Why did she unfriend me?

[Anonymous]

Never met her in real life and added her onto facebook, we've been chatting and flirting. She would leave commetns on my post to get my attetion and such.

She asked if I have a girlfriend I was being honest and said no, as I did break up with my ex. She unfriended me after Valentines Day as she probably sees that my ex posted some photos with me as we spent the day together.

Then she unfriended me. Why would she do that?

[Anonymous]

She probably felt played. You might not be intentionally doing that, but she felt that you are leading her on by saying you broke up withe your ex, then she sees you were spending Valentine's day together. She has no right to interfere who you are dating, but she probably thought you were lying about the break up.

Also she might felt like she made herself a fool if she's been posting a lot on your wall... as others can see her desperation and then boom! you got a valentine and that's not her.

[Asker]

That's for her ego? Sounds like I dodge a bullet, she sounds like the kind of crazy girl that goes if I can't have you, no one else can..

[Opinion Owner]

Not sure about dodging a bullet, but surely saved yourself from some drama.

[Opinion Owner]

As I don't see her being harmful, so I don't count her as a bullet LOL

[Asker]

Yea I hate drama

[lumos]

Because she thinks you and your ex still have something since you spent v-day together. She most likely thinks it would be a waste of time to pursue you if you have all this baggage and if you still have feelings for your ex.
That's how I would interpret the situation as well if I saw a guy I liked hang out with his ex on v-day.

[Asker]

yes Im still dating my ex, the whole point is I've never told her I'm interested in dating her. When we became friends I did break up with my ex, but im not oblige to report every waking moment with my ex to anyone.

[lumos]

Of course. But she's allowed to ditch you if she thinks you're not worth it. She doesn't want to compete with anyone it seems. It was a very intelligent decision on her part in my opinion, I wouldn't want to try to date someone who's still not over their ex. She didn't want to be friends with you, clearly wanted more, but now you've essentially showed her that she would have to compete with someone else. And she doesn't want that. Or she thinks you're a cheater. Either way it doesn't seem like she wants you in her life anymore, hence she unfriended you altogether.

[Asker]

Fair point, I don't need her in my life either. I'm friendly and I didn't lead her on.

[Dragon09]

I think you've answered your own question.

She's seen your pics, figures you too are giving it another go and she doesn't want to be anyone's second choice.
But that's just how I read it from the info you've provided.

[Asker]

I've never told her I like her more than just a friend. it kinda is her issue to take it the wrong way. Even if I'm giving it another go with my ex, she didn't have to unfreind me. I wouldn't care if she is dating other guys, i woudln't unfriend anyone just for that shit

[Dragon09]

But that's what guys do (or rather don't do).

I would suggest she's into and is trying to distance herself from potential embarrassment or pain. For example, she may have had the 'I really dig this guy I met on FB' conversation with her bestie and not feels like an idiot.
It wasn't your intention necessarily but feelings are feelings and you can't trust other people's.

Just my 2 cents worth though.

[Asker]

I hear you bro, I don't have any of her friends on my facebook. If there's any embarrassment she brought it to herself.

[IceEverest]

She thought you are a liar for saying that you dont have a girlfriend. But later she finds pics of you with your ex. Then unfriends you.

[Asker]

Probably, she could have asked. People who jumps into conclusions are impulsive, they often have bad temper. I don't need friends like that.

[fauchelevent]

I think you already know why she unfriended you. She probably either thought you were lying about the break up and were cheating, oooor she thought you and your ex were trying again and she wasn't prepared to be involved in either of those situations.

[Asker]

I've never unfriend a girl just becuase she is dating someone else, it's not my business. I can't see why she has to unfeind me

[fauchelevent]

Probably because she wanted to be with you. If she wants to be with you (which I assume she did going by flirting with you, commenting to get your attention and asking about your relationship status), then she obviously doesn't want to be friends with the guy who she likes but who she also thinks is lying to her. If she just thought you and your ex were trying again, she might just not want to complicate the situation for you.

[Asker]

Possibly

[Poppykate]

This one is really simple!. She unfriended you because she thought you lied!. no one wants to be friends with someone who is openly dishonest. Next!

[Asker]

her problem for jumping into conclusion.

[Poppykate]

It seems like it is playing on your mind.

[Asker]

it's not her I care about, I'm curious why people have to be so petty about it. If anything she should be happy for a friend

[Poppykate]

I am not sure. It is her you need to ask. Maybe she knew that you got back with your ex and gave you the space you needed to make it work. I am not sure. By the by, you seem so angry and bitter. Is this normal?

[Asker]

I'm not angry or bitter, you are only listening to what you want to listen. I'm done.