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Why do girls reject you? (Page 3)
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I'm pretty strong on 1 and 3, but I need to work on 2 a bit more. I feel like half the time I don't know what to say, what are some good conversation starters?
Well in my opinion (I have to base this on how I am since I'm one of those difficult ones) say something to her about ANYTHING else EXCEPT her. So, in modern day everyone is playing on their phone, you can ask her what kind of phone she has and about an app you heard about, or something that you know about (idk much about technology so don't really know how to go about that but you get what I mean lol) Or like in my case I'd probably be wearing a band shirt and you could be like cool shirt love that band I loved their new album or something like that and since I like the band, I'd start talking about it. Things like that, it gives us a chance to think for a second. Because say you do end up approaching someone like myself, as soon as I figure out they're hitting on me, it's all over. You gota play our game. Once we decide how we feel about talking to you (presuming it's good) it's cake from there
Talk about anything other than herself? That makes sense. I appreciate the advice. Do you have any ideas for a few conversation topics that you could fall back on if for example you were on a date and couldn't think of anything else off the top of your head?
If you're at the bar or something you can talk about which alcohol was good or not and why. I wouldn't have an issue listening to that, it's not like you're being offensive and you're technically just talking to her, not hitting on her so it kind of changes the dynamic of the conversation. You can pretty much start blabbing about anything as long as it's totally casual and don't make it look like you're asking for her acceptance. Also, I think it makes it easier on you guys if you actually do get rejected because I don't think you can be mean to some guy randomly talking to you vs some idiot trying to get in your pants.
Wait, did you just say that getting rejected actually helps our odds if we're good conversationalists?
No I'm saying that they'll let you down easier because you're not seen as a pervy douche
That makes much more sense. That bar stuff doesn't really help me though since I don't drink, do you have any other ideas?
Give me a scenario I'll do my best
Okay, I have a coworker I think is cute who I don't see very often, usually like twice a week for a minute or two but it varies. She dislikes her boss because he's a dick, and she can't wait to get out every day because her coworkers aren't always very bright, leaving her to fix their mistakes. She can sometimes get pretty stressed out by it. I'd like to try to talk to her more but I never know what to say.
Oh yeah! Make jokes when you pass her. Like, "You look so happy to be here!" or "Another day in paradise right?" and it might take one or two times for her to catch on but it's so easy going and she'll start joking back and associating those moments with you. Obviously, if she makes a really good joke back she's been thinking about you, which is a good thing
What about guys who are nice and that don't act. I am a nice guy but girls always thinks I am acting but its just my character...
Then go you! Don't be deterred because they're skeptical, it will take a little bit for them to realize that you're for real. That's how my husband and I happened, I originally thought he was full of shit for a while until I realized he was for real (about a week before dating)
Its okay people don't like me for it. Girls say they want a gentlemen but then they go towards douches. I am the type to never cheat to hold my promises. My guy friends laugh at me and call me a wuss for not being like them. They tell me to hurt a girls feelings so she can notice you. I don't like hurting anyone's feelings. People laugh at me for helping a girl who dropped her note books and papers. I want to really know why girls dont like me for who i am. I am a honest person and would never ever cheat on the girl I like. There is this girl I like she has a boyfriend now but I promised i'll wait for her.
I took my ex on a trip around downtown on mopeds for our first date😂
That is cute!
To take her to a billiards hall, you have to live NEAR a billiards hall. Where on earth can you live that is actually near a billiards hall in this day and age? I've literally been all over the country and to other countries and never even seen a sign for one
We have quite a few actually. The one in my town got shut down though and I'm very upset but we have one in the next town over.
Not my current town, but when I was going to college in Winona, MN there was definitely a billiards hall.
I once read an article that said that girls go for jerks because they are confident (or so incredibly stupid that they SEEM confident). I have tested it and it works.
I would agree with that. The more comfortable you are the better.
And to make things clear, the guys don't turn into jerks until later. That's a common male misconception. Every guy thinks they're a nice guy.
I've been told that I'm a nice guy by more than 25 people i think. To be fair, I just think I'm just a bit average.
I like to watch exciting, fun, adventure filled action with just a hint of romance to create a beautiful mixture that my eyeballs will just eat up. Also, i like to eat, not fancy stuff. Also, I like fishing.
I don't get rejected, I just don't ask girls out :D
Never thought paintballing would be a decent first date o. O
I'll have to try that lol
But I know exactly why women reject me: I'm too confrontational. But that's who I am and I like it
I've been on a paintballing date, it wasn't the BEST date but I had a lot of fun and I had a lot of fun talking to him AFTER I played and was no longer nervous.
Right on be yourself! If that's how you are and they don't like it, they can go find someone else.
Well I never even get started... I get rejected based upon my looks. I'm a UGLY MOFO...
Yup same here you think any female here is gonna admit that? LOL nope.
I agree, none of them would admit it
women lie and are double standard all the time. they dont even know themselves. why do you think they hate on each oteher so much?
