Why won't my cat let me headbutt her?

[Anonymous]

She is a nice cat. But she is a bit of a loner. She likes to get under the bed, in the closet, or in a space behind the wall sometimes so I assume she likes her alone time. But sometimes she comes and looks me directly in the eye and meows, which I always interpret to mean "pet me" or "feed me" as one or both usually do the trick. But I heard somewhere if you headbutt a cat gently its a way of showing them you love them, so I tried to headbtt her but she always turns her head away. And I also tried to look her in the eye and she turned her head again. I thought it had something to do with her personality but maybe she doesn't like me?

[BellePepper]

You have horrible cat body language. Like really really horrid.

Stop trying to headbutt your cat. I live with two really loving cats and they never do that. Some cats MAY like to do that, but it sounds like your cat doesn't. Stop being horrible to her and making her do things she's obviously not comfortable with.

Your cat looking at you and meowing just mean she wants SOME sort of attention. It could be she wants attention, treats, play time, or thinks it's dinner time. Obviously if it's not meal time then you can eliminate food from the equation.

Staring at cats in the eye does not show love. It shows dominance. Unless your cat is misbehaving don't do that. Instead look in her direction and then do sllllllloooooow blinks. That shows your cat you trust her enough to close your eyes around her.

All of this is making your cat insecure and that's why she always wants to hide. I don't know where you're getting your information from, but stop it.

[lexythelou22]

Looking a cat in the eye isn't good, it's a show of dominance, a threat. Dogs are the ones who like eye contact. I've never heard of headbutting though

[lanternhill]

I've never heard that. Try petting her behind and under the ears/jaw or right behind her head - my cat loved to be scratched (lightly) there.

[fueledbythc]

You have to be dominant on your cat. Also just feed and clean after her. Let your cat come to you. I used to be the same and just annoy the hell out of my cats when I was like 12 and now they are old and I let them come to me and they show me so much affection. They are attention starved as nobody is home a lot these days and always meow at me so I'll give them attention. Because of being aloof to my cats, one of them now always sleeps with me at night. Cats want what they can't get.

[Asker]

My cat sleeps in the same bed as me and I usually give her her space. In the morning she will climb on top of me while I'm asleep and start purring or meowing at me. But sometimes I do just grab her and place her next to me, which she doesn't like. And also I just pet her whenever she is near enough or if I just so happen to walk past her, which is basically a lot of times. So I never really let her come to me for affection. But I'm glad you let me know now I can let her come to me more

[Asker]

Lol that didn't sound good gjt she sleeps in the same bed as me SOMETIMES. Like two or three times a week

[raio81597]

Yeah that may be the case, my cat heads butts me all the time. Perhaps treat her like a cat don't chase her and let her come to you more. I treat my cat like an introvert and he's very affectionate but still temperamental, he knocks cups off tables and bites when he wants a snack.

[Phoenix98]

You don't headbutt a cat you rub against their cheeks with your own cheeks or let them do it to you first then do it, you can give them kitten kisses as well which is were you look into their eyes and slowly close them and slowly open them again, for cats that's a sign of affection. If a cat is comfortable with you and or trusts you they'll show their stomach to you, which means great trust, in the wild if cats show their bellies it's a sign of trust and vulnerability.

Cats aren't like dogs though with cats you have to work for it and earn it but once you do cats are far more affectionate in a more deep way then dogs are.

[Crazeynate]

I had a bad ass exotic cat, a African serval which is the closest living relative to a chetah. She was a little over 45lbs and loved to head butt. Aww she was so cool compared to some of my past domestic stuck up bitch cats. Sometimes you just get stuck with a bitch face cat.

[Yanoa_Yanza]

Oh, I did that like a few days ago once
He was sleeping, but awake. I was thinking "The cat headbutts me to show me he cares, so I guess it means the same if I were to do it"
And I did, and he actually lifted its head to headbutt back :)

[justbanANNAz]

because cats are bitches, i keep telling u guys this!

[Phoenix98]

Well it's not true ! -_-.

[justbanANNAz]

@Phoenix98 -.- you don't know what she does behind your back!

[Phoenix98]

Well don't let me sit here in anticipation you silly banana tell me!

[justbanANNAz]

@Phoenix98 NO SHE'LL KILL ME IF I DO!

[Phoenix98]

O no she won't, besides you know I'd never let anything happen to ya. If I did who'd make my life more interesting?

Come on now spill!

[justbanANNAz]

@Phoenix98 sorry, i need to stay alive. i have many things i want to accomplish.

[Phoenix98]

Hah you and me both, alright fair enough. It hurts me right in the feelz though that you don't trust my capabilities * points to stomach*... ah wait no that's just hunger never mind time for ice cream!!

[Tarvold]

Your cat doesn't like you.

Cats don't meow at people they like. They purr and headbutt you constantly.

[singlebee]

Hmm your cat doesn't love you... you should dump her immediately... Before she dumps you!! Looks like she fell out of love... :-D

[Anonymous]

No, that doesn't necessarily mean your cat doesn't like you. She was probably a little irritated while you did that.

[blondfrog]

Wow mine won't let me pick her up unless i feed her lol.

[Anonymous]

Who ever told you that is retarded the only resion cats rub there head on you is to mark you as there property with there sent glands

[SunnyCaliGirl]

That actually sounds rather mean

[Anonymous]

Yeah she clearly doesn't like you 😂

[jakeofalltrades]

some cats don't like that