When asking for advice, why do women so often refuse to answer details?

[egan3141]

Why is it so common for a woman to ask for advice, give general information, and then no matter how many times you ask "so, what actual words did he say to you?" or "what actual actions did he take" or "Have you actually said that to him?", they still won't answer those questions?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Because they’re looking for generalized advice. They don’t need a script if they get to the point. And let’s be real, do you remember everything anyone ever said to you word for word? No, but you remember how it made you feel.

[egan3141]

Maybe my explanation was at fault, but I'm not talking about perfect memory recall. I'm talking about "Did you ask him why he did that" and the woman repeatedly refusing to clarify if she ever asked why. Also, looking for generalize advice is dumb. Everyone is different, which is why you need more details for decent advice. If you are trying to be healthier in your diet, general advice is less deep-fried food, less processed food, and less salt, but if you already eat low amounts of salt, that last one is actually dangerous

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If she’s telling you that she didn’t communicate, then the advice she needs is “communicate clearly”

[egan3141]

1) The problem is she isn't saying what she did or didn't do
2) The original question was why women do this, not what advice to give them
3) While that wasn't the original question, that may be worth noting. Are you saying just reply to these people with "communicate clearly"?

[egan3141]

Oh, and for clarification since we've gone towards there being one person, this isn't aimed at once person. I've seen it numerous times on both this website in and real life

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

1. I don’t care
2. I don’t know, most likely the answer has something to do with shame
3. Yes

[Spencer10]

Maybe because they have been burned by plenty of jerks when they open up? So they hold back.

[egan3141]

So... they want advice, but are scared of being insulted, so they won't give enough info for meaningful advice and they just have an internal battle of wanting advice but not wanting to be insulted?

[CherryLove007]

@Spencer10 because of all the B&B grabs throughout time lol

[Anonymous]

I suppose they like to generalize things... I'd prefer details too, but not everybody thinks like you and me.