What type of guy tends to be most attractive to women?

[Anonymous]

I ask this because it seems like all the assholes get the girls and the guys that are nice don't. Do you guys think that assholes (people who are clearly after one thing from the beginning, dont call back, pretty much dont care at all), the nice guys (people who try to be considered the perfect guy in every aspect, overly delivering), or the laid back guy (people who are pretty quiet but pretty fun to be around but sort of nonchalant "chilling personality") have the best chances of attracting women.

As for myself, im laid back. Im considered very funny but i dont really let women know i like them. I just chill with them, have a good time, flirt back a bit if she does first and leave it like that. If it get hot, i reciprocate whatever she does pretty much, but im to myself mostly. I tend to attract women but at a slower pace.

My older brother is the asshole. He starts off hinting at sex and how he likes freaky shit, seems to work wonders lmao. I dont get it.

Assholes Win

Nice Guys Win

Laid Back Wins

[MCheetah]

Assholes or (tall, successful) Laid Back Guys win.
And this is because they are cocky and have high pride.
You cannot be genuinely nice while also having high pride and thinking you're better than everyone.

This is why both "Nice Guys" (beta males who pretend to be nice to trick women into sleeping with them) and genuinely good men, never win. Humility gets you no where and women do NOT like humility or modesty.

Ego and arrogance is what women like. The KEY, however, is to not be too loud about it. Being a *quiet* asshole. Bragging and being loud or whatever is what women DON'T like, but make no mistake: They LOVE assholes. (Aka "Confidence in men." The synonyms don't matter.)

Personally, I hate that trait and I myself have no many flaws to ever act prideful, cocky, arrogant, confident, swagger-ish, or any other name you want to give it, whether I'm quiet and arrogant, or loud and arrogant. It doesn't help that I'm short either, so women are not attracted to me. I refuse to become a cocky-boy or wear three-inch height elevating shoes all the time, just to impress women.

[MCheetah]

I myself have *too many flaws

[HiveBee]

Women want orgasms.

The "asshole" is offering her orgasms. Nice guys can get girls too. But nice guys do not display orgasm giving potential.

All these guys online are trying to get with the hottest girls. The hottest girls don't want no man who can't make them cum.

They can tell if you can make them cum by observing you.

If you still believe that women are picky because they have to raise babies, they ain't fucking you.

Too many men think women don't want sex. They think women are "innocent" meaning they don't care as much about sex as men do.

Women are MORE sexual than men in my opinion.

The problem is, a woman isn't going to have casual sex with Mr nice guy. Cuz that's all he is. Nice.

And sex is not moral. There is no morality in sex. Sex is pure animal chaos.

The most beautiful girls want you to look at them, with "knowing eyes." She can see just by your eye contact whether you're able to take her home and make her feel the way she wants to feel.

Then there's like, the other 80% of women who are not like that. who don't care if a guy can give her orgasms. She just wants a guy who isn't insane, who freaks out over how much of a man he is perceived as. Women want a stable man who is not dangerous to her.

All these guys ranting and raving about masculinity are dangerous incels who would blow up in a fit of rage over a challenge to his "masculinity."

Masculinity is a sexual trait. You're bigger and stronger than her. she wants you to use that in the bedroom with her. She doesn't need you to be "the big strong stoic man beast" 24/7. She wants you to be kind and a good person.

It's just too many men think being a good person means not wanting sex.

If you fear for the status of your masculinity, you are not connected sexually with yourself.

Well, that's what I think on a surface level.

[HiveBee]

As a man who is connected to his sexuality, he never needs to live in fear about how others perceive him, on the spectrum of masculinity.

Because at the end of the day, when he goes home and fucks his woman, she desires him, she needs him, he has power over her.

Because you, as a man, are sexually attractive to women. It is you as a man, because you were born a man.

Many guys fear their masculinity. But also many guys over emphasize masculinity.

In both cases, you're a broken and disconnected person.

The man who is balanced and stable is both kind and good and decent, but also knows what being a man does to a woman between her legs.

And he gives her what she wants in the bedroom. He expresses himself as a man in the bedroom and boom, she responds with desire and lust and need.

When you as a man experience what it feels like to have a woman NEED your masculine sexuality, and you can give it to her, you have ZERO worries in the world about whether people. think you're good enough or not.

