I have been here and done everything you have mentioned, especially the part of trying to fix her, mostly because I had many issues of my own and thought I couldn’t do any better. It didn’t help that the one that caused me the most trouble was super gorgeous. I can imagine that was why I stuck around and put up with what I did for as long as I did. It ended in much frustration and heartache, it always does with these kind of women. The thing is that these are the girls that are easy to get with and thats why so many guys jump no them, and the reality is that they are not in a spot to really be dating anybody and need to address the issues they have.
This girl is basically me and I actually agree with this article to an extent. I've fucked with some guys heads pretty seriously in the past.
But that being said there are guys out there who can handle a girl like this and beat her at her own game. Everyone deserves love. In my case it's just a matter of finding a guy who's fucked up enough in his own way to be able to handle me.
OMG! Readingvthis made me think about one thing you sir have a sign on your head that says im a sucker! Ok with girl #1 you did the typical nice guy thing in that you went broke trying to buy this chicks affection girl #2 you obviously couldnt see that if a chick comes on to you that fast you are a hook up thats all but hey at least you got to hit it! Girl #3 virbal abuse girl you should have never taken 1 minute of that but typical nice guy you took it and smiled hoping shed change so in the end you my friend you ended up being damaged every one has past relationships yes 95% of them dont end well now yes ill admit some women (and men) hang on too long to what happend to them but if you want to be with someone with a hurt past then you must literally be a MAN let them know up front that you are not their ex and will not pay for his mistakes you can do this without being an asshole give them a reason to respect you cause if you dont you'll end up with everything you described
Sound advice. Hard to follow since for some of us damaged girls are catnip.
Walk away is the easiest.
The alternative is basically you need to be in total charge of the relarionship. Completely clamp down on bullshit. Her judgement is fried. You run things. It's sadly why a lot of these girls end up with selfish assholes. of course what they need is a guy who loves them but will demand and push them to be who they can be, not cater to their neuroses.
Guys listen with their dicks, not with their brains. Same with girls. I admire you for making this Take though, you're out here trying to educate the masses, like me.
I've been in a losing battle though, I can't prevent people from doing dumb stuff. Hope you've had better luck on your end.
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i can relate, they can destroy you, im thinking about hurting her or people she is seeing, she threw me into a depression and blamed me for the death of our child, whom she miscarried at 6 weeks. i feel very upset about that, she left me for someone else. i have been trying to figure out who , what cars they drive.. i punctured a tyre of one car, but it was the wrong car. she is turning me into a monster, if she wants me to be this evil person than i will. i dont care if she is damaged or not, i will not let her treat our child as a disposable object , and she will be pregnant from someone else. i will get her if she is going to carry someone else his child, i won't warn her and she doesn't even realize how much in danger she is. i will get her and kill myself afterwards. i will teach her tormenting me in such a cruel way.
Woah man calm down I'm sorry for the loss of your child and in no way is that your fault but if you do what you say your going to do she gets her way and you have ruined your own life when you obviously have a lot to look forward to in the future please don't hurt anyone or yourself
This is sad. I hope that you can move on and find happiness. That's not the kind of girl that you need in your life right now. All you'll end up is hurt in the end and for what? She'll just move on, have another mans baby and you'll be resenting her. She isn't worth it. Focus your time on something worth while. If you wanna talk about it, you can always inbox me. I'm always on here usually :-)
do you think she is still alive? yes she is, i wrote this out of pure frustration. but i indeed punctured someone his car tires :) polish scumm ! i believe in karma and karme will struck her hard someday. ill just sit back and relax! anyway, instead of you trying to understand my anger, you are a little judgmental piece of shit as well ! one day u will cross the wrong person and he will smack you in the face !
I broke up with a broken bird four months ago. All I can say is she was... such... a... drag. Sex was great though, but its not worth it if YOU have to be reason they see the bright side of life.
Drop it. You'll be better off and you might find yourself in a better situation.
Besides, all these chicks here talking to you like you're the one with problems? Ha! They wouldn't say that shit if the tables were turned. The only people who tend and care for those who don't love themselves, don't love thereselves either. Trust me, bro. You did fine. You had no idea they were using you and so you had to find out. I wouldn't listen to anyone here that said you let it happen. That would only be the case if you endured longer than you had.
Wow, at first I was not thrilled with your title.. 'don't date damaged women'. As I was reading your story, and your view point I was actually agreeing with you. These women that you dated deff. needed to get over past hurt before venturing out again.. Unfortunately, most of us dont do that. We feel rejected and our self confidence is at an all time low, so we seek out approval from others. (Some of us. not all) Yes we all have baggage with past relationships.. Its what you do to learn from it that makes you who you are. Maybe next time.. don't jump in with both feet trying to save her.. Some nice guys do finish last. The next time a girl goes on and on about her passed exs etc.. big. red flag.. she is not over them..
