Why do women deflect questions so much?

[Anonymous]

why do women on here deflect questions about women all the time? example. why do women wear x.
weeeelll why do men wear x hurdurr :x

[selfishstars]

Because people constantly stereotype women and it's really annoying. They either make generalizations about women that are only true of some women, or they ignore (or are unaware of) the fact that the thing they're saying women do is also done by men.

Now, it's difficult to tell if someone is being sexist or if they've just inadvertently phrased their question in a way that seems sexist. But, given the amount of sexism and hostility toward women online, it's not really surprising that some women are a bit defensive.

Also, since many of the things that people ask about ARE stereotypes about women, some of us feel the need to point out the fact that it's a stereotype and not true of all women, or also true of many men, because we don't want to support stereotypes that we don't think are true.

[RationalLioness]

It's not deflecting. It's to show how nonsensical generalized questions are (when I do it). Every time someone makes a question like this I immediately put them in the "Dumbass" category, because it's idiotic. Clearly it's not only women who can do that nor ALL women as well.

Some other reasons would be that they're uncomfortable about the topic. They just don't like you so they don't want to talk to you or answer. They're trying to find a way to answer so turned the question on you. And many others.

I don't think it would have been difficult to think these reasons up yourself.

[Asker]

i like talking to you simply because you usually make several assumptions in your replies that are wrong, and very bitter too. i didn't say all women nor did i say men dont do it too sometimes as well but 9 times out of 10 if its a question on this site there's going to be a girl deflecting the question or answering it with another question that doesn't help.

[RationalLioness]

1) This is hilarious coming from someone who just made a few assumptions... lol. I haven't ever been bitter on here so I don't know where that inane conclusion came from. And what "assumptions" have I gotten wrong? None that I know of.

2) Your question insinuated that it was "in general" which would lead people to readily assume that you simply meant "all". Inputting "some" isn't difficult either, but that does seem to be a trouble for a lot of the guys on GaG.

3) 9/10? That's your experience. I've seen much less than that. So that's not factual in anything BUT your experience.

[Asker]

no from the time I've seen you on here you do seem quite bitter probably dont realize it though. the assumptions you got wrong was assuming they were talking to me or it was even my questions. you also assumed the questions were dumb but a lot of them aren't and are legitimate questions but get deflected anyway. and tbh your experience on this matter doesn't count simply because you aren't asking questions about women that a guy would ask.

[RationalLioness]

1) So you know me better than myself? Lol. Arrogance is always fun to laugh at. :D

2) Oh. Basic reading comprehension, son. You assumed that I assumed that this question was talking about something directly related in your experience. If you actually understood what I wrote, you would have found out that 1) I consider any generalizing question to be inane because of the generalization itself 2) you could have thought of reasons why plenty of women deflect on questions yourself so this question didn't need to be asked.

... It's sad how much I have to spoon-feed people simple thought processes.

3) "tbh your experience on this matter doesn't count simply because you aren't asking questions about women that a guy would ask."

^^I didn't understand that mess. But hopefully a "rational man" would understand that he wouldn't generalize or would be smart enough to input a four letter word (or even a variation of it) before the word "women" before he asked his question.

Oh well. :)

[Asker]

"They just don't like you so they don't want to talk to you or answer. They're trying to find a way to answer so turned the question on you." this doesn't sound like you think the question is about me? and again you auto assume the questions were dumb and you want to talk about arrogance? you feel the need to put someone in your imaginary category as if they give a damn xD

and putting "some" in the title is giving a rope to the people who do do it. if you dont and you know you dont you dont need to tell the whole world and not answer you can just answer the question and say you dont simple.

[RationalLioness]

Lack of common sense is strong with this one... lol. I feel sorry for the male gender because there seems to be a lot more dumbasses today then yesterday.

1) "They just don't like you so they don't want to talk to you or answer. They're trying to find a way to answer so turned the question on you."

It wasn't about YOU specifically. It was a generalized YOU--to anyone who is facing this problem (by asking a question and the person deflects). It's a reason. You're not important enough for me to assume this about you. I consider you to be a stupid Anonymous coward... lol.

2) Putting "some" reflects on the Asker as well as the people. Many people with sense know that they should make themselves explicitly clear as to not confuse or make others go down a different line of thought. It also shows that the Asker has a brain--s/he doesn't assume that all or even most/a little of whatever is doing what s/he's asking (unless if it's in their personal experience. That's a different matter).

[RationalLioness]

3) "if you dont and you know you dont you dont need to tell the whole world and not answer you can just answer the question and say you dont simple."

People can do whatever they want. They don't have to go by your juvenile guidelines. Just like you don't have to put "some" in the question and can continue generalizing.

I and many other people are just going to assume that you're retarded (lack sense). You don't care and that's good for you. :)

[Asker]

the word you're looking for is THEM not you.

[RationalLioness]

It is how I and many Americans speak. We used a generalized "you" as in "you guys" for everyone while in place of "them". It's improper, but can still be used.

I never did answer your "point" about considering generalization questions "dumb". Seeing as they're inaccurate and false, they are dumb--lacking in logic. That's not arrogance. That's common sense, I would think.

But that's fine. I will say that as each day passes on here and I meet more guys like you, the allure that I had for men which was bordering on idealistic dims a bit more into realism. I don't think the majority of men are what I had thought they were at all... if the majority are anything like a bunch of you guys on here.

[Asker]

yeah it is arrogance because you think every question that doesn't seem worth YOUR time or dont seem smart to YOU is illogical and shouldn't have even been asked.

[Minxxie]

because men phrase it like "why do ALL women do this?" as if every single individual woman ever does exactly the same thing and it's too illogical of a question to present a proper answer to.

[RationalLioness]

High five. I know you know that not all men do that, but the majority of men that I have seen (on GaG) have done it.

[Asker]

i dont see any men doing this on the why do all men do x questions. at least they troll constructively.

[Anonymous]

The name of the site is girls ask guys, not guys ask girls, girls saying honest things, or girls reveal the secrets to scoring pussy.

[linkywinky]

I mean I hate to be that guy, but y'all get mad when women say "all men" but then don't hesitate to say "all women". I'm just... throwin' that one out there.

[xxbebosxx]

UnremarkableDay did you really have to go anon?

[XNicholeMariex3]

Hahahaha Ikr

[Asker]

im not that guy but he seems to have quite the rep

[UnremarkableDay]

I'm an ass, but I let people know that. That isn't me

[XNicholeMariex3]

@UnremarkableDay heeeyyyy sweetie pieee.

[UnremarkableDay]

I'm an ass, but I let people know that. That isn't me

[XNicholeMariex3]

@UnremarkableDay LOL well at least you are honest. :)

[xxbebosxx]

I think UnremarkableDay and others are starting a band together

[XNicholeMariex3]

@xxbebosxx it sure seems like it, huh? hahaha

[Asker]

band together to rule the internet? sounds like a plan

[Neko_Chan]

Why do men deflect questions so much?

[Anonymous]

because they dont wanna answer.

[rthomas43]

Stop deflecting.

[Asker]

@rthomas43 she can't her shield won't go down.