That is crazy I see guys date ugly girls all the time
well even the "ugly" girls won't have anything to do with me
because i'm not rich, intelligent, talented, fit and attractive... well i dont blame them of course. i have a lot imperfections
Yep me too.
Spot on. Being yourself is so key to any dating situation for best results. Great ideas for more active dates too.
I disagree being yourself works if your good looking.
But then if you're aiming for any kind of relationship, I'm curious on your opinion as to how that can happen if you're not yourself. The girl you're wheeling will have no idea who the real you is. How can she possibly love you?
Yes!
Ice skating.
Bowling.
Swimming.
Something interactive!!
What if we are a shy person? How do we get a girl to approve of us?
I actually think shy guys might have an advantage. Shy guys are usually quiet, so if you manage to get a good question out she'd probably do most of the talking until you calm down a bit. That is if she's interested and you come off friendly instead of hopeful.
Hey shy guy, live by this principal, "I don't want you if you don't want me."
Shift your attention only to girls worthy. Benign and cordial girls, these type of girls are a lot more accepting in general and tend to judge you less.
Don't bother getting the approval of girls who put you down. Leave them to drown in their own arrogance.
Yeah dinner guask. Looks like going to church. I take the bowling :). For real is awesome. Paintball could be fun too. Karting, horseriding, surfing, skying you mention it :D.
I've never been rejected in my life... probably because I have never actually asked anyone out... And it's probably because, the girls I deem worthy of my attention are waaaay out of my league
It's because you think you have a league for girls to be "out of".
Maybe I'm too jaded for romantic relationships...
Decent take. short and to the point (unlike mine, lol). A lot of guys on here will let this blow right over their heads though
Actually I was surprised at how mad a lot of guys got. Based on my experience, almost all guys I've rejected did 1 of these 3 things.
There are some very simple concepts here that i myself have been trying to implement. A lot of guys don't really like the idea of having to change anything about themselves, because it actually requires some work
That's funny you say that because most of the guys mentioned having to put too much work into a girl. Thank the dear lord! Someone that knows their shit!
hopefully, my singleness will end soon once i start getting serious and applying stuff like this. I think i'll have to work out more though. Looks do play a role here too
Absolutely, that's just genetics though. As long as you have no visible deformity (and even then things happen!) if you apply some of the things I said if gives you an open door to her getting to know you (and I have a strong belief that everyone is a good person with the right person) It comes off cold sometimes but that's the game we all partake in. You're a smart guy I'm sure you'll figure something out
I've been myself, and I still got rejected. As for the conversation starters, are you saying I should start without saying "Hi.." or "Hey..."?
Well saying hello isn't the issue, saying only hello and expecting her to just start babbling isn't going to happen. Ask a good question (what kind of music does she like? Ask her about a hobby that she does -that you know about-)
Yes, I ask a good question.
Give me an example.
Like, "Hey, you like to skydive? I do, too!"
That's easy to diffuse. "Yup" conversation is over. "I saw you like to skydive, how many times have you done that?" Something that requires a good answer
I don't mean to be condescending, but do you know what diffuse means? I'm not sure if that word is the one you intend to use.
It's not lol oh well it's easy to reject.
Oh, well. Her loss.
I think defuse was the word you were looking for.
Any question can be defused. But any answer can also be elaborated upon.
"How many times have you done that?"
"Four."
¯\(°_o)/¯
When people short reply they just don't seem interested and we'll look and feel like idiots. It's kinda hard to always have a truly effective question that essentially backs them into a corner so they respond with more than a few words. If you have to go to that extent just to have a convo with them, then that's basically a rejection, right? Again, (almost?) any question can be defused and any answer can be elaborated upon. If you wanted someone to keep talking to you, then you'd come with something more interesting to say than just "yup," no?
Not going to lie, that's a true statement. Just saying there are ways to get her attention and get her to break the wall down. We do stuff like that to protect ourselves, not to be bitchy
I understand you protecting yourself. That's why I'm pissed at the idiots that made you girls be so protective. I just wish that it wasn't so difficult to meet women and get to know them. Those dumb idiots don't know and realize the crap they're pulling.
The worse part about it is those dumb idiots keep doing it. When I was younger I actually got to the point where I thought that all guys wanted was sex so I lost all self-esteem. When I finally got it back I realized why it happened and became a lot pickier about the guys I was with (I got really mean though) You really have to try to see it though our eyes every so often, guys think we just do it because it's fun or something. That's why I said you have to compete with those assholes and show her why you're different.
I never think you are doing it for fun. I always realize girls are doing it to protect themselves - and they should. I guess I need to make more effort.
They don't reject me, they just let me know whether they have bad taste or great taste in men.
Girls reject me because majority of them are straight. So sad. I cry.
:(
:( I'm sorry to hear that.
pretty easy. Your face/height combo wasn't enough to impress her
concerning fun, even taking the girl to a fancy fair would be very interesting.