYA
LoL you're funny :D
*feeling proud*
Bowling or paintballing, yes I have done bowling and hardball (softgun) when dating, I can recommend it, if for no other reason then because it's really fun and you get to know your date, the very least as well.
*Yawn* Too much work. I'd rather wait for someone to come to me. I'm way to lazy to actually do the work. Ironic isn't it since I play soccer and exercise etc.
So, we can't slap your ass and ask for a titty fuck, I get that. But now we can't just say "hi" either? Wanna explain that to me?
You can do whatever you want. I didn't say you couldn't just say hi, but some guys expect that simple hello to make them fall into their arms. I've had guys try to talk to me and all they would say is Hey, Whats up, how are you and how is your day. It didn't turn into a conversation, that's literally all they would say.
@Take Owner, we get that too lol
this is why i don´t ask out girls. they expect the guy to basically work his ass off for her, before he even knows if he might like her...
Girls have to work for guys too. When girls ask guys out they weight their odds first, come up with a plan they think will work, and then go, but if they have a high chance of rejection, they won't bother. Guys just go, without even thinking of anything good to say. I'm one of those harder ones to pick up. As soon as I know I'm being hit on, it's over. Guys have it in their heads that if they put themselves out there that they DESERVE to have that girl. Sorry, women are people too, with their own individual personalities and feelings.
Actually I'll make this really simple. In psychology (please look this up) there are levels of consciousness and one layer is the anemia/animus which is our male/female counterparts. So since I know you have it in you, put yourself in a girls shoes and ask yourself what you would say if you were a girl and what would make you different than other guys. That is what we look for.
i would never ask a girl like you out :Ddo you like this whole thing to be like a job application for a guy, i certainly don´t !
i don´t care to research days before i ask a girl out... i hardly ask any girls out and if i realize she will give me a hard time, i will drop her like a hot potato. i am not a player. it´s either you like me or just forget about it.
Well I'm sorry you don't like working for what you want, but people don't get to know each other by not communicating. All the guys that commented and didn't like what I said think girls should just flock to them and believe that these guys are totally awesome and that's that.
And yes it is almost like a job application. Can you fill my needs as a person? Why waste the time knowing someone can't give you what you need? Women look at the guys they date as a potential partner. So we go through the checklist.
Sure we guys do too but we don't expect her to do a hell of a lot of work just to be with us... It's about romance and feelings not work. Your view is way too cold for me but I guess we already were clear about that we won't agree :D
Obviously but I'm sure we can come to an agreement. Relationships in general are work. A "labor of love" Life is work. If my husband didn't put any work into me (and I needed it) I wouldn't put him above everyone I know. I told him we probably wouldn't even last a month and he said I'll prove it to you and I was like oh how are you going to do that and he said with time. Now we're married. So putting work into a girl you like will pay off, but it takes work.
yeah ok well i just don´t like to see it as "work" ^^ but i can agree with that.
Agreement!
@Take Owner Girls have to work for guys too. When girls ask guys out they weight their odds first, come up with a plan they think will work, and then go, but if they have a high chance of rejection, they won't bother. Really you need to work for the guy to be attracted to you? I suppose just sitting or standing around is hard work.