Also avoid damaged men! Run! They'll probably use you as a punching bag (literally). They'll toy with your emotions and cheat! You are nothing but a rebound for damaged men! They just want someone they can manipulate and use for sex!
I actually disagree with you. If a guy is up for the challenge he should date a 'damaged' girl. Every 'damaged' girl deserves a guy to pick her up from the heartbreak of her ex. And just because you're coming after him and she's 'damaged' doesn't mean you're a rebound, chances are she's going to be genuinely grateful you pulled her out of the funk. Needless to say, if you don't think you can handle a 'damaged' girl then stay away.
I find what you say a little hurtful i help support my girl all the time after being damaged in her life by a jackass before me i did not run from her as i love her and i will say i know for a fact she loves & resects me more for it and if a girl is saying things like that she is clearly happy and conent.
if you have views like this very girls few will be able to trust you.
Probably one of the best takes I've ever read. Shocking and sad to know the truth. Same applies to men. There are men out there that will destroy a girl.
Yeah I agree with this as well. Common sense should prevail when it comes to dating but sadly it doesn't. some people can't control themselves and aren't secure enough in themselves to be single so they rush into things and get damaged even more.
@noneftheabove I've seen to much of the rushing around looking for girlfriends and boyfriends. I was the victim of a girl who just hopped between guys. I knew of it and like the nice guy I was I gave her a chance. id like to say I was smart enough to break of from her before her problems became mine. It was depressing but needed to be done. Not even a month after we broke off our relation, she found another dude.
She was one of those girls who had every bad boyfriend in the world and was just looking for a nice one. I'm sorry but I won't deal with that.
Insecurity is one of the biggest factors in people jumping from relationship to relationship. Some people are searching for something but can't find it in the people they date. They have something missing in their life and they're trying to fill that gap by dating around. Eventually it will mess up them up and it already has probably damaged the people they're dating in some way.
I think there needs to be patience in relationships beginning but I don't think some people have that patience
Damaged, nah. More like emotionally abusive assholes. These kinds of people come in male, female, young, old, attractive, ugly. Healthy relationships are not like that and no one should stick around for that shit. Don't let it make you bitter though. There are good people out there waiting to meet you.
I have mixed feelings about that take but I don't think you're wrong either. Parts of what you said are true. I'm truly sorry you've met so many 'damaged girls' as you define them. I agree on one thing for sure people with mental problems need professional help not just to be loved by someone else. You need to love yourself in order to be loved.
It can be tricky or exhausting at first, but if you manage to stay strong during her healing, they will love you more than what they have love anybody else. Unless she's using you for a rebound, but that you can't know, it's a risk you have to take. If you have a strong mind, there's no reason why you shouldn't date a damaged girl.
I am engaged to a lovely woman as you put it damaged and i sure would not like your self be turning my back on her. The more love one gives to a woman in your words damaged the more she will mend as i know my fiancee is much more at ease woman than when i met her. I say stand by your woman damaged or not they will love you right back just for being their for her.
Not always true. I got rebounded by a girl once that I genuinely liked. She was coming on very strong but the more I let her know I liked her or even showed subtle interest by texting back, she'd back off and act like I was being clingy which was bullshit. She even said why can't I find any nice guys with tattoos, is that too much to ask for! This was right after she ditched me. She played victim and got her friends to sympathize for her. Such bullshit.
@bloodmountain1990 oh well and i was always told that girls dont go for nice guys but for the bad boys. she's a new one def not one thats worth the time of day.
Far out... I really wish I read this before. If only I read it before i could have avoided all the trouble. Thanks for sharing. Really aprreciate it. It sucks that we all are decieved by damaged girls thinking that we can fix them but in the end we are the ones who need help. Its better to just avoid all of this bullshit aye. Great take thanks a lot.
LMFAOOOOO!!! I've never been damaged and hopefully never will but everything u just said is so true omg. I know some females like that and sadly my mothers one of them but when I tell u they are beyond crazy... it's just unbelievable but yea if I was a guy I wouldn't date a girl like that either. But you spoke all truth man dead ass
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I have been here and done everything you have mentioned, especially the part of trying to fix her, mostly because I had many issues of my own and thought I couldn’t do any better. It didn’t help that the one that caused me the most trouble was super gorgeous. I can imagine that was why I stuck around and put up with what I did for as long as I did. It ended in much frustration and heartache, it always does with these kind of women. The thing is that these are the girls that are easy to get with and thats why so many guys jump no them, and the reality is that they are not in a spot to really be dating anybody and need to address the issues they have.
This girl is basically me and I actually agree with this article to an extent. I've fucked with some guys heads pretty seriously in the past.
But that being said there are guys out there who can handle a girl like this and beat her at her own game. Everyone deserves love. In my case it's just a matter of finding a guy who's fucked up enough in his own way to be able to handle me.
Or (and this will sound crazy...) You can work on yourself and find someone not so fucked up.
Just a thought. ;)
OMG! Readingvthis made me think about one thing you sir have a sign on your head that says im a sucker! Ok with girl #1 you did the typical nice guy thing in that you went broke trying to buy this chicks affection girl #2 you obviously couldnt see that if a chick comes on to you that fast you are a hook up thats all but hey at least you got to hit it! Girl #3 virbal abuse girl you should have never taken 1 minute of that but typical nice guy you took it and smiled hoping shed change so in the end you my friend you ended up being damaged every one has past relationships yes 95% of them dont end well now yes ill admit some women (and men) hang on too long to what happend to them but if you want to be with someone with a hurt past then you must literally be a MAN let them know up front that you are not their ex and will not pay for his mistakes you can do this without being an asshole give them a reason to respect you cause if you dont you'll end up with everything you described
I just read the title and knew instantly
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Sound advice. Hard to follow since for some of us damaged girls are catnip.
Walk away is the easiest.
The alternative is basically you need to be in total charge of the relarionship. Completely clamp down on bullshit. Her judgement is fried. You run things. It's sadly why a lot of these girls end up with selfish assholes. of course what they need is a guy who loves them but will demand and push them to be who they can be, not cater to their neuroses.
If you can't be that hard, walk.
This won't change shit.
Guys listen with their dicks, not with their brains. Same with girls. I admire you for making this Take though, you're out here trying to educate the masses, like me.
I've been in a losing battle though, I can't prevent people from doing dumb stuff. Hope you've had better luck on your end.
i can relate, they can destroy you, im thinking about hurting her or people she is seeing, she threw me into a depression and blamed me for the death of our child, whom she miscarried at 6 weeks. i feel very upset about that, she left me for someone else. i have been trying to figure out who , what cars they drive.. i punctured a tyre of one car, but it was the wrong car. she is turning me into a monster, if she wants me to be this evil person than i will. i dont care if she is damaged or not, i will not let her treat our child as a disposable object , and she will be pregnant from someone else. i will get her if she is going to carry someone else his child, i won't warn her and she doesn't even realize how much in danger she is. i will get her and kill myself afterwards. i will teach her tormenting me in such a cruel way.
Woah man calm down I'm sorry for the loss of your child and in no way is that your fault but if you do what you say your going to do she gets her way and you have ruined your own life when you obviously have a lot to look forward to in the future please don't hurt anyone or yourself
This is sad. I hope that you can move on and find happiness. That's not the kind of girl that you need in your life right now. All you'll end up is hurt in the end and for what? She'll just move on, have another mans baby and you'll be resenting her. She isn't worth it. Focus your time on something worth while. If you wanna talk about it, you can always inbox me. I'm always on here usually :-)
Hope someone reports your sick ass.
@Cyhhgg.
do you think she is still alive? yes she is, i wrote this out of pure frustration. but i indeed punctured someone his car tires :) polish scumm ! i believe in karma and karme will struck her hard someday. ill just sit back and relax! anyway, instead of you trying to understand my anger, you are a little judgmental piece of shit as well ! one day u will cross the wrong person and he will smack you in the face !
I broke up with a broken bird four months ago. All I can say is she was... such... a... drag. Sex was great though, but its not worth it if YOU have to be reason they see the bright side of life.
Drop it. You'll be better off and you might find yourself in a better situation.
Besides, all these chicks here talking to you like you're the one with problems? Ha! They wouldn't say that shit if the tables were turned. The only people who tend and care for those who don't love themselves, don't love thereselves either. Trust me, bro. You did fine. You had no idea they were using you and so you had to find out. I wouldn't listen to anyone here that said you let it happen. That would only be the case if you endured longer than you had.
Wow, at first I was not thrilled with your title.. 'don't date damaged women'.
As I was reading your story, and your view point I was actually agreeing with you. These women that you dated deff. needed to get over past hurt before venturing out again.. Unfortunately, most of us dont do that. We feel rejected and our self confidence is at an all time low, so we seek out approval from others. (Some of us. not all)
Yes we all have baggage with past relationships.. Its what you do to learn from it that makes you who you are.
