What do guys think of the pretty, really quiet girl in the class?

[allie9412]

That girl would be me.

18, almost 19. never been on a date, kissed or anything. SO..I don't know much about flirting. And I'm very uncomfortable approaching people I don't know.

My close friends and family tell me I "intimidate" guys...whatever the hell that means...

Just wondering, what do you guys think of this type of girl. The quiet girl...what goes though your mind? would you ever approach her?

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+1 y

Ok, so lemme just say, I am friendly. I don't ignore people - I just don't feel comfortable approaching people I don't know...

[ArtistBboy]

I would give it a shot :)

The best thing is to get out there and experience life. I would recommend working on things that can better yourself- goals, priorities etc... Even if you are intimidating to some guys there are tons of other guys out there that are all for showing you the ropes. Even if you just have some friends that are guys that let you see what relationships are like but you two never technically date (IMO this is the best way, because usually you and your friend will hook up and see a lot of great memories together... AND best of all, you won't get used with someone that's trying to help you, as long as they are sincere)

Ask some of your close guy friends that are single if they don't mind showing you the ropes to relationships, i.e. taking you on dates (knowing that it is just as friends). It may seem awkward at first, but what do you have to lose?

Heres some ideas of what this will give you positively:

- Experience with other guys

- Experience with being on dates

- Learning how to be an extrovert and also be more interactive with the opposite sex

- A potential life long partner

- The potential to date a person you have known for a long time and already trust.

The only downfall that I can see happening:

- You get attached and the other guy starts falling for someone else.

In a scenario where you start getting attached, remind yourself that this is a learning experience and that you understand how things are with relationships. No one in this entire world will understand everything there is, but the only true way to learn is from hands on interaction.

Without a doubt I would much rather date someone like yourself that is fresh into the scene. Some girls get too caught up in how many guys they can intimidate and/or use to get them what they want. I completely dread this as it makes guys that do care and are open for a good relationship close up and become selfish and certain that the opposite sex only wants one things. (Stereotypes: Guys want sex, girls want money)

I hope this helps, anytime you have questions ask me and ill be glad to answer,

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

[JustDance]

i like these types of girls.. I find they have a more balanced and sweet personality. I used to be shy and quie, so I guess I know where ur coming from but I'm like the opposite almost now haha, I would definitely approach these types of girls, just because they aren't all outgoing and partying every night and super extroverted, doesn't mean they aren't interesting or aren't fun to be around with... you just gotta get past that shell and get to know them. and to be honest, these girls are the least fake of all of them from what I know.

[thegodfather]

I would approach her - but that's not your question.

Most won't.

Most guys are generally not comfortable with approaching random women.

Now. If you look like you don't want to be approached, many guys will just not even attempt.

Make yourself more approachable, and smile a bunch !

It'll open up a whole new world to you.

[NMMan]

If she was friendly and didn't appear to be anti-social (because there is a definite difference between quiet and anti-social), I'd walk up to say hello or chat.

[Little-Hippie]

I always try to talk to this kind of girl.

BUT, how she reacts to me at that point is what really makes the difference.

[Anonymous]

It would be intimidating if she never talked. If I approached her and she flat out ignored me or wouldn't talk I would think she's a stuck up bitch...