[HiveBee]

Women's primary directive is SUBMISSION.

look at animals. The males compete, and when the winner is victorious, he may still not get to mate.

Let's say two bucks fight it out. One wins. He goes to mount her.

The female looks him up and down, and refuses to let him mount her.

She has decided he is not good enough. The female is the one who has the power, her submission to the male, is her exercising her power of choice.

When you're a good decent man, whose good with kids and has money. She wants to submit to him.

But she cannot, if he cannot be sexually dominant. All the good traits you as a man have outside the bedroom, come to a nexus or a certain point where it comes to "a head." I can't think of the right phrase.

The woman sees you. Being a good guy. Being a strong person.

She wants to submit to him. But in the bedroom, if you can't put all of that goodness as a man you are, into the sexual act, into the idea that she has chosen you, she submits to you, and now, you take her by the hand, and have your way with her in the bedroom

That's what women crave and desire above anything else. To submit to the man she chose. And most nice guys simply don't know how to do it. They fear it.

Because they have been taught Being a man is evil. While. also being taught that being a man is everything important to him.

It just leaves us guys all fucked up in my opinion.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Assuming you're talking about decent women, then this man generally will attract lots of women.

#: Physically good looking.
#: Well mannered.
#: Confident.
#: Respectful.
#: Well dressed.
#: Good hygiene/clean fresh cut.

[Asker]

I would consider myself this although i often tease a little when im comfortable but im mainly laid back and won't show interest until she does first then i act back

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

What exactly are you looking for? Hoes or a wife material? With Hoes rejection comes a lot but you also score a lot.

You have to put in the work with such women, but those women are trash as they have many men they are in contact with go to regularly.

If a decent women especially if she is pretty she has to show you interest first then you make your move on her.

If she gives you no play at all then she's not interested so don't waste time trying to talk to her.

[Asker]

Thats pretty much what i do honestly

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Ok, so you're interested in a wife material woman. You just have to be patient in such case when the right woman for you shows up.

[Asker]

I kinda had this before (15 years) but we didn't work out a little while back. So im in no rush lol

[NetSapien]

It's my experience that everything starts with how assertive and secure you act. "Assholes" tend to have a lot of success, not because they are assholes really, but because they have no problems daring to be.

[Anonymous]

"flirt back a bit if she does first "

That's why the assholes get more pussy than you. They may be assholes, but they don't wait for a girl to make the first move, because guess what Einstein, they almost NEVER do.

[Asker]

Dude u must be a bitch lmao. U dont nothin about me. Stay off my shit

[Texaskid1]

The assholes always get the girls.

Women will deny this but it is what it is. Nice guys always lose with women.

[OddBeMe]

Laid back wins. Though in the beginning we have to win over her parents. But being stress free is key.

[Asker]

I agree with this mainly cuz u can be both an asshole and mysterious. Laid back and calm but an asshole if tested. Best of both in my opinion

[OddBeMe]

You just described by Match. com profile.

[AgapeHanma93]

Assholes win girls only claim to want nice laid back guys

[Anonymous]

Assholes win. Women have been programmed to seek them out. They also like dominant men in general

[Anonymous]

Whichever one is better looking.

[Asker]

Not entirely true. I've seen some ugly ass dudes pull good looking women too so I don't know.

[Opinion Owner]

I guess big dick guys can always casually mention they have 8 inches and he's gonna pull the size queens.

[Asker]

lmao thats my actual size roughly. One girl told me yeah thats too much for my little cooch lmao. Just cut my chance with that one i guess lol

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, that's odd.
Maybe some do like assholes, but I don't wanna be that to find out.
I'm a lover so treating women like shit kind of defeats my purpose.

[Asker]

i feel you. Im laid back so i kinda wait for any flirts then i act on it a little to show interest. I dont like to chase women, as i found out for me personally i end up getting my feelings hurt in the end. I find that women pick me not the other way around

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly, that's how I am too.
I don't like to pressure the situation. I just try to be likeable and let her decide if I'm interesting or not.
I find if a woman wants you, you'll know it. I like her to show interest as well and make me feel welcome. It may not be the fastest way to get laid, but it usually leads me to some really long relationships and if you can get to that point you're going to get all the sex you can handle on a regular basis.

[Asker]

Yeah i agree. It kind of leads into that whole thing that you attract what u dont want but dont attract what you do. Most dudes chase the ones they do like but are chill and cool with the ones they dont. This leads to the girl who is unattractive to be attracted because he's "cool and confident". The attractive girl will run away because ur not a challenge.

Also being laid back to me shows mystery and a sense of swag, like you're not new to the whole dating/sex thing.

[Asker]

Look at this question, this is my current issue: Me and a coworker tease each other, used to do more in depth things and now she's a bit touchy but won't go all the way, why? ↗

[Opinion Owner]

That's exactly how I got my ex wife.
I saw her at a party, I thought she was out of my league so I didn't even bother approaching her at first.
I just ignored her and eventually she kinda came to me. Then she even called got my number from someone and called me a few days later. It's amazing how not showing too much interest in them can peek their interest in you sometimes.

[Asker]

I agree with that. That actually happened to me with a girl i grew up with in my church. Was married with kids and all. She got my number and texted me and said she had feelings and wanted to have sex. We never did and unfortunately she died last year. Very hurtful

[Asker]

by the way i sent you a link to another question i put, not sure if you saw it i think i pasted it in the wrong area,

Me and a coworker tease each other, used to do more in depth things and now she's a bit touchy but won't go all the way, why? ↗

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry to hear that.
As for your co-worker, I wonder if she doesn't have a boyfriend or something that she's not telling anyone about. She seems to want to fool around, but only to a point where in her mind she can say she didn't cheat, because she didn't actually fuck you.
Meanwhile she's done everything up to that point, but he doesn't know that.

[Asker]

Actually she does have a boyfriend, forgot to mention. He's really immature, like controlling, made her erase her social media, put a camera in her room etc. She actually texted me daily up until one day he texted me wanting to see all of our texts. I didn't send them and she told me it was him. But eventually she started going cold on me. Now she doesn't text me at all and tries to act more nonchalant but she still touches my dick and jokes about it etc. no kissing tho

[Asker]

So when i told her to pull up to my apt, she kept giggling and smiling saying no like a little girl or something. When i asked her why she touches me then, she said that its just there and she can see it and touch it. When i asked her when we can fuck she said we'll see in the future... like wtf lmao. I guess she still likes me? I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah she's just playing with fire.
She's in a relationship, but she's on the fence about whether she's gonna cheat or just flirt with the idea.
In reality she's already cheated by kissing you and touching your dick and ass, and letting you grope her ass. It seems like that's as far as she's willing to go for now. She's testing the waters and getting used to it.

[Asker]

Yeah im not trying to be her boyfriend anyway. Im guessing i should just continue to let it happen, maybe she'll turn herself on and eventually give in? Maybe its a time thing like one day she'll make a move but i probably won't see it coming until it actually does

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it will likely happen if they're fighting or not getting along.
You have to watch out because she may have been leaving her text messages out in the open for her boyfriend to see, sometimes they use that to make him jealous. You can become a pawn in her game.
Having two men fighting over her can seem exciting to her.
For now I feel like she told him that she never had sex with you, and she didn't kiss you.
That's why she won't fuck right now, and she won't kiss anymore. That way she feels like she's a good, honest person and a wonderful girlfriend.
Rubbing your cock at work will just be her little secret.

[Asker]

lol so u think maybe ill get that chance then. Would sure be nice ngl. she's like back forth with her boyfriend but she definitely does these things at work. just never texts me. I feel like one day she'll just hit me up like yo lets chill or something then bam.

[Opinion Owner]

Probably. I had one woman who was gonna fly all the way to Canada to fuck me, but then her husband put a stop to it.
Well actually I did after he threatened to kill me or himself.
Be careful with that boyfriend of her's because he sounds like he's the kind to stalk you.

[Asker]

Yeah ur right. I was just stuck at what she was trying to accomplish by just doing the dick touch thing but never taking it further but yeah u sound right. And again, not even a chick i looked at in the beginning. Had no interest in her

[Asker]

So yeah ill probably just continue to play it cool. And when she does it just smile at her and wink or something I don't know lol. Hell we share the same food using the same utensils so there's gotta be some type of attraction as i dont eat after someone i dont like

[Opinion Owner]

From what you've said about her boyfriend's controlling nature and his camera and stuff, she's probably itching to rebel against him. Maybe she plays this game partly because she likes you and your dick, but also because it gives her a sense that he can't control her.
She feels naughty and her activities with you behind her boyfriend's back make her feel powerful and in control. Whether or not she fucks you probably depends on whether she thinks she can get away with it or not.

[Asker]

well when i suggested to her to pull up she never said no i have a boyfriend or i dont see you like that. Just giggling, saying it'll be weird or maybe in the future. Never said i have a boyfriend lol. I just want it once and im good. Her and I have sexual tension and even 2 other girls noticed it. Both say we need to get it over with and one of them placed a 100 dollar bet with me that we will in the near future. Maybe she knows something she's not telling me as well. Right now she's losing that 100 dollars and we talk about it all the time but she said she has a woman's intuition and she knows it will happen at some point.

[Opinion Owner]

The way women talk they've probably discussed it already. She probably will have sex with you, or the other one who placed the bet might fuck you.
Try to get them all rubbing your dick at work. LoL!
Eventually they're probably gonna give in to temptations.

[Asker]

dude you made me lol for real. Get them all to touch it. lol yeah bro this shit has been going on for like 3 months. Hell ill take either one honestly speaking. The other says she doesn't see me like that but she is a huge tease and i often act like im not interested in her much just to fuck with her. She says she can have me if she really wanted to. The one with the boyfriend doesn't say much she just touches or gives me long glares

[Opinion Owner]

I gotta get a job working around women, sounds like that's where the action is.
Does she let you grab her ass still?

[Asker]

So last time she grabbed my shit i told her i was going to do it back because before i did it and she sent me a text saying i need to keep my hands to myself. I was pissed. So this time i put my finger going up the crack of her ass and she turned around and slapped my arm playfully. However, she touched my dick twice not soon after. She used to be heavily into me but pulled back heavily as well so im just more laid back with her now

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, that's some hypocrisy there. She tells you to keep your hands to yourself, but she's groping you.
Hopefully she doesn't turn on you with some workplace sexual harassment complaint or something.
Yeah best to play it cool, because she sounds like she doesn't know what she wants.

[Asker]

yeah plus i dont want to chase after her as it will appear needy and unattractive. So i let her come to me and talk/flirt then i flirt back. Normally how i do it anyway. But i think ur right. The more she touches my junk the more it can turn her on out of curiosity so there's that too

[Opinion Owner]

She's addicted to your dick. I wonder what she would do if you turned your body away just as she was going in to grab you? She'll probably chase after you to satisfy her urge. LoL!
I understand your concern of not wanting to appear needy, but in reality she isn't really typical since she's in a relationship, who knows what the hell she's gonna do next?
Too bad the single ones don't want to flirt like that, It's always the ones in relationships. LoL!

[Asker]

bro those are the ones i usually attract too. women with husbands/bfs. Normally she catches me when im standing next to where she's sitting and there's a machine next to her that blocks my dick so when no one is looking including myself she grabs the tip of it really fast. Then when i jump she stares at me giggling

[Opinion Owner]

What a little slut huh? She's sure getting comfortable with your dick. If her boyfriend only knew what she's like. Oh well, I can't blame you for wanting to fuck her if she's teasing you like that.
Good luck with everything. Ideally you would meet someone single, and she would break up with her boyfriend if she isn't happy, but real life always ideal.
I hope it works out in a way that does the least amount of damage to everyone involved.

[Asker]

thanks bro i guess ill find out in the future lol. If and when that time comes ill happily take her cakes then move on
Hopefully she won't catch feelings as i believe she's clingy

[Opinion Owner]

If you fuck her I would worry more about her throwing it in her jealous boyfriend's face when they're fighting. Cheating women don't scare me, it's their crazy boyfriends and husbands who are concerning.
That's honestly how some people get shot.
Find out if he has a gun.

[BarryLiverstone]

Honest guys

[Asker]

In what way tho

[BarryLiverstone]

In the way that you are honest with them

[Asker]

I see

[BarryLiverstone]

Do you?

[Asker]

i feel you bruh lmao