Maybe next time.. don't jump in with both feet trying to save her.. Some nice guys do finish last.
The next time a girl goes on and on about her passed exs etc.. big. red flag.. she is not over them..
Amen the last bit is just too good, and fellas make sure you are the priority starting a relationship
Also avoid damaged men! Run! They'll probably use you as a punching bag (literally). They'll toy with your emotions and cheat! You are nothing but a rebound for damaged men! They just want someone they can manipulate and use for sex!
I actually disagree with you. If a guy is up for the challenge he should date a 'damaged' girl. Every 'damaged' girl deserves a guy to pick her up from the heartbreak of her ex. And just because you're coming after him and she's 'damaged' doesn't mean you're a rebound, chances are she's going to be genuinely grateful you pulled her out of the funk. Needless to say, if you don't think you can handle a 'damaged' girl then stay away.
I find what you say a little hurtful i help support my girl all the time after being damaged in her life by a jackass before me i did not run from her as i love her and i will say i know for a fact she loves & resects me more for it and if a girl is saying things like that she is clearly happy and conent.
if you have views like this very girls few will be able to trust you.
Probably one of the best takes I've ever read. Shocking and sad to know the truth. Same applies to men. There are men out there that will destroy a girl.
Yeah I agree with this as well. Common sense should prevail when it comes to dating but sadly it doesn't. some people can't control themselves and aren't secure enough in themselves to be single so they rush into things and get damaged even more.
That is guys and girls
@noneftheabove
I've seen to much of the rushing around looking for girlfriends and boyfriends. I was the victim of a girl who just hopped between guys. I knew of it and like the nice guy I was I gave her a chance. id like to say I was smart enough to break of from her before her problems became mine. It was depressing but needed to be done. Not even a month after we broke off our relation, she found another dude.
She was one of those girls who had every bad boyfriend in the world and was just looking for a nice one. I'm sorry but I won't deal with that.
Insecurity is one of the biggest factors in people jumping from relationship to relationship. Some people are searching for something but can't find it in the people they date. They have something missing in their life and they're trying to fill that gap by dating around. Eventually it will mess up them up and it already has probably damaged the people they're dating in some way.
I think there needs to be patience in relationships beginning but I don't think some people have that patience
Damaged, nah. More like emotionally abusive assholes. These kinds of people come in male, female, young, old, attractive, ugly. Healthy relationships are not like that and no one should stick around for that shit. Don't let it make you bitter though. There are good people out there waiting to meet you.
I have mixed feelings about that take but I don't think you're wrong either. Parts of what you said are true. I'm truly sorry you've met so many 'damaged girls' as you define them. I agree on one thing for sure people with mental problems need professional help not just to be loved by someone else. You need to love yourself in order to be loved.
It can be tricky or exhausting at first, but if you manage to stay strong during her healing, they will love you more than what they have love anybody else.
Unless she's using you for a rebound, but that you can't know, it's a risk you have to take.
If you have a strong mind, there's no reason why you shouldn't date a damaged girl.
It takes a real man to handle a broken woman. I guess your balls just haven't dropped enough to handle one.
Totally was thinking the same thing lol
lol at the contrast of downvotes and upvotes
I am engaged to a lovely woman as you put it damaged and i sure would not like your self be turning my back on her. The more love one gives to a woman in your words damaged the more she will mend as i know my fiancee is much more at ease woman than when i met her. I say stand by your woman damaged or not they will love you right back just for being their for her.
Not always true. I got rebounded by a girl once that I genuinely liked. She was coming on very strong but the more I let her know I liked her or even showed subtle interest by texting back, she'd back off and act like I was being clingy which was bullshit. She even said why can't I find any nice guys with tattoos, is that too much to ask for! This was right after she ditched me. She played victim and got her friends to sympathize for her. Such bullshit.
@bloodmountain1990 oh well and i was always told that girls dont go for nice guys but for the bad boys. she's a new one def not one thats worth the time of day.
Very true, I dodged a bullet.
Far out... I really wish I read this before. If only I read it before i could have avoided all the trouble. Thanks for sharing. Really aprreciate it. It sucks that we all are decieved by damaged girls thinking that we can fix them but in the end we are the ones who need help. Its better to just avoid all of this bullshit aye. Great take thanks a lot.
LMFAOOOOO!!! I've never been damaged and hopefully never will but everything u just said is so true omg. I know some females like that and sadly my mothers one of them but when I tell u they are beyond crazy... it's just unbelievable but yea if I was a guy I wouldn't date a girl like that either. But you spoke all truth man